of power in accepting it. you know, i started to think, when i started writing this book, carol, first of all, every seven and a half seconds, an american turns 50. oh, wow. that s weird when you put it that way. yeah. they call it the graying of america. of course some of us are not going that way. we don t know how gray we are. i m just not embracing that. i m not either. i m not ready for that. i m not either. actually, we have a choice, and i m making a choice not to go gray, but i am accepting that number, because i sort of feel like there s something empowering about embracing that number. when you re 50, if you say to yourself, 50 is the new 40, everyone who s 40 when you re 50 doesn t think you re the same ab age as them. they don t accept that. unless you have a lot of tattoos and piercings, you re not fooling anyone. and tattoos and piercings at