Btw asking someone you don’t know (well)who has an ethnic name if you can call them a “nickname” is not a term of endearment it’s a micro aggression & you don’t have the right to say there is no malicious/sinister intent you just don’t do it
I thought that was just common sense
This has continued to happen throughout my life on name badges, work contracts, invitations, and even awards. Much like Thandiwe Newton, the ‘nickname’ I go by, Merry, was not one I initially agreed to. ‘Merry’ was assigned to me originally by a music tutor who saw my name written down and said: “Not gonna try with that one. How about ‘Merry’?” Lucky for them, I was a big