Look her in the eye right now. And . Dr. Phil tell her holly what you want former look her in the eye dont look away. I want my sister back. I want a role model again. Because its gone. I want to be proud to be your younger sister and not to be scared to take you places or what youre going to say to people. But i want you to love yourself. Like you did. Dr. Phil what do you miss about her . Everything. I mean, i look at her and its not my sister anymore. Nothing about her is her. We dont talk anymore like we used to. I dont dr. Phil look at her. I have to look at the napkin to open it. [ laughter ] i dont confide in her. I dont go to her for help anymore because im scared to feel stupid in my decisions. Im scared to tell her if something good goes on in my life, because i know that she has dealt with so much in the past two years i feel guilty if something it going right for me and its not for her. I cant stand up for you and be there for you and have to apologize for you anymore. I cant do it. And i cant be the punching bag. Dr. Phil do you want her in your life. 100 . Dr. Phil because even though you try to be strong, and steal yourself against things, you do get hurt . Yeah. Dr. Phil and isnt it nice to have someone in your life at that time, somebody you can depend on . Yes. Dr. Phil did it hurt when you lost your grandfather . Yeah. Dr. Phil why . Because he was my role model. You hit a soft spot dr. Phil. Dr. Phil did he believe in you . Yes 100 . 100 with everything i wanted to do. Dr. Phil so you knew every day you woke up there was somebody in this world that thought you were special. Yeah. Dr. Phil somebody in this world that believed in you. Yeah. Dr. Phil so you your gifts and talents and everything about you and then hes gone. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Phew. Dr. Phil what did he want for you in your life . Probably just to enjoy it and have fun. He was always about having fun and not really listening too much to other people. Dr. Phil how long ago did you lose him . When i was 13, 14, ten years ago. Dr. Phil still think about him . Every day. Dr. Phil you dont want to lose her, too . No. Dr. Phil do you love her . Absolutely. With all my heart. Dr. Phil do you care that you hurt her . Absolutely. Dr. Phil but you dont care enough to stop it . I dont know how to stop it. I do apologize because i do feel bad. But i dont know how to stop it. Dr. Phil well be right back. Dr. Phil here did you know that more than 16 million kids in the u. S. Are at risk of hunger each day . Thats more than 1 in 5 children now these are our neighbors and our kids that play in the neighborhood and coworkers and friends children, the problem is closer than you would think. But so is the solution. Join me and visit feedin feedingamerica. Org hunger to find your local food bank to help hi, im terry and i have diabetic nerve pain. 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Those who have had a drug or alcohol problem may be more likely to misuse lyrica. Ask your doctor about lyrica today. Its specific treatment for diabetic nerve pain. At famous footwear, we believe victory isut lyrica today. More time loving the reaction and less time shopping for it. Madden girl, nike and more at famous footwear. Victory is yours. Even when you dont youhave time for a breakreak with kit kat minis. Poppable, bites mized tinis hatlet you make break time iman. Were going to be in the Los Angeles Area go to dr. Phil. Com be in audience ens dr. Phil i have a belief and ive said this before, that i think when people show anger, and hostility, and aggressiveness, that its really just an outward manifesttation of hurt, fear and frustration but thats really what is going on isnt it . That im hurt . Yes. Dr. Phil scared and frustrated. Yes. Dr. Phil you cant change what happened and theres no way to make it fair. Theres no way to make it fair. And not even god can change what has happened. But you can change what is happening. Right. Dr. Phil and thats what you want to do, right . Youre totally prepared completely to forgive her for anything to ask for forgiveness for anything. Youre ready to totally ready to wipe the slate clean . If shes willing to she will. Dr. Phil shes telling you she wants to and doesnt know how i dont know how not to be reactive and how to not be explosive and i dont know how. Its like somebody that has a really bad suburb burn and you come up and slap them on the back. Its not the slap that makes them craneth its that their already burned. September that what is happening with you . Yes. Dr. Phil like you have a terrible sunburn your psychological skin is burned. Yes. Dr. Phil and doesnt take much to grade oh, geez, whether its traffic, or somebody saying something stupid or somebody not ak tentative or whatever it is, and so you got to heal the skin. Because you know how to be nice. I do. Dr. Phil and you know how to control yourself . Yes. Dr. Phil youve been very controlled here today. With me. I guess so. Dr. Phil and ive asked you questions that you would rather not talk about. But you talked about it because you really want to change things. Yes. Dr. Phil but first you have to heal whats happening inside and it is too much for you to deal with. It takes professional help. And i am prepared to bring that to you. Im prepared to offer that to you just as a gift from us to you. Privately, quietly, in your own place and time, to figure out what you have to do to let go of the anger. Will you accept that gift . Yes. Dr. Phil i want to bring you that help. Because i think you deserve that help. And i think [ applause ] she deserves to have her sister back. Thank you. Dr. Phil will you give it a shot . Ill give it a shot. Dr. Phil how did i come out of this so far. Do you want the truth . Dr. Phil yes. I think ive heard a lot of the things youve said before. Dr. Phil uhhuh. And i heard it from other people and research and im not saying you are smart, but. Dr. Phil do i get a c you. Get like a b. Dr. Phil a b . Yeah, because [ applause ] and i say that because you made a very valid point that i hope that my sister will be able to understand about the sunburn. Dr. Phil uhhuh. I think thats a very serious and honest opinion. And youre really right on for that. [ applause ]. Dr. Phil can i just get a b and i just get a b . Yes. Dr. Phil we havent even been here an hour. I know. Dr. Phil i think we made quite a bit of progress in an hour. I wouldnt argue your grade with me. Dr. Phil yeah. Yeah. It could go down . It could go either way. Dr. Phil not not going to give you you a grade. Im not going to give you a grade. Im going to give you a big push in the right direction. And i think i know whats going to happen and i hope when it sdu pay it forward. Thank you. Dr. Phil i hope you pay it forward . Okay. All right. Well be right back. Uhhuh. [ applause ] stop justifying your inactivity and aborting the challenge of change for help Getting Started go to dr. Dr. Phil. Com for 11 seasons of advice, articles and exclusive videos you wont find anywhere else and plus this is help resources page and find out from the dr. Phil community to share your story and find if you have high Blood Pressure like i do, many cold medicines may raise your Blood Pressure. Coricidin hbp relieves cold symptoms without raising Blood Pressure. Coricidin hbp. Shows, log on today. Dr. Phil joining us is kristin hays kristin is a representative from four circles Recovery Center, which is an innovative willederness based Treatment Program for males and females ages 18 to 2. 8 these are folks with Mental Health issues and Substance Abuse and all types of things of that nature. I sent andrea back stage i deposit let her stay i said i want you to go back stage i told her if she was getting up i wont wait a week or month i want to get you help today. And the help that i had in mind for her is with kristin and her great organization. Youve had a chance to visit with andrea. What did she have to say . We presented the treatment opportunity for her and told her about four circles Recovery Center it is a great blend of traditional therapy with willederness therapy and she accepted. [ applause ]. Dr. Phil okay. [ applause ]. Dr. Phil so, my plan, and i want to be very clear about this, is andrea needs help because she is wounded. And this is something that i think shes been living with for a long, long time. So, if this is ever going to be dealt with shes going to have to have the courage to do that. And so, you guys are willing to take her into the program, get her focused on the issues that she needs to to get this anger out, and move forward. And thats the plan right . Definitely. Four circles will give her the opportunity to focus on herself and learn toolingz for communication and relationship skills with her cysts erin beyond and shell be able to take those skills and use them for the rest of her life and yes its a great time for her to focus on herself and get that oneonone counseling and in a private environment and we expect her to do very well. [ applause ]. Dr. Phil all right. Well be real interested to keep an ion exactly how this all goes. All right. We spoke about the issue of bullying today. If you are being bullied no matter how old you are, child, teen or elderly adult, there is support log ton to drphil. Com and well have a list of every resource for every group that we think can be of help to you. And i want to thank all of my guests today and, of course, special thank to kristin hays and four circles Recovery CenterWhose Program puts a complete emphasis on the four circles of recovery. Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. 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Chinese military jets fly into the disputed airspace over the east china sea. Captioning funded by cbs this is the cbs morning news for friday, november 29th, 2013. Good morning. Good to be with you. Im annemarie green. Well, the days of seeing Holiday Shoppers lined up in the wee hours of black friday appear to be coming to an end. At least a dozen