the one according to "people" magazine, bradley cooper. i certainly can't complain about that choice. how about you? >> no. he's 36. he's single. he's sort of been paired up with a lot of people. with renee zellweger for a while. was he with j. lo? >> apparently not. he says the two women in his life are his mother and his doggy. those two relationships are going to last, you know? >> he's sexy. there's something sexy about a man speaking a foreign language. >> he's intelligent. let's watch him speak. [ speaking in foreign language ] >> keep talking, honey. >> i heard las vegas. >> las vegas is the same in french. >> i know. that's what i heard. anyway, congrats to him. one of our sexy guys who we like a lot, jimmy fallon. jimmy fallon, this is green is universal week. jimmy fallon decided to poke a little fun at that. he was giving us basically the pros and cons of green week. let's listen. >> and, finally, pro of the recycling bins at nbc are already filled with hundreds of bottles. from kathie lee and hoda this morning. >> you know what? the man's right. cheers. >> here's to winesday. >> all right. okay. we talked the other day about losing your car, forgetting where you've left it. it happens to a lot of people. we heard about you. we heard from you, too. right? >> exactly. people had different suggestions on how to track your car down. whether it's at the mall, you park it on the street or like this guy we talked about after the marathon that couldn't find his car. jean ellis suggests -- >> she was the first one. quite a few suggested this. >> she says take a picture with your cell phone. >> your iphone, hodie. >> your iphone and then mark it. so you know, ha! there it is. >> exactly. >> here's the funny thing. i'm learning more. now i'm using my iphone like crazy. >> yeah, i know. >> i'm getting dumber and dumber. >> imagine that. >> the iphone does everything. >> everything! >> it knows every number. it can tell you the -- you don't have to remember anything. you can ask it to do things like i can see that as we keep using technology, you really don't have to think. i cannot -- i only know, like, five phone numbers by heart. if i lost my phone, i wouldn't have anyone's phone number. i used to know when i was a kid -- >> and addresses and zip codes and everything else. >> i know zero now. i feel a little bit weird. if i lose it -- >> that's the trouble. when these things crash. i feel good. i'm tech free. and clear. you know what feels good? really good. we said this would happen. justin bieber's baby case has been dropped. the paternity suit has been dropped, quietly, they say, dismissed. >> remember, though, he said i'll take that paternity test as required by law. he, of course, said he had never met the woman or didn't know who she was. he said when i pass it and it's not me, i'm going to sue you. >> right. >> and so then this woman who accused him of this withdrew her case. so there. it's withdrawn. >> i'm delighted. i'm delighted. and i doubt he'll sue her further. >> i think he wants it -- he probably just wants the thing over with. >> it certainly would have sent a nice -- a nice message to would be people out there that want to cash in on somebody who's vulnerable. we think these people have everything in the world, right? they're incredibly vulnerable to these kinds of suits. and attacks. >> miley cyrus is in the news. you know what's funny? she's 18 years old and she's curvy, okay. i guess you would call her curvy. i think she's thin. i can't even tell the definition. >> i haven't seen a recent picture of her. i think she looks beautiful. >> she's 18. some people are criticizing her for being -- >> look at her. she looks fantastic. >> aren't you tired of people who are always looking and poking and saying, you know, talking about weight. i get sick of it. i really get sick of it. >> here's the thing. she pretty much said this. by calling girls like me fat, this is what you're doing to other people. she showed a picture of an extremely emaciated young girl. she said, i love myself. if you could say the same thing you wouldn't be sitting anonymously behind a computer saying mean, nasty things, trying to hurt other people. that's exactly right. the people who do the hating are the people with the problem. >> i agree. >> look at yourself. if you're hiding there because your life is miserable and the only way you can feel better about your miserable life is to put other people down, you know -- >> get over it. i agree 100%. >> or have the guts to put your name on it and say where you are and who you are so that, you know, don't be a coward as well as a creep. >> that's true. i don't think that the computers -- some people say the anonymity makes you more honest. i don't think that that's the case at all. >> no. it emboldens you to be what you really are. >> yes. cruel and mean. >> right. >> welcome to our program. >> let's not say bye-bye to brad pitt. we also said this. he's saying he didn't necessarily put an expiration date on his acting career. >> yesterday he did that thing on "60 minutes" australia. they asked him about his acting career. according to them he said at 50 i'm done acting. >> go on to produce. >> now he's saying that wasn't what i meant. i meant i'm -- he's going to pursue other things. >> you know, he doesn't do just one thing. he's always been interested in other things. architecture and different -- he's certainly done a lot of good in this world as well. you know, i think you can sense when you're an artist or you're a creative person what -- what feeds you and what's down the line for you. >> sure. i'm just thinking about this movie i saw yesterday with meryl streep. it's called "the iron lady." it's about margaret thatcher. and she is so genius in this -- >> meryl streep. what else is new? >> she plays a young margaret thatcher and an older one. the way she transforms herself, you always believe her in everything. >> she embodies every single character. >> it's not like clooney. it's true. when you see clooney you know it's george clooney playing a person. when you see meryl streep, you think she's julia childs or margaret thatcher. >> she's always been my favorite. i remember going, oh, my gosh. she's just -- i love the question james lipton asked her on "the actor's studio." he said all this talent, this genius, where does it come from? meryl looks at him and goes, new jersey? that makes you love her, too. she's very modest about the incredible gift she has. >> if you are traveling, and you may be because it's the holiday time, would you rather have the airline lose your luggage indefinitely, or would you rather have your flight delayed for hours, maybe even 12 hours so you may even miss the event. >> you let us know what you think. i mean, the word indefinitely is kind of scary. and it all depends on what's in your luggage. and where you're going. whether you can get what you need once you get there. >> i was flying from orlando where we were to boca. >> not a long trip. >> just a quick flight. i put the stuff, gave it to the guy. watched him put it on to the conveyor belt. i get off the plane. i don't see my bag. 25 people don't get their bags. they say we've lost 25 bags. please come to the baggage line and fill out the forms. i get in the line. i'm going to fill out the forms. it takes forever. when you get there, she says, what's the color of your bag. red. a wheelie? yes. three items that are in it. i said gold shoes with straps. what size? i was like this. there are 25 people who are -- who have had it. you know what i mean? i understand, they have to make sure that someone's not taking your bag. but -- >> your name is on your bag or else they don't let you check it to begin with. second, you just didn't want her to know your shoe size. come on. right? you know, that's a personal question. >> they're 7s. so there. 9 1/2. she goes, 9 1/2. okay. 9 1/2. what about a dress? it's red. what color. what's with it. >> it's crazy. >> i know. you said they were selling seats a whole lot more now, too, right? i don't know. it's hard to believe their losing as much money as they say they're losing. they're going to charge you per peanut from now on. >> i think i'd rather lose my luggage, i think. it depends. i don't usually travel with too much stuff. i was bummed. we had an event that night and my clothes were in it, so we skipped it. >> when you get to be my age, you don't care about things as much as time. you can never have time back. get another pair of shoes. i'll always go with time. >> all right. >> that was so depressing. all right. it is green is universal winesday. we are drinking wnb wine. white wine from argentina. >> i did try it. it's like a box wine. a little mini box wine. >> it's very nice. okay. >> mmm. yeah. do you like it? not for you? >> no. but we're very grateful they're doing it, making it green. sorry. i'm never going to lie to the folks. >> you do always tell the truth. it's thanksgiving. time to be thankful. >> we want to know what you're thankful for. >> i bet you're reading good ones. >> the one thing i have to say, our contest ends today at 2:00. it's important if you want to be part of it you go there today. you have to like the facebook page first. and then select the graphic "being thankful today." posting it on the wall does not make you an official -- it's not an official submission as much as we love reading it. but you -- let's see. let's make sure we hit all these important points. more than 10,000 of you have already entered. go on there and you're going to win -- oh, gosh. >> can we get back to you on that? you're probably going to have vip seating and breakfast for four, maybe. >> breakfast for four. yep. the thanksgiving day parade by time warner. >> two food, fashion and fun shopping packages provided by time warner center is what we've heard. >> you're going to take it from here, ladies. i'm so thankful for both of you. >> thank you, sweetheart. >> all right. it is time to talk "twilight," you guys. we have actor jackson rathbone. he's in the house. >> yep. later, out of 700 pairs, we've got this season's best jeans for your body. but first these messages. they're called twihard fans and they've been anxiously awaiting friday's opening of the fourth installment of the series. >> they'll be thrilled to know heartthrob jackson rathbone is back. jasper hale in the "twilight" saga, "breaking dawn part 1." quite the roller coaster ride the last four years, huh? >> it's been crazy. amazing. we're doing another gig. getting to play vampires. it's always fun, right? it just kind of blew up. >> you hadn't read the book so you hadn't been a fan or had you? >> i read the book in preparation for the audition. i was always reading -- it was amazing. yeah. no, the books are incredible. they brought people together around the world. mothers and daughters. it's exciting. >> the end of anything is always sad. i can't imagine what it was like shooting the last scene with you and the whole cast. what was that like? >> luckily for us, we were doing a scene where the whole family was together. it was the wedding reception. >> yeah, sure. >> it was lovely. we just did -- ashley greene and i did our little dance number together. it was about 3:00 a.m. in the morning when they finally called picture wrap. we all kind of looked at each other. i can't believe this is it. one of the last moments. >> you shot both movies during one time period, right? >> that's correct. parts 1 and 2 at the same time. >> you're goods friends outside of the shooting schedule, the group? >> we're all good friends. we grew up together as young actors. >> wolves and vampires that grow up together have a tendency to stay close. >> stay close at night. we're not in the sun too much. >> your character struggles with wanting to be a vampire of -- how would you describe him? he wants to be a good vampire. >> a good vampire. you know, a vampire who doesn't attack humans anymore. >> he doesn't permanently suck people's blood. he wants to just keep it about animals, right? >> exactly. kind of like the vegetarian vampire. >> vegan. >> vampire vegan. which means they only eat animals. peta doesn't like it. it's good. it's an interesting take on the modern vampire. >> it's fun watching your fans. we've been watching them camp out for days. i'm wondering, i can't remember a film where people camped out for as many days as they have for you guys. your fans really are unique, huh? >> they're amazing. honestly, without their love and their passion we wouldn't have been able to do this entire series, saga. it's because of their love and support that i get to be here today. >> you loved them back. you went out there while they were all camped out and served a little breakfast and took care of them? >> i was trying up eggs, serving bacon. no. we partnered with the corner bakery. they did some breakfast. we went out and did some signings. saw all the fans face to face. that's what's important to me. when i get to travel with my band or through the press corps, i get to see the fans. i love that immediate gratification of just kind of seeing the smiles on their faces. that's why i became an artist. >> you didn't really choose it. it sort of chose you, right? you were -- your sisters were involved in theater. >> that's right, yeah. my sisters were doing theater. i was having trouble making friends when i first moved to texas. i've been moving around my entire life every year and a half or so. then my sisters were doing theater. and my parents were like, oh, why don't you go join up? >> at first you were behind the scenes. >> i was. i built sets. i started off, my dad's an engineer. we used to build a lot of things together. >> the magic started wearing off. you saw the actors were getting the girls. >> exactly. i did it all for the ladies. what can i say? the first reason i picked up a guitar, same thing. >> your band is 100 monkeys. you mentioned that. >> why not 99? why 100? >> it's going to be an idea of the selective consciousness. we're all connected on a universal level. >> he's too smart for us. >> you're too smart for me. come on. >> thanks for coming to see us. >> we wish you all the best. you don't need it. it's going to be a huge, huge, huge, success. >> i love wishes of success. thank you. >> in case you've been living under a rock, again, "twilight saga: breaking dawn part 1" opens midnight thursday. we'll talk tomorrow to another one of the film's stars. up next, if you're in need of a chuckle, "what the what?" is coming up right after this. 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>> this is our paige. it's a skinny. it's $158. every celebrity loves this jean. it's fantastic. it's really easy to wear. it's very versatile. it's soft. >> it is soft, hoda. >> gwen stefani loves these jeans. we've seen them on everybody. >> they're very thin. they're not a thick jean. >> exactly. >> what about the ones you've got next to her. >> these jeans are from j. brand. j. brand is a celeb fave brand. these jeans have the it factor. this is the classic for $200. beyonce to katie holmes to heidi klum, all the celebs go to j. brand. >> let's get affordable. 50 bucks. come on, mia. tell us about these. >> these are from american eagle outfitters. $49.50. this is just -- it's a great jean. it looks like a jean you've had in the closet. it's a vintage flare. it has that worn in look. it's a sturdy fabric. it's just -- it's a great jean for that price point. >> let's go for under $100. let's see what carly's wearing. >> dkny. avenue b skinny moto jean for $79. i love all the detail you get for this price. motocross details on the leg. a darker wash. wear it to work. dress it up. an amazing jean for the price point. >> nice, carly. thank you. all right. our sexiest jean is worn by lauren. tell us about these jeans. >> this is from the gap, a 1969 skinny five-pocket jean. this is about $70. and the pocket placement as well as the dark wash make it a great jean for dressing up. we found that a lot of people feel their sexiest in this kind of jean style, a skinny jean. this is a great choice. >> you have to be really thin, though. >> you do. >> you know what, though? the placement of these pockets actually -- >> she's got a beautiful, tiny, little figure. >> it's beautiful. it's sexy. it's dark. it's flattering. it's really a good jean. >> i could get one leg in the whole thing. >> let's start our body shaping category. we have caroline. >> this is the dennison from levi. this jean is about $27. >> what? >> there's technology where it lifts your butt. it pulls in your stomach. this is a fantastic jean for body shaping. >> cool. i like that. >> terrific. spanx built in. >> a boot cut jean, more flattering in general. >> for plus size we have bernadette. >> we love these. this are from not your daughter's jeans. janice legging. it's $98. this jean has that same effect of accommodating curves, lifting the butt, slimming the tummy and creating a nice, long leg. >> thanks, hon. lastly, our petite category. we have nicole. >> these are from old navy. nicole. these are about $35 from old navy. this is a great jean. this is a rock star jegging. when you're petite, you always -- a more tailored jean is what works for someone that's petite. this has a shorter inseam. you won't have to take this and have them shortened. >> let's bring everybody out. >> thanks for doing all the work. >> i feel so excited. the very first annual denim awards! >> thank you for having us! coming up next, making your blended family work for everybody. >> drink up if you might need it. the great thanksgiving day wines. sorry, aldo. right after this. good morning. walking you through your seven-day forecast and more rain is in store here across the east coast for today, especially in the afternoon. we could certainly see more air delays as we saw yesterday, down into the southeast, quieting down with the exception of florida, dry in the middle of the country and here's our winter storm moving out of the pacific northwest and into the northern plains. look at this wedge of colder air in blue. we have the milder temperatures to the south and even in atlanta, dropping to 56. 50 in billings. cold air spilling in with that snow there across the northwest, as well. friday, snow showers push further to the east. overall, we have a beautiful day, drying out from the rockies all the way into the northeast. we're getting into some busy travel days, so we'll talk about the weather here over the weekend in a home. 25 in billings. notice that cold air wedging in out of alaska, bitter cold starting to move through. by saturday, we have a big system which will impact travel. 36 minneapolis, snow and wind stretching in through here on the milder side. it a es going to be rain around the lakes in oklahoma. dry for the northeast until sunday. we could see thunderstorms in here, substantial rain all the way down into texas. obviously we need the rain in texas. this stretches through again on monday. so very similar to what we just had this week. this will be wetting up the roads sunday through tuesday. new york city, you'll get the rain by tuesday as well. it does look good for thanksgiving. look at this rain back into texas. new mexico, you'll see the showers, as well. as you head into your holiday travel, be safe and check in with the weather channel. 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"today's mom" is brought to you by have you tried this yet from p & g. time for "today's mom" and balancing your blended family. as wonderful as it is to have found love, that second or third or fourth or fifth time around, the layers of a step-family can seem particularly stressful at times. >> dana points is the editor and chief of "parents" magazine. michelle callahan is psychologist, marriage expert and author of "ms. typed." that is true. when you bring -- it's nice to fall in love again. you bring kids into the mix. >> sometimes they're not so happy for you. >> you've got sibling squabbles, separation issues. the good thing is you probably both have a little relationship experience. you can get through this, you know. >> one of the things that comes up a lot, specially when you have kids from two different families is disciplining your husband's children. >> the ones you don't own. >> you make that decision, you just make that obviously ahead of time, yeah? >> what we found is it actually works better if you don't put the step-parent in the role of disciplinarian right away. let the biological parent take the lead. you also want to have a conversation about what are the things you agree about how they're going to be disciplined, what's right, what's wrong. you are blending kids from different families. now they've got three, maybe four different parental figures. you've got to have an understanding of what the rules are. >> they're going to push your buttons, too, aren't they? they know what your vulnerable -- >> they try to pit parents against each other if they can. if they want something. they do that in biological families. you know they'll take advantage in step-families. >> kids like consistency. when you have a blended family sometimes you're spending part of the week at one parent's house. the other part at -- >> that's tough for kids. >> there are different times. >> we talk a lot about the importance of consistency. across two households it's less important. what's really important is that in your household, they know that these are your rules. so, for example, when you go to your dad's house bedtime might be this. when you're in this house bedtime is 8:00. >> tell your ex-husband, look, why continue don't you try to -- >> i think you really want to pick your battles there. don't try to have uniform rules across both households. pick a few things that are really important to you. maybe it's bedtime. maybe it's supper time. really come with your ex as a collaborator. don't sort of, you know -- >> what if one of the kids is trying to sabotage your relationship with your husband? that could happen. >> that does happen. >> a child doesn't like -- >> i would say it happens but not until the kids are older. i don't know if you would agree. i would say under the age of 10, kids don't think like that. you know, they might think about i want more time with my daddy because i had this time before this new mommy came on the scene. but they're not devious that way. >> they use the biological -- their other parent to help them do that. that's where that comes from. if you're a little kid, you complain to your parent at home. and they go and help manipulate the other parent to get what you want from them. >> you need to give them that time with each, you know, parent. >> that means you have to increase the communication between you and the other biological parent to say, hey, listen, the kid's trying to get between the two of us biological parents, trying to play games between me and my current spouse or you and your current spouse. let's try to all get on the same page. which is really difficult. as you were saying, people have different rules in their home. they have different ideas about how to parent. it's very challenging. >> especially during the holidays when everybody's sitting around the table together. you know what i mean? >> one more reason to stay in the marriage you're already in. try to make that one work. there's an idea. time for a little wine. >> up next, aldo is here with picks for thanksgiving day dinner. first, this is "today" on nbc. as you plan your thanksgiving day dinner, there is no time like right now to think about the perfect wine pairing. >> chef aldo -- >> like another language. >> is here with five wines that will complement your savory turkey, stuffing and gravy. aldo, how are you? >> great. >> we're beginning with a little bubbly. >> always a good time for champagne. especially thanksgiving. i brought a half bottle. >> why did you do that? >> why? you can romantically start in the morning. enjoy yourself a little bit. >> you're a romantic kind of guy? >> isn't that fun? >> yeah. love our aldo. >> especially on thanksgiving. >> that is nice. >> very sweet. >> champagne. fresh fruit. i continue here with a burgundy. it's a chardonnay. french. you have a freshness, elegance. the oak is present, but integrated. >> i don't like a huge oaky taste. we'll give it a shot. >> is this with turkey dinner? >> i picked dinner for me, as a foreigner, i had to ask a lot of friends, how do you celebrate thanksgiving and what do you eat with it? it's all about the food, basically. everybody gave me the same answer. you need wines with a freshness that are not going to overpower the turkey. that's fresh. keeps you drinking. >> perfect. >> we need that. what's this? >> i moved on with actually a chardonnay from california. >> i can't see the name of that. ghandi? >> sandi. >> related to ghandi. we can't see the labels. >> it has a freshness, an elegance. california is always warmer. you have issues getting a fresh acidity. this one has it. it has an elegance. oak is present but super integrated. red wine can be appealing. i picked one from sicily. frappato. normally you read very often pinto noir with turkey. they have a lightness, elegance, and you can sip all day without getting tired. >> really? >> totally. sip that all the time. look at italians in sicily. >> they are happy people. >> really happy. >> i moved on with another one. moulin a vent. >> you've got the world's greatest job. >> i get paid for drinking. >> that's nice. >> so does steven burk. >> you feel a bit more richness, elegance. you have also some elegance with it. all those wines actually support all the stuff, the gravy and the turkey. >> aldo, thank you so much. >> are you going to be there thanksgiving day? >> oh, yes. tomorrow, everybody, "twilight's" ashley greene with us. >> she's beautiful. plus, our guys tell all. we miss those guys. easy thanksgiving day desserts. have an awesome winesday, wednesday, everybody. because tomorrow is thirstday thursday. -- captions by vitac -- www.vitac.com >> announcer: it's "the tonight from "modern family," and "battle of the jaywalk captions by vitac [ cheers and applause ]