Living in the other ones life its up to you because the fact is theres only one shoe the only difference is the point of view if youre looking for love youre going to find it if youre looking for faith youre going to find it if youre looking for hope youre going to find it youll finally find what youre looking for if youre looking for trouble youre going to find it if youre looking for love youre going to find it finally find what youre looking for youll probably find it you cant deny it you had it the whole time if you cant wait to change your mind youre going to find it tonight on nightline, man up. Thats what the new stay at home husbands say theyre doing. Hi, sweetheart. From changing diapers to packing lunch. Theyre in charge of everything except for the bank account. Do you find this sexy . But theres a backlash. Tonight, why its not all happy on the home front. Plus, American Hustlers. Amy adams and Christian Bale on what it took for them to say yes to what turned out to be one of the hottest movies this awards season. And how this bad hair and these low cut dresses just might lead to oscar gold. And big mac. I would like to show you macintosh in person. Many inventions never live to see their 30th birthday. But today, the computer that changed the world turned the big threeoh. The next ones are going to be even better. Good evening. And thanks for joining us. Imagine this men stay at home doing the house work while we women go to work. Forget the backlash over stay at home moms. Now its stay at home dads under fire. Thats right, trophy husbands are ruling the playground as their highpowered wives stake out the corner office. So is dad the new mom . Jake Howard Potter is used to being a fish out of water. What are some of the things you guys do in class . Floating on our back. Hes been a stay at home dad for almost four years. Mommy is that her . I dont think so. We were with him two years ago when his daughter skyler was still in diapers. Today he has his hands full with the new addition, 8monthold lyndon. Its really just amazing to watch and be a part of. Im definitely still enjoying it. Its quite a bit more work than i had anticipated. Its very difficult to be in more than one place at one time. He does everything a mom would do, from swim class to nap time. Night, night take a nap. There are certainly a lot more fathers that are a lot more involved. Because its become much more prevalent in the media, because its been written about more, buzz theres more people doing it, i think its much less weird dad on the play ground with a kid. It wasnt long ago that they were portrayed as bungling mr. Moms. Like the clueless guys from three men and a baby who couldnt figure out how to change a diaper. But todays stay at home dads are geared up and pushing strollers with pride. Like the dudes group from what to expect when youre expecting. In reality, people sort of think of, you know, stay at home dads at the bumbling mr. Mom from the movies. Whether thats a setup by hollywood and then has been reinforced by the public, its certainly something that i considered when i decided to be a stay at home dad. You know, all that being said, i challenge anybody thats sitting in an office for eight hours a day to come try to do what i do with these two kids on daily basis. But its not all play dates and playgrounds. Stay at home fathers can still be a target for ridicule. Just last month, a doting dad uploaded this photo of himself doing his daughters hair. It went viral. Some women swooned. But the haters came out, too. With ugly comments. He probably rented those kids. They dont even look like him. Or i would bet anything that youre a deadbeat. But his simple message was a blog post called i have a dream that people will view a picture like this and not think its a big deal. Tom stockey shares that dream. He took four months off from his job at facebook to care for his newborn daughter. She would find new things to try to eat, new things to try to stick her fingers into. There was dangers loom on all sides. But he was surprised by all the unsolicited comments he got, often snarky, that he got. Stockey vented on facebook about comments slamming moms who work when dads dont. One stranger cracked, its too bad you cant earn as much as your wife so she can be the one to stay home. I think its a traditional gender stereotype that we all buy into to some extent that mommys are better at daddies. Mommys are better at that kind of mommying than daddies. Lisa miller wrote a controversial piece called retro wife where she says women shouldnt feel bad about opting out of their career. This idea that you have to go out as a woman and, you know, be ambitious and be driven and play with the big boys, thats a very specific message for a very specific kind of woman. Most women, and i would venture to say, most people, dont have that kind of ambition. And are never going to make that kind of money. Naen lig and in light of that, what is the harm in deciding to stay home with your children. On the flip side, stay at home dads have to fight the perception that theyre mooching off their whites salary. Most people think im a bum. I should be out there working, why is my wife working, im not working. And im like, i am working. If it was reverse you wouldnt say shes a bum you would say oh, what a great mother she is. Im a great father. For a lot of stay at home dads, it is strictly a number the game. Their wives outowner them. Jake is an artist and his wife is a tax lawyer. Say byebye. We spent the day at her office before baby number two. I can sit and be a lawyer and be very focused and sit at a desk and, you know, im a tax lawyer. So i can look at tax returns and change numbers. This changes this number. This is not the way his mind works. And its very frustrated to him. The women like erica who bring home the bacon are often criticized for not being home with their kids. On this night, she had only 30 minutes of mommy and me time. A lot of women i know, even hardworking, ambitious, out in the work force women hold this idea that unless they make the sandwich, the sandwich isnt as good. Marriages like jake and ericas are still in the minority. Even though the number of athome dads doubled in the past ten years, its still a small number, less than 200,000. Working ma mom beyonce sings around running the world. Who run the world girls she cently weighed in on an editorial on working women. We need to stop buy into the myth about gender equality. It isnt a reality yet. The average working woman earns only 77 of what the average man makes. Men have to demand that their wives, daughters, mothers and sisters earn more. So why are we viewed as less equal . The most stressful thing on a marriage is when people are living roles that they didnt expect. They will find it emasculating if they have an idea of themselves as the knight in shining armor, the breadwinner. But for jake, theres nothing unmanly about being a dad. In some ways, guys who stay home with their kids are actually even more manly. Theyre kind of able to put their egos aside and really do whats necessary to take care of the kids. Makes you rethink things. Coming up next for us, the alist stars of American Hustle give us the real story behind the hottest movie this awards season. The recent increase in cafeteria prices is not cool. When you vote for flo, well have discounts. Icecream discounts. Multicookie discounts. Pizza loyalty discounts [ kids chanting flo ] i also have some great ideas on car insurance. [ silence ] finding you discounts since back in the day. Call or click today. I like her. On expedia you can book any flight, car and hotel together to save even more. Plus, get an extra 100 when you build your custom trip. Expedia, find yours. Woman welcome to learning. Spanish in the car. C on. Passenger youve got to be kidding me. Driver this is good. Woman vamanos. Driver passenger vamanos. Woman gracias. Driver passenger gracias. Passenger trece horas en el carro sin parar y no traes musica. Driver mira entra y comprame unas papitas. Vo get up to 795 miles per tank in the tdi clean diesel. The volkswagen passat. Recipient of the j. D. Power appeal award, two years in a row. You may not think of American Hustle as an underdog. Christian bale kept turning him down. Its more than just the characters who had to hustle. Heres Chris Connelly with our series oscar confidential. People believe what they want to believe. The guy who made this so good that its real to everybody. Hows this for real . More than 100 million earned at the u. S. Box office. Ten Academy Award nominations. Including ones in each of the four acting categories. Proof that American Hustles appeal is no con job. He wasnt necessarily in good shape and he had this comb over that was rather elaborate. For best actor and best actress nomineeshristian bale and amy adams. Their con artists couple secret weapons, the way they get potential marks to fall for a scam is by first telling them no. The key to people is what they believe and what they want to believe. I think that when you say no, it creates allure and it makes people more curious. I think that can happen in relationships as well. The more people push you away, the closer you want to get to them. Can we talk business. Its that taboo. I discovered that working in films as well. When you turn something down, they keep coming back with better offers because they dont really believe you. I was there the whole time. You dont really know it. Y become somebody people can pin their dreams on. Now almost 40, bale initially turned down the chance to play Irving Rosenfeld on the movie based on the scams in the 1970s until bales spouse stepped up for him. I said i dont have the time to do this properly. And my wife got on the phone and she said, he will talk out of everything. Just ignore him. He can do this. Thankfully she was right and i thank you very much for having sorted that out. Weve got to get over on all these guy ps. Adams found herself drawn in by the vision of her character, scripper turned grifter sidney that rus shell shared in their initial meeting. He said i want her to be the smartest person in the room. I want her to be just a survivor, and i really keyed in with that. Youre going to have to decide for yourself, kit. I just laid everything on the table. Strength is so much fun to play for me. Its so much fun to be the person who doesnt care what anybody else thinks because its just so not who i am. Bale cast aside his dark batman silhouette, messed on his hairline and packed on some 50 pounds, thanks to the real life con man who partnered with the fbi to catch dirty politicians. I was greatly inspired seeing members of earl wineberg. Hes a charming figure who sort of waddles. I said i have to pursue, i have to ask for that man. It just became me saying i dont see how to play it without looking that way. Whats the s stand for. For her character so different from lois lane in the man of steal or hers lonely game designer. She decided she would say yes to the dres. I could only dream about these dresses theyre beautiful. And no to pretty much anything beneath it. Daring to bear first urged on her by custom designer michael wilkinson. He was smart. There was a sort of confidence that happens because your posture has to change to keep everything in place. The idea in her mind is if men arent paying attention to the details when theyre distracted, maybe they wont ask as many questions. Adams and bale worked together before on a David Russell film the fighter which bale won a best supporting actor oscar. We didnt have that many scenes together in the fighter but the good thing is weve been through the process with working with david. We know what to expect. The first time i worked with him, he was sending texts during a table read about his ideas about my character. I thought oh, my gosh, he hates what im doing when really he was just excited and coming up with ideas. 24 hours a day david is texting you. So you are really committed. You dont ever just turn it off and say i do. I have a kid. A lot of actors like to be very controlled, know exactly whats happening. And im not that kind of actor. I like it to be very spontaneous. I dont mind saying its chaotic. I dont know if david would appreciate hearing that word used. And i think you really strike gold sometimes when you have that attitude. He died this year. He saved my life many time 37s. Mine, too. During preproduction that song jeeps blues would send adams into a private reverie that russell and her costar Bradley Cooper would witness. Did you come upon amy adams dancing to that Duke Ellington song in your production song at one point . Yes. And theres amy with the lights kind of off dancing like annmargret in my office. Theres things you dont think people will talk about. And then its revealed youre doing a dance number in a production office. Each powering these American Hustle oscar nominated perform mans. And lessons from bales reallife role m. D. Odel. You believe what you believe as youre doing it. And to be a con man, you have to have a big set of balls, you know . I would assume thats important. Thats important, i guess. He said a good line of [ bleep ] and a big set of balls. Im Chris Connelly for nightline in los angeles. 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And on the 30th birthday of the mac, abcs david meir sat down for an exclusive interview with apples ceo, tim cook. 30 years ago today, america meets the mac. On january 24, Apple Computer will introduce macintosh. Steve jobs in his trademark unveiling. Now i would like to show you macintosh in person. Happy anniversary, i should say. Yes. Who would have thought, 30 years 1234. Who wow thought. And still looking great. And the next 30 are going to be even better. We were invited inside happenle to constituent down with the manjobs hand picked to lead apple after him. He wakes up every day at 3 45. You get emails every day. Do you read them . Yes, i do. Its a privilege. How many do you read a day . I get probably 700 or 800. And i read the majority of those. Every day . Every day. Every day. Im a workaholic. Which helps. Steve laughs, but its true and infectious. I knew the moment that i saw the mac in 84 that some day i would work at apple. We were work on something that would change the way people interacted with computers. Secrecy is part of the culture and excitement at apple. It is. We believe fundamentally that people love surprises. Theres stories of black drapes over products in development. True . Yes. Black drapes, numerous locked doors and other thins. Even employees who cant tell their family at home what theyre working on. Thats true. What are you a navy s. E. A. L. . The vhs machine, gone. Some things that have survived, the stair master, still sitting in the corner gathering dust. The minivan, still pretty ungainly. But the mac has einvolved, an example of form meeting function. Will there be a new product in the years ahead . Theres always new products in every year. You know, so thats something you can always count on. You can always bet that theres something around the corner. And that this team and the team that we are represent thats not in the room are very hard at work. If you went office by office here on this campus right now, you would see things that would blow your mind. Show me. That i cant do. But that is the heart beat of this place. For nightline, in new york. Were going to have to pick david muirs brain. Our thanks to him. And thanks for watching abc news. Good morning america tomorrow and as always were online at abc news. Com