there's a whole chapter called "hillary land" and i talk about it comes with lifetime membership. all of these traditions we have, how are you feeling, see my al gist, i want to take care of you, this culture in hillary land is all of these things because she's all of these things. but i say later in the book for much of my 20s took my female friendships for granted. it wasn't until i went through really hard things in my life and i think a lot of women might be able to relate that when you make choices in your relationship you are judged both by men and women. and i had taken they see relationships for granted, that i was never really there for them, but then to have a whole new group of friends come into my life, i talk about anna wintour being such an important person in my life because she did that for me. she gave me the gift of friendship and brought in a new circle of friends. and on my lowest days, they have been there for me and i now cherish those friendships. it's work, but it's work you should -- it's worth investing