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Series I had met some listeners when I raced out of the lobby jug club and he says I have to admit I don't listen every week but I definitely listen to the last week to the sexual healing da pics and I have had just a wonderful a rave to talk about sexual healing if you remember a couple years ago when I started with my valentine episode with Dr Pat Allen who rakes me through the romance coals every year and then I heard the statistic that up to 80 percent of women actually fake orgasms so I knew that this was something that we had to talk about we're not comfortable talking about it but I'm determined to make pleasure a g. Rated topic so if you've missed any of those the play list is on You Tube from condom research on making sex better than with latex to ridding us of female genital mutilation to a men's panel to. An app that keeps us in safe sex 2 online dating tips there are so much and today is no exception I actually have Dr Douglas Weiss calling in from Colorado He's a nationally known author speaker and licensed psychologist he's appeared on many national talk shows including Oprah Dr Phil Good Morning America in 2020 Dr Weiss has made. A television movie about his treatment of sex addicts on Lifetime called Sex Lies and obsession and hosted winning at marriage an international television show he's an Amazon best seller with more than 30 books on how to successfully heal relationships addictions or cope with sexually addicted partners Welcome to the show Dr Douglas Well we spoke. Of the law and well Tom. Well it could be your doctor or great and you've worked in this field for a long. In time but yeah I'm sure years 30 years I'm sure you saw your picture and watched a little bit of you You Tube so you must use Oil of Olay because you don't like. Had she been working that long at it but I'm sure you've collected quite a bit of experience in this movie whole arena of sex and pleasure and marriage and couples I'd like to start with the whole term and the world of sexual addiction so what is your definition of what that is and what are the trends that you're seeing with people that they need sexual healing from in this or area Well I mean sexual addiction is a it's a way of coping with life you care past or present it's a using sex in the night or what the Behave yourself behavior beat it with others to medicate to avoid to escape in a way that becomes compulsive self destructive and oftentimes you know you tried to stop I'm a recovering sex addict I've been sober for over 30 years no self behavior nothing outside my marriage I think of all I have to verify that people find it too intense as their opposite every single we could have for many many years so he's so so you've had that how we describe it's Ok so you know what you're you've had that experience yourself. Oh yeah I know it's like to be totally out of control sex I know what it's like to have such several people in there and it was like to be insane I know if I could be sober and free and well and healthy you have the best I took your life too I would go for where I am today. There and anyone can get there if they want to if you want to talk about such an addiction recovery we can but. In working with sex addict that's how we discovered the 56 language we discovered intimacy it wrecked we discovered a lot of things in helping people deal with either their sexual choose their family of origin stuff or just the brain being hijacked sexually glooming it's a fantasy world and not knowing how to have relational sex right and what to learning how to have relational sex I mean addiction is not appealing right right now but your newest book The 5 languages of sex does help not just people who identify with sexual addiction correct this this book oh no this is for everybody to have a great sex life Ok I'm going it's you're perfectly wonderful and you've never had a sexual interest but this book is for you because you want to learn what your sex language is what your partner's sex language is so it shouldn't take them to the highest level of pleasure also what we'll call the power of pleasure I know your your mission is to create more pleasure on the plane and pleasure pleasure is great but what I've learned. Is that people don't talk about sex in an intelligent way to really know how to take their partner to another place not just physically but what is their sex language is what is it they want a huge during the invitation during the encounter after being counter that can make their sexual encounters so much more pleasurable 'd I mean it's mind blowing how much more pleasure you can give your spouse or your partner does it take the magic out of the moment or the mood when you actually talk about I like this I don't like this. That. There's there's an intellectual part of me I don't know if it's denial or avoidance because I don't want to do it but it just seems like you know I guess maybe I was schooled in. The romance fairy tale that the man is just you know if you're with someone in your intimate with them that it's just supposed to be naturally good I know to reduce those little dick scars and rewire the house and do drywall and be able to be happy about doing that you know there's lots of fantasies about men and pages about women that aren't helpful but. You know in time you know as you said because your woman is mostly a gourmet chef I mean that that might be disappointing that some people write but your art is not about gender because depending on your sex line which is a matter if you're male or female you might be on sex language you might be a desire you might be a pleasure sex language and this isn't about positions and in doing this in doing that this is about learning their language because once you learn your language it might make sense why they are like that or like this and you can start having those conversations even the conversation because in the book we talk about you know how you how often you want to have sex what are the things that you want to put in your sexual garden what works for the both of you and so we have those conversations as well Ok you know if you know a couple to sit down and have an honest conversation it's going to go better for them well they do say that communication helps as long as you actually 1st understand and then agree so so let's talk about that what if you're not the same you're not using the same sex language what they're not. I guarantee you I have never met a couple who have the same sex life really. It doesn't happen Ok so it might happen on a one night stand it might happen like it's just looking up at someone over the weekend Ok because maybe you you know you put out there exactly what you're looking for and they might not be able to have that your sex anyway so maybe that's what you're doing but like going to a long term relationship very rarely will you have the same sex language as the other person and I think it's just kind of like you know God universe sense of humor because you have to grow to be able to be a better lover to the person that you really love and there's the church you know and so when you understand that sex is a journey and your journeys to grow towards the other person and then to go towards you it's just like the love languages never heard anyone have the same love language that it's language exactly the same oh you're going to marry or be in a long term relationship with someone who is actually language different than you are so you can grow well and once you accept that it's like Ok well keep me the book let me find out what they what makes them tick and it's going to be different than what makes you tick which you can look at if you their flesh trading and get resentment and get hurt about or you can look at it as an adventure and just play with a really high and low right so you know I can play you like a piano baby I know your language and it says I or I know what this they do you I know it makes you work I know what to say to you during 2nd after sex I know how to put I think on the right because I know you're. Saying Yeah and it looks like you know if your husband likes a certain kind of like it but you can do cooking you know. That's a really really good good point and I want to anchor that one because I think that many of us get into trouble because we have this b.s. This belief system that people are just supposed to know that if you're in love that that's the sex is just naturally going to follow in the most perfect way or the most fulfilling way but actually it is learnt there's a learning curve just like anything. Else would you want to be really good at if you've just tuned in you're wondering why I'm talking about sex again it is true it is the sexual healing with Dr Morris a series last week of the month and you are tuned in to take my advice I'm not using a good balance with Dr Murray and today we do have expert Dr Douglas Weiss who's the author of the 5 sex languages and we're looking at how you can have a better sex life by tuning in and learning what your 6 languages and what your partner's is so let's go through the 5 so that I'm really clear so I can use this as homework whenever I and other boys someone in bed I mean in a relationship so Ok so the 1st is it works better if you're more than once right oh yeah. Well you know what did someone tell you No I'm just kidding now I don't do when they'd stand I'm lucky if I do any stands at all but anyways go ahead . Ok so let's talk about the can I say Yes Ok I'm going to give the positive always but in the book we talk about. How you can be so sure you're going to get yourself . Ok opes I just lost you there did we hang up he hung up Oh I think you accidently hung up but that's Ok this is take my advice I'm not using it to balance with Dr Morrison we'll have him back on the line and it is a very interesting concept we're talking about the 5 sex languages that you have in any sexual encounter and he is advocating for the long term relationship and here we are and we lost you just for a 2nd but continue Yeah the continue with the 56 languages the 1st one is. 1st expenses the church and its fun fun is the money you want on Spawn I mean they want spontaneous sex a different location if they want different kind of behaviors they want to be treated they want to experience the benefits company for then it's like June time they want both Ok they want sex and I want you understand you want on and then you can kind of I don't know usually one will not marry for that's the problem Ok the next one is desire this person the ones too. Being pursued playing for a sexual encounter. Pleasure is wanted by their partner sexuality is bigger than just the act it's about you want me and when you when you're in a long term relationship with someone who wants you want to see the way you approach them sexually and pleasure them sexually will be different than talk. And then if your if your pleasure playing just person they love to learn about this person easily has a book a schools that doesn't mind trying a different kind of activities as well as them sex is a lifelong jury role in your wording not just the physical act of sex but they want to engage you emotionally and spiritually and learn how to pleasure you and learn how to get more pleasure in. There then there's a professor of sex and you're kind of. There is there they don't mind talking about it you know the person having a girl's night out or the person is going to bring it up Ok Ok patience patience is holding me and I don't even know what a lot of language a. Patient love language is oftentimes misunderstood Ok the patient love language is playing with the other is someone who wants to make time for sex cooties we're not going to work with this person they're going to take time for each phase of sex this is the person who wants a 20 minute track of what the part of 20 minutes on the wing and then slow intercourse and then an orgasm and then once you to touch them and hang out and put them the time is maybe i am how are they Ok so there is a little what they want patients and again gentleness is usually important to them great to this is really important to them so you want to kind of be in tune with that that you got it patient person you can have like you know you're probably not a patient. Plane which are you going to marry one like that has to be real fun for both the security and. Sarcasm intended. So there you have to use up and 6 languages and the last one is acceptance and celebration this person they want to go to. All. That they want to feel safe and accepted they will feel celebrating inside and outside the bedroom accepting them being and being with them valuing them. Is really really important so they want to be celebrated for them sex and celebration is the part. That makes sense yes absolutely are there more women went to I'm sorry what are there more women that are one type than the other and men oh this is a little gamble. To have this guy is a key you know wildly and you know cocky in the business but patient x. Coli blindside you as you know this girl who's like you know this at the gym and strong and you know and maybe she's very controlling but she's actually a fun sex person Ok Ok so you know if we don't we're in serious danger here you know which Julie was right Ok I'm sorry I interrupted you you were going to say something after but it. If you can discover the sex play which Linda quickly was how to capitalize on what she learned that you can have better sex the rest of your life it's amazing if you're someone is jumping around from the parlor all 5 languages so you can figure out if you're in a long term relationship learning how to pleasure one person with the right sex life which is holy making huge difference you know it's almost like people fly from all over the country world to come see me literally every single week. So I had a couple that from another country and they came in to have a better sex life their marriage but you. Too and they just couldn't figure it out I had been discussed the sex languages find out what it was and then I had been asked for sex kind of generically You know I would make love to you Ok then I said Now do you know your spouse a 2nd Language asked according to the light and it radically changed the response I mean you could feel the energy and you feel energy. Amazingly good and if you want to get more yeses you might want to talk the language a person speaks Absolutely I mean it makes it makes logical sense but can you be a combo you know there are some people that kind of will bounce around a little bit the general your general you have a problem he's They like you have a you have a preference in the certain type now play if you're a certain type should you be looking for a compatible type like rated him better than I mean celebration or bend not even be attractive Ok So celebrations are probably won't be attracted to if you're a patient person you know it's only spend time on you you know that can you can spend time on someone else. Oh so. It's not necessarily what's good for the goose is good for the gander you know this is this is like falling in love This is an amazing thing but you're going to grow financially you can go spiritual you're going to in the late shift if you change you can grow as a parent and you're going to grow sexually and when you fall in love you're just beginning masters level courses on that 1st. And then to vector needs to unfold lation about persons who you and sex is part of that but what I do think if you are teaching and in the 56 languages you can teach people listen to experts like your sex education with your partner or spouse and get that one knocked out now. How do you I mean 1st you have to really know what your own sex language is and this is where I do believe that there is a gender difference where I also coach couples and and quite a few women who you know their whole life has been about pleasing their sex partners so whatever. They don't know how to pleasure themselves literally and figuratively and emotionally and intellectually they don't know how and so they they go through the motions they have a 20 year marriage and then they finally say you know I'm not I think I totally am not fulfilled so for women who are in that situation what would you say to them. Because I have literally hundreds who write in it so you can you don't have to find your sexual voice every woman has a such a low voice and a lot of times you tune your out you don't listen to her and she gets smaller and smaller You're going to have to you know ask you to forgive you growing your sexuality. I have a book called intimacy to Rex you actually teach many women how to actually find their sexuality negated. The sex language before I think it really could start because if she wants to or a husband says I want to have better and more sex with you which is lying if we go through a book together so that we can do that most guys will sign up. And it's just and it's in that you say listen this is really what this is why. I find that the 56 language to couples a language is like sex between gives a language intimacy in the Red Sea It gives a language to fly 6 languages a language and once you have a language you can have a conversation this is why she sounds because she's probably a patient. Language And he's you know her you have to get over it and she's totally Uncle Phil she can say all this is what she's been trying to say to the I get it and then say you want it you want work play for 15 minutes and we're going towards that would like it this is what I got to do you want the car to be able to drive most guys can put $2.00 and $2.00 together yes that's most guys and probably the guys that go and see you but I've heard horror stories and putting the moves on the table right now of men who don't want to be told how they are not doing well in the bedroom I mean that there are limits but there's it's for persons like we didn't cover those but the amateur versions use when there are guys who just jerks Ok And then there are women who like guys be jerks. And I'm sure you've had shows on down the reasoning communication and she said I found 3 kids you need to be taken to get help but if you're going to be a charity so it's easy to be a jerk you don't want to. Learn me well then you don't get to play me baby. When you wanna learn you can play. But I mean give it to you live in a voice that's really important average. Women getting the power Yeah and I believe in women having the power relationship they should be in an equal relationship and they're in a relationship where they are using their power and given your power away they need to get their power your sexual power that right and to be able to enjoy them they are as a world that's their right to be able to do that and this guy thing is sure you have to enable guided future spirits or. That's a good point that's a good point you know what I'm saying yes I totally hear you do you your listeners saying that's what I meant when I've been preaching So how do you go about it when up in my office. I bet you do and they grow up they grow up just fine. But you can't let them keep being a jerk right right and it's very clear to me that victimizes has been hurt she's also better so continue to be. Right because we you know especially for women it seems like that critical voice that says you're not beautiful you're fat What if you've done to let yourself go you know you can talk about that when it is yeah I would love to. See Hamann I. Have a new book The 5 sex languages I talk about a little bit about sex in the brain but if a man is having sex if you mean surely I thought opening lights on your train conversation he's looking at you during sex he's attaching to your logically the largest amount of brain chemicals and orphans and kept wanting others to the prefrontal cortex and they literally glutes whatever they're looking at the good news is if you're looking at you during sexy school you do so it doesn't matter what you look like you could be if you could be as big as a barn are skinny as a rail you can be tall you can be short doesn't matter what color with all your hair is glue. Ok you like. Least make sure he's looking at you during sex it doesn't matter what she really doesn't matter what size you are. Now if he's if he's looking at pornography and has an attachment over there and then tries to catch you see if you can shoot so you can achieve that comparison but if he's having sex with truly. Lights on their treat conversation connected to you he is glued to you so you can just throw the covers off and they will hold the best meet that person in your life and you could see through to you. In theory I want to hear that and I want to accept that personally but it was like doing the Gulf Egypt. Say that again it's like ring with all the stuff Ok Ok Ok So whatever the stimulus is that's the woman stay somebody doesn't matter because we're the executor Coloccini clues to whatever that is. But I know a lot of other women who don't feel that way about them selves and their own body image that they don't want yeah That's the whole of the issue there's another issue that if you reject your own body then that's what you and again they can do exercise to find their sexuality to own it to play with that I've had lots of women who been sexually abused and with living with sex that we could injured in that process and I want to stay in the healing process but that's your responsibility to get your sexuality back it's your responsibility look surviving go you're awesome. I love you. Your heart baby like you should be able to say that as a woman she is so and mean if you can sustain that here and she can't. You think you don't excuse not to like yourself right well then that you hear people blaming you know the whole ideal body image body look you know by my very own right but it's it's there and I'm and I'm not but you have to buy it I mean you're of course women if you don't think so then you want the cool like right you're not in the right and then then then who controls you the people who buy cosmetics that people are questioning surgery that people who offer better clothes better person that you so much goodwill are being heard as well I want to chime in here because they're just awesome and they are you're right that's that's the balance but I know that you know there's the one side where it's unrealistic to think that you could have the body that you had when you were 24 and modeling and. That's that's unrealistic that you have to be Ok with the aging process and you know having kids and gaining some weight and then there's the other extreme that says well you know you you really you use it you use your body weight as a protection to keep people away and you just don't care anymore and in the other extreme of letting it go and so what I can just you know this is not our house and . Yeah it's all the yeah I think there are people who can themselves to treat you through who through sex and you know if you read a text that will never tell. You no I get that there's a fiction that there's a balance there but if you don't accept yourself you're probably not going to hear for I that's the number one reason our if you need to if you need to be cardio in shape get that but you need to have a certain kind it's now but again if your husband most house we don't have the if they're having sex which are really don't have an issue with their wife's weight their wife has. And she comes to bed in securing don't look at me a turn a light Well that's the worst thing you can know what the lights on so we can clue to who you are good point and well and when you're amazing you should be looking. And so you can start with that it's do you really think you're amazing that's that that's the work when you get to the point when think you're amazing when you talk together and let people waiting when it works out you know I'll do it all right you yeah you know that sounds very the way to what we understand they're amazing. And you know issue and and if you consult they've made mistakes but they look at themselves without shame without kill and understand that there was such a lot our whole force in the world RINGBACK and it's taking that they're going to be a lot more and that Yes Yes Amen to that and with that we're going to go to commercial break to thank the sponsors that we need and and absolutely appreciate to keep this show going so we back into into peace in and peace out does it hurt to move do you have I'm getting old back pain joint discomfort then let Lori Souci a certified Polani is trainer pastor specialist help her new book be healthy on purpose and for D.V.D.'s will get you back on your feet and off your back go to w w w healthy posture now dot com today and let Lori help you get your groove back that's w w w healthy posture now dot com. I think. That I'm familiar to you I am Dr Morris your cheerleader for hope and happiness percent of the time. 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And somewhere back you are tuned into sexual healing with Dr Morrison my weekly series on take my advice I'm not using it get balance with Dr Morris every Tuesday naturally high noon out of the sunset hours Studios Hollywood California universal Broadcasting Network and then every Thursday and Saturday syndicated c m b c news radio channel k.c. a Am 1050 f m one a 6.5 and we have a really fabulous guest today that my sound engineer Jarvis is just love on every word he say and and that is Dr Douglas Wise the author and more of the 5 sex languages. Is and we were just talking about it starts with a woman feeling really amazing about themselves which will lead to lights on in the bedroom I contact and then it really doesn't matter what you look like you have him and knowing what sex language to use I do have a question about. Couples fighting about sex or disagreeing in the bedroom so you actually say how can it is there a way that couples can never argue about sex because in the traditional way you know the man wants it all the time or the man wants you to go down or all of that's the stereotype in the women's you know well I don't. I can't say it because I'm going to get in trouble on my other channel face a friend you know the thing you do after you're doing you do after you take a bite of food so. Well there is no way there is a way for couples never to argue about I haven't had an argument about our frequency for ever. Oh you're welcome to go what we did is we set up a sexual agreement Oh Ok and in effect look you know I know I'm having sex my wife goes along they were having sex we will take initiation back and forth and set up an agreement it's a working group for 25 years why are you going to every here and then he changes we need to show a lot like you know when you does she go in with a less than you or more than you just curious. Well you know we agree on a number together yes Whitey's couples in the 5 sex languages listen one is like one or 51 of them are one or 2 Ok come up with another again you're going to grow 'd toward each other. Just like money just like parents and you're not going to get 100 percent of your way right then you're not a 2 year old. So you figure out how to compromise on a number that works Ok so you want a new week if you want to my we can do it that way as long as you can are in agreement it'll work for walkup as to how to have a sexual agreement figure out your frequency of how you want to manage it rotated back and forth so you're really clear and instead of consequences if you don't play by the rules now demand works it really does work I believe you. Because I have no sexual desire because I know and I mean. I I hear that I hear that something to aspire to for myself now when your experience and 30 years experience you would you say that there's a good number to aspire to or is it totally personal. It's personal and even different cultures would be a little different for some cultures statistically you know some cultures have sex more than others but you can you know it's what works for you guys Ok anybody seen this before kids during kids' adolescence you know now the kids are gone so it may change as you go through your your life together you know this whole idea of multiple or polyamory is a multiple wives does that go into the bad part of fun. As a secretary no school what so so those those reality shows that I really shouldn't talk about but you know they're throwing around. It's time for all of us to be polyamorous to have more than one partner and that on the other nobly work long term Ok. Most women want you to give 100 percent of yourself to them they want to sacrifice right now there are some women who make you know for whatever reasons go along with that and that's you know up to them but as far as having a great sex most of us are going to be true to 5 or 6 women a week let's talk about the most of us. You know I didn't know if that if I'd lean on him and buy them with this insect language to try to make it all happy yeah I'm mad so I make pies why wouldn't that be all good although there's another show we don't do that on the show no no but I do want to go back to you know what men can do to help with that you know because men sometimes they focus on what they don't have and sort of what they do you have and if they start their spouse or their other partner or how good they are at what they teach you. And they and they nurture them and say you're awesome and celebrate them and really tell them how building satisfied they really are then the woman can grow into creativity a lot and then understand them but to say when you go on to a new job you know constantly get a figure what's going on you get some experience and then you start getting confident and then after you're confident you can get created a we should do it this way or think about this later change this system. Well no other same way but oftentimes men never let them get to the level of confidence because they say it's critical places where you're not doing it's not enough you're not doing this you're not doing that instead of saying you're doing this also you're doing this also you're doing this awesome in letting it be confident and then a woman can move from confident to creativity. And think they can say critical sexually for their wife and somehow that's the motivating force that is it is that she wanted to do is say Baby you're good at shooting at this and maybe over time she believes she gets companies to try this yeah and you could not that she made you know. Definitely I totally agree to build her up. And vice versa and fight so you know I think good things. And I have gotten to interview with many women want to hear during sex is really very powerful stuff like oh no no that's a whole another. I got a thing called The Best Sex man best like to not give it up for free I mean it's mind blowing all right you have me here you have to bring that to the workshop we're doing That'll Be the ball that they're going to be the age that we give away so do you ever not practice what you preach or teach Oh no I practice what I preach like in the book we talk about intimacy outside to direct you to feeling spiritual contact 2 phrases I do that every day because if you see outside that gym increases intimacy inside. And how many of you though yeah I practice what I preach I have a sexual agreement you know I'm saying that building a life of sexual. Make some I'm going to have her on with you and that would be interesting if you haven't she doesn't talk publicly oh she doesn't she she runs everything to us all and several companies all get surgery and up and talk that she is happy do you look at her and she says happy that's great Do you have children yet because they still just call us now Wendy When did you start talking about this with them. We all know what scientists are having conversations about sexuality to early junior high school and my daughter just because through it making the choices right if you can make that such a choice they can affect you you know a decade or 2. Now. Do you how much do you think religion has sort of made this whole area so uncomfortable or so moral right wrong and so we don't have good conversations and then many people go to you know the dark side to get the dash and that's what I did. I think when used the word religion with different meaning spirituality and I see religions as families and some families are really pretty talking about sex itself as being good I got work with people in every religion from medicine men to rabbis through pastors to. Priest and I've worked with every Buddhist. Every every religion because I don't have a dog in this fight when it comes to sexuality some families are better like I work with Mormons I've never found a Mormon woman was a sexual hang up really they there's something they teach those women that's just amazing but there are families inside it's a Christianity Were they don't talk about sex at all right so why are we to believe there is but you could say that in certainly in every religion there are families local expressions of every faith that are good about talking about sex and really that right right right so I don't see that as a kind of a. Family issue and it's going to get it. Really are so low make it really bad like sex is really bad and there you could save it for the one you love and that's a crazy message. Well it is a crazy message so so when your day do you believe in premarital sex do you advocate it do you because I can't imagine not not knowing how you are in the bedroom before committing your life to someone I know in the old days that well you know that she didn't have that you could have a conversation about money you don't really know what that person is like financially you're taking the risk. Even if you monitor what you don't know what you're really 'd getting you don't really know what's getting as far as their personality because they're still selling a lot of dating I can't tell you how many hundreds of couples to change the wedding night specially those with intimacy direct they did it on will they got they got married in the guy or girl was in a wreck the greatest be. You don't know what you're getting to get married so I don't know that you need to use that argument Ok let's have sex before we do that well I'm not a proponent of having lots of sexual experiences because of the brain is not a necessarily a moral thing but the brain so here's what you do you have sex with 5 different people they have all the different types of encounters and then you're comparing those 5 people to the one person you spend the rest your life. And. Actually you know in this garden you had an apple that's when you had a banana and then you marry someone who doesn't have been doing this or apples. And then you're really frustrated because you want a freakin banana we can then breed doesn't want to get into Linux they don't have a banana you know. That's where you go to different orchards to find the banana No Well that's what happens then you end up getting to go find a banana but you wouldn't go on cheating if you've never had a banana because you wouldn't want to penalize. Ok well that that is definitely a another way to look at that all right we're coming up against the end of time and I wanted you to end with 4 tips that you can give my audience on how they can have the best sex ever so I will talk about that a little bit I don't look at each other in your eyes. Some kind of light on so you can see each other Ok nurturing conversation not talking about 30 and then saying thank you I mean some people say thank you cook actually it's also a critical thank you crew like all the effort it took to make you happy. You know Saying Yeah I'm sorry thank you. Great some of you are easy to try this stuff when you're going to have a meeting so they can just thank Dr Mercer for having no answer. Thank you Dr Douglas ways for all of your great wisdom and your tips and really the nicest thing I think about your book is it does give a platform to have that discussion so you're not sort of coming out of 'd left field saying so honey if you really wanted to please me you would do this this is more of a balanced Let's come to the middle let's figure out together which sex language each one of us are using and let's see if we can't be prolific at learning additional languages correct did I get it absolutely totally right good and the Asian no break giveaway today thanks to Dr Douglas Weiss is a free copy of the 6 languages so if you're listening and you'd like a free copy go to my website Dr Morrison dot tv go to the guest register and put great sex in the subject line and I will get the address to Dr Weiss and they'll get that book out to you as soon as they can Thanks again Dr Douglas Weiss . Thank you. Have the best day ever. And look forward to having that workshop with you and the amazing woman they ought to. Thank you and you too oh right that was fine that was Dr Douglas waste the 5 sex languages Again if you'd like a free copy of that book go to my website right now Dr Mercer dot tv and in the subject line put great sex and get a copy of that book out to you where time for the balance bar. 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