a lot of that. it catapulted them into maturity before they are ready and this is one more thing, you need to hurry up and grow up, what you are doing right now, that's the wrong message to send kids right now. >> let's talk about social media. you think the changes people are pushing for with regard to your instagram, facebook and the like, do you think those changes will help eliminate a little bit more of this perfection culture we have forced upon our kids like you mentioned as young as pre-k? >> i don't know how we undo it. i hope the changes can help a little bit but i'm not sure how we undo this perfection culture we have been catapulted in and our children are seeing and the fact it is on their school photos which everyone is entitled to that awkward weird school photo hanging on mom's wall and say we are going to white in your teeth or even your skintone says we are not okay with being who you are. i don't think it is good for a