the families that were going to get the knock on the door. and wondering just feeling their pain and knowing all these parents and spouses and children were watching the news and seeing what was going on and knowing there was a chance that somebody was going to be on their front doorstep by that night. >> dana: is there something that happened for you that helped you deal with your grief when that news came to you that we should know about so when these identities are made known, we can reach out? >> i think for me there were a couple different things. there was obviously the support of my family, my husband's family, and our friends was enormous. people respecting boundaries and not reaching out through the internet and stuff like that. you already feel very exposed but also several organizations that reached out to us.