Expectations are not around. I did my best to kill her. My excuse to fire hotter than a court of law would be acted in selfdefense. Killing angel of the house as part of the occupation of a woman writer. Deangelis said. You may see what remained is a simple and common object, a young woman in a bedroom. In other words now that shed read yourself a fall said the young woman only had to be herself. But what is herself . I think about what is one of . What is wanted . I assure you i do not know. I do not believe you know. By now youve notice that well says i dont know quite a lot. Killing angel of the how shes further run i think i solved. She died, but the Second Coming telling the truth about my own experience as a body and to not think i solved. I doubt that any woman has salty cat. The obstacles against your still powerful and yet they are very difficult to define. This is most wonderful time of gracious noncompliance and researchers must be bought elicits itself graphical at enormous unimaginable before she had it. Embodiment appears much more decorously than james joyces, but it appears than i should accept visa power may be gained it is wealthy and that she finds even the powerless can be liberatory. For reading text with a fresh icon they been transformed in her essay on email. All of wolfsburg is a know it of wolfsburg is a know it constitutes the sort of obedient metamorphosis for the freedom to continue becoming wandering, going beyond. She is an escape artist. My own task these past 20 years or so living by words has been to or in remake of language to describe the subtleties and pleasures the meaning impossible to categorize that the hardest things. My friendship or speaks out the journey of the quantifiable of the way of what can be measured i was takes precedence over but cannot. Private profit over public good, speed and efficiency of french inequality. Utilitarian mysteries and meanings that are greater than our survival and more than survival, to purpose and valueee a civilization worth having. The tyranny of the quantifiable as part of the failure of language and discourse to describe the more complex title and fluid phenomenon as well as the failure of those who shape opinion is to make decisions to understand and value slippery things. It is difficult, even impossible to value that cannot be named or described in the task of naming and describing is an essential one in any room olds against status quote. Ultimately the destruction of earth is to empower, perhaps in large part to failure the imagination which eclipses systems of accounting which can account for matters into good looks against destruction as a result of the imagination in favor of subtleties the pleasures money can buy and corporations cant command, of being producers rather than can submitting ,com,com ma the slow meander and coming to aggressive, the new announced certain. I want to advocate passage from what that my friend the painter, nee stephen sent to me after riding the crest attacks of one of her paintings come a passage found its way into the field that getting lost. In the paintings, wilfong said his favorite so they flow the water, becoming an element of force of which we are swept along into the white house will throw. For now, we need not think about anybody. She could yourself by herself. And now especially now often felt the need to do things, not even to think, to be silent, to be alone. Id been enduring and inexpensive glittering evaporated in one shot with a sense of celebrity to be oneself, a wedgeshaped core of darkness suddenly invisible to others. Although she continued to get and set up right, it was her she felt herself by myself having shed its attachment in the strangest adventures. The nice thing down for a moment, the range of experience in limit glaspie beneath it is dark and writing and is all unfathomably deep. Now and again the rest of the surface of that is the easiest five. Her eyes seemed to her limitless. Wolski thus limits what is an urgent to embrace fluid as water assembles his desire. Accomplish by which to get lost. Thank you. [applause] folks, for the q a, if youre planning on asking questions, please moved out to our friends at cspan can get through the audience. Comments, questions come the stories about explained to . Or we can just go straight to Milling Around or trying to cool off or you can explore the four floors of amazing books. Yeah. Before you started on the Virginia Woolf portion, it sounded like you were reciting some thing about the elements of taste and create. Do you have any idea what im talking about . Yeah, i mention not to explain things i think about the right to have a voice, the sense that your voice matters, the possibility of being heard. Without it . Been back it went even deeper than not. It sounded like youre reciting it, then he started reading it. The mac we know its in here. We dont know exactly where. It would take a while. I looked at your eyes and you are definitely not reading. Only memory and booktv will ever know is exactly said he had tell it like it again. This is part of what i love about writing. It doesnt look the way when its written down. I never really noticed that. Hello, yeah. I wondered if you had a comment about Jill Abramson i havent heard anything about it. I was under the impression she left voluntarily. Was she fired quick she was fired. Something about being different. Its been interesting online the comments of the dialogue back and forth. She had a bad management style, she was being paid much less than previous. I just thought you might read about it have a comment. Is just happen in a city center and to something for harper. When im not standing in front of you try to enunciate clearly, im frantically writing. Further back. I really nervous about asking this question many feel its important to say to you because youre in a position of power. So i really loved every harper says he mentioned, but im also troubled by their consistently really poor that the account every year. They just did an issue mostly woman. Did you see it . They are working on it. They are getting steadily better. You know, it is funny the conversation i had with spoke with me to be a happy . You know, is it enough to get at or . Always a shifting benchmark . They are working on it and im working on it and i keep running my female friends who are great writers at astra taylor for them to publish. But they are very conscious of it and theyve done great work in calling attention to it. You know, i am only one woman ,com,com ma but i will try and show up in harpers regularly and urge them to do so. So thank you for bringing it up. But they are working on it, really. Other questions or comments . Inside scoops on Jill Abramson and the New York Times . Is a too warmed up questions . Okay, we can go to the happy aimless milling about in a fabulous bookstore portion of the evening. If anybody wants me to sign anything that i wrote or coauthored like these atlases, i will be here happy to do it. Thank you so much for coming. [applause] thanks for coming. Their booksfront, back in at the desk. Ask for coming. [inaudible conversations] speenine football coach and businessman bill courtenay talks about the importance of carrot turkana service, undervalues and discusses how we can further develop these sites in america today. This 40 Minute Program is next on booktv. Hosting is michael gonzalez. Mr. Gonzalez is senior fellow at our kathryn and Shelby Institute for National Security and foreign policy. He previously served heritages Vice President for communications. Before joining us in 2009, he spent close to 20 years as a journalist, 15 of them reporting from europe and asia, serving as a foreign corresponcorrespon dent, columnist for the wall street journal, Deputy Editor of the editorial pages of the journals asia editions as well as the later european edition and he and returned to hong kong in 2000 for his editor of the journal asia editorial pages. He was also privileged to serve in the george w. Bush administration of the securities and Exchange Commission and that the department of state. Born in cuba and coming to the United States at 12 east linton reported from 10 different nations around the globe in his journalism career. Please join me in welcoming mike gonzalez. [applause] thank you. Welcome to heritage. Im often asked to introduce people that are far more famous than i am. Weve all seen the movie coach year. My talking points i wrote bill courtney, but i cant call coach anything other than coach. Humans afford effect 9 lumber mill in memphis that employs 120 people. One of the port means you need to know as he started the company few days after 9 11 when it was very rough in this country as we all remember and the company has become a huge success. And he was asked to take over the high school in memphis that had won seven games out of the last 99. It turns the program around. Hollywood got ahold of it and thought it would be a good movie and the movie is obviously undefeated. But undefeated is not about the team. Undefeated is about what he did with those young men whom he coached. The book which i highly recommend and he will take questions and answers afterward and he will sign a book for whoever wants to buy a copy. It is about how he teaches civility, character and service. The sonata played football in high school, that is exactly what i got out of it and i really have to thank all of my coaches in high school for teaching me that. Its a sadness that either one of my sons is going to play football. I think its a problem for the sport. My wife just wont let them. Its in the look in her eyes and i wont win the arguments im not even going to try. Coach, without further ado faq join us here. Thank you very much. [applause] inks for having me. I appreciate you and i appreciate the foundation. You know, since winning the Academy Award, being part of that whole process, i speak all over the country and its all kind is good news from pepsico to fritolay to nike forever, to the paralympics in Colorado Springs in venues all over the place. I think the thing i like the very most about undefeated is the platform it has given me to say since you that i think need to be said. At the end of the day, on the football coach and i lumber company and im a guy from memphis. The only different from and thousands of other americans is my story got told. But as a virtue of my story getting old have been given this platform and we could use the platform to do some cool stuff to make some extra money and be all neat and hollywood. Or we could use this platform to maybe have some conversation about things weaker maybe not necessarily to comfortable having conversations about. That is why this exists because after all the speeches they will come out and say hey, want to hear more about this. I love what you said about this are what you said about that. Do you have a boat . And i didnt. So now i have a book in people can read her about it. It kind of starts like this. When i graduated from ole miss i taught school and coached for all for a living. Thats all i ever wanted to do. All of that changed because there was this leaving the season who ran the lunch room and she cooked hot chocolate chip cookies. They were so good. The hot ones, do we want, big ones. Because i was a young, struggling, starting coach and i was in shape and try to flirt a lot, i would get in the little thing of milk for a quarter. So what changed was one really nondescript afternoon, this person walks in the back door to see her aunt susan, the lunchroom lady and shes wearing a lime green shirt and shorts and she has this long dark silky hair in her name is lee c. And she is now the woman ive been married to two to 22 and a half years, who has given me my 19yearold, my 17yearold and my 16yearold. We got unsteady water in it clear to hear it so we got those and what happened was that mary turkana started having kids in the coachs salary didnt get it anymore and i have to get into the private world. When i got into the private world coming to run and ended up starting this Company Called classic american heart was in 2001 will literally have my couch. My father left home when i was four and i had very little relation ship with an in my monastery the number of times. My moms fourth has beens fourth husband shouted me down a hallway when i was a teenager and i had to dive at a window to save myself. So my reality was never you are going to be over 45 come with offices in shanghai, office is a notion in. You will never be a guy who stole 120 employees. Youre unlikely to be a guy whos been married to the same woman for 22 years and a womanizing family angel never be the guy whos the subject of the movie that wins an Academy Award walking down the red carpet with ppd and george clooney. Not my reality, but have it. It did happen. And ill tell you why in a minute. By virtue of mary ms. Woman in need to be better for my family, started this business off my couch and throughout the whole process of transitioning from being a coach for a living and a teacher to a businessman, i still anon faculty on two situations coached football throughout my life and the opportunity to does and three came up in manassas to coach football will also operate my business and i took it because it was still a passion. What we found was 17 kids on the Football Team. In the previous 10 years wreck at seven when the 92 losses. Sixers reader will be left with 75 kids and a record of 18 wins and two losses. In an area where an 18yearold male is three times more likely to be incarcerated than it is to be in college by his 20 earth day or graduated 36 seniors and 35 went to college and i am here to tell you the same thing that built the Football Team and the same thing that will my family that i am extremely proud about and the same thing that will my business are what is outlined in my book, against the grain. It is about kerry here. Its about commitment. Its about integrity. Its about the cliche of getting out of your comfort zone and understanding the dignity of hard work. It is about understanding the paramount the string is a commitment. Its about understanding forgiveness, legacy. And what is amazing about this fundament goes is that it doesnt matter if its your family. Doesnt matter business, society, politics, whatever walk of life you are involved in, they were in for all walks of life. And that is what the conversation is the platform that undefeated gave me that i want to have and that is what im trained to have in against the grain. We flee. If you get anything from her 25 minutes or together before we do a q a, i hope you remember this. A vacuum is forgetting dirt off of carpet. Its not for living in. Dont eat turkey person and understand that five bucks cannot be the value of your latest the other spring day in the front yard. Okay, so that was weird. So ill explain it. A vacuum is for picking her up off of carpet. It is not for living in. If you surround yourself with people who look just like you and think just like you and not just like you and his reality was just like you, you are never going to understand what going on in the rest of the world. We have to get out of her comfort zone. Thats cliche. I dont have much in common with archie bunker accept this. My kids and my kids for and their friends and my wife and all of our friends know that this wornout leather chair in our tv room is mine. It is mine. Im telling you about last night invention of christian be perfectly. It is mine and the armed foreigners and worn out a little bit with these button joints restiveness actually, im not kidding, theres actually a little patch that is discolored from what the remark control said because the sun doesnt differently. That is my comfort zone. Ill tell you theres nothing wrong with it. With 120 employees in a Football Team and Football Team in kids and Everything Else in traveling promoting books and doing speeches and everything, i get exhausted in the world its in the mouth and i like to put my comfort zone to chart a batteries and regenerate. Well have to have that. For some its a group of friends. Maybe a church or synagogue. He be a cafe somewhere, a corner table on the patio or maybe a place where you have a glass of wine and you kind of recharge. Bb garden in their home. Well have comfort zones and we need to. Weve got to recharge her batteries. Theres nothing wrong. Heres what ive noticed about the chair. Nothing profound or anything has ever happened in my life when i was sitting in it. And ill tell you this. If you want out of your comfort zone ,com,com ma if you existed not vacuum, nothing amazing or phenomenal when you surround yourself with people who look just like you would think just like you would at dislike you believe just like you and you are unwilling to get out of the thought that that you find yourself in and you wont get out of that comfort zone and you remain in fact that just like sitting on the other chair, nothing amazing will ever happen in your life. It just wont. When you get out of your comfort zone and you seek to explore the other thought than the other people in the other lifestyles of the other realities that are out there and he do it in a civil, not threatenithreateni ng way, you know what you find . Defines the different is. But you also find it kind of commonality. It is that commonality we have lost in our families with a 50 divorce rate in this country and our politics at the 15 or so Approval Rating of congress in 40 Approval Rating at the white house, we dont find commonality. Wee thomas ability. We dont have unthreatening conversation. The conversation is not about winning. Conversation is about exploring. We dont have a conversation that is the thought that the civil and open where we can explore, not to argue and win on our points, but to find a common malady from which we can base a foundation, weve lost our way. Im telling you is a 50 divorce rate, weve lost our way. With her Approval Rating, with lost her way what business is failing, weve lost our way. We have to go against the grain of where we can have it to change the stuff. Fox news two or three weeks ago and the guy looks at me. I cant remember if hes listening. Im sorry but i cant remember your name. Anyway, he says that things are not supposed to get into our faith and politics of race and religion entitlements in the book pretty much talks about faith, race, religion and business entitlements. But you know what, Political Correctness in fear has kept us from even willing to talk about those subjects outside of our own vacuum. It vavra there is a fundamental problem we have in so many things weve got going on. I went to robert gates. I said was wrong out there . He said we dont have lunch anywhere. We can be the political stuff, but we dont sit down and have lunch. We dont work things out. Its a war. We are americans. Its got to. So you have to understand vacuum is forgetting dirt off of the carpet. It not for living in. When i was about seven weeks into my first year at manassas high school, we were three in three. Let me say it again. Yeah it was definitely and 92 losses. Xp can we were three in three. Wow. Right . Three in three is average, but again so bad had, it was pretty good. More importantly, the kids are riding up and down the road on nice buses, not broken buses. They knew he could make him a nice uniforms and feeling good about football. The kids had gone into the exes and us. Yes sir, no sir, unbelievably respectful. We made a few things happen. But it was obvious early on this to be more than just about football. Character and commitment. When you work in a place for their second and Third Generation of abject poverty, some of the fundamentals were not inherently ingrained in the walk of peoples lives. So we would teach you that. Remember the whole team had bought into it. Half the team had bought into the important stuff than important stuff in there or be more respectful the classroom. Pulling their pants up, show your mind, not your behind. They were doing their homework. They were hanging out on the corners at night. The other half of the team, with while they bought into the supposed outcome of the minutes of practice, two things to me was driving me nuts. Every coach has this guy. Every coach has this guy. So what do my guy. The guy aloma acclamation. Of my first year at manassas when there were things that happened i didnt understand, he was candid with me and said coach, dont say that anymore. This is how you say that because they try to beat the system will work long. So i went to venice at how come i cant get those guys to buy and to the important stuff . Is driving me nuts. This guy whod been unbelievably candid say just keep doing what youre doing, coach dismissively. One guy had been he does he. He said i dont want to hurt your feelings. I said i group fadden redheaded. You cannot hurt my feelings. Tell me what appeared he said okay, coach, start talking. He said theyre trying to figure out if youre a turkey person. He said coach, they are trying to figure out if you are a person or not. I said help me. Coach, every thanksgiving, folks roll them with gifts and turkeys and we take them because we aint got none of the turnaround in league but we never see them again. Makes you wonder if theyre doing that because they care or to make yourselves feel good. Let me tell you, the truth is that made me read that he said that to me. We are winning ballgames, wearing uniforms, doing a great thing. It wasnt a parttime thing for me. I was all in. So with the assistant coaches. Were killing ourselves ourselves trying to turn this around and make a difference in kids lives and have a good time. So i thought about it a lot and i thought about how angry it made me. Heres the way my life worked in those days. I went to work at 5 30, worked until 3 00 is that business is still only two years old. Then i get to practice about 3 15 and practice at manassas from 3 30 to 5 30, then i tried to make his practices what he also coached at its 30 00, go home, get something to become a breakout into it again for six and a half years. The problem between manassas and the kids practice i could change it by manassas here. I didnt have time. So i get to my kids practice in my vacuum, in my comfort zone, where i lived grade my manassas death. At the same time theyre doing stories on the manassas miracle of a big mug is on the front page grinning like a cheshire, look at this. Then people come and save tell me about whats going on at manassas. I said i got into three and three. That is amazing. Tell me about this article. Yup, its called the manassas miracle. Theyre like that is awesome. Tell me what else. Well, without doing their homework. Ill split you uniforms. But ill split a gut and be respectful. What else . Ive got them getting up the street corner. What else . I. , i. , i. May 6 through a looks at the does dad, ive heard all about everything thats happened in manassas. What are some of your players names. Those kids fall right through me. I was digging. Was digging the back slaps. I was surfing and i was leading us out of my comfort. I was a fraud because i was a turkey person. It was making me feel good. And it was digging the press in the back ups in my own child didnt even know a single kid on my teams name because i was talking about me. He was reversal. I quit taking credit for those kids efforts. The truth is ive got to get in my car and drive home at night. I can live with my door unlocked. I slept my keys in the ignition. Many of these kids the contents of driveby bullets didnt have to kill them at night. They are the ones changing the way they approach their education and walk through life what to do some better with themselves. They were the ones making all the effort. I was on for the ride, but is perfect willing to take the credit because everyone was clapping me on my back. So heres the thing. Getting out of your comfort some is important, but its also imports and. Its actually paramount that you do it for the right reasons because if you dont, those serving you will be patting you on the back and smiling at you. The minute you walk away, though no they are looking at the back of a fraud and if youre fraudulent well make nothing out of it. We have to understand the unique turkey is to strip is and we are surrounded by them. So we have to go against the grain of that if we want to lead. We have to go against the grain if we want to really serve in our family, if i want to serve in organizations where part of him if we want to serve our communities in delhi. If you want to serve our political structure. Weve got to go against the grain of. It matters and it changes the world. The last thing his face. Five dollars a spring for your. So i will be dead at least within 50. Im 45. If i live to be 95 it would be a miracle. I had to write an article about it. Sometimes 50 years i will be without the dirt over the top of the box before everyone figures out whos going to get it. Its true. Its a fact of life. I will spend a lot of a lot of time with an attorney drawing up a will, make sure everybody gets a legacy. Everything i have to be eating behind him everything ive worked hard to accumulate. Heres whats going to happen. Im going to die if everybodys going to cry in three days later everyone goes back to work in a week later the people in my will. Lets call them for because ive got four kids. Each situation will different. Theyll show up a week later at the Attorneys Office because its time to go over the will. Theyll take my legacy, house, cars, jewelry, everything weve accumulated in my family will have spent an enormous amount of time a very fair with all of this stuff and we will give it to these four kids at the lawyer with handout. By then i each of them will be married. So they go home with a pile of stuff, which is my legacy now separated and four. We will say for subsets of the latest c. Said ive got for subsets and they all look it over in spouse will go my god, some of that stuff is hideous. Okay, so we are going to keep this stuff in the stuff we will put in a basket or box in the attic. About four years later, now we have eight subsets of legacy. For subsets and each was kept in the other in the attic. About four years jeter my own children will create their own legacy and it will be in the attic. The attic will be overrun and they will be sick of it in one of several caveats are in my gosh, our basement has all the spread from one almond dad died. What are we going to do with it . Even with the answer is. Your veil. So each of them get together. They forgot who has the nicest yard but the best traffic and all of your legacy that you spent your whole life accumulating and on the dying days spent times with attorneys putting together rules and making sure was fairly given up is now sitting in somebodys front yard on a spring afternoon with a 20 tag and then here she comes, the one driving the caprice classic but a range up that shows up when your sale starts because she wants to be the first in line. Here she comes and she jumps out of her car, like shes attacking normandy and since i gave you 5. Ill give you five. Ill give you five bucks for that. In your air, you spent your entire life building your legacy for common you spent the dying days with an attorney, you have no subset it out is now faced with an amazing dilemma. Do i take 5 for this piece of legacy out of this grassy front are who needs a under caprice classic or do i take it back upstairs in which he does takes it and it broke its back and was as fast as she can to the next that case us in somebodys front yard. What you do for yourself in this life dies with you. What you do for another, that lives forever. Your legacy cannot be price tag. Your legacy cannot be left in the front yard. If it is, you need to look yourself in the mirror in take about what youve got going on. One day, not too long from now there is going to be a seven or 8yearold kid that walks up to his dad and says dad, i got picked on at today. How do i handle it . Or maybe 15 or a girl comes up and says dad my boyfriend are publicly and its breaking my heart hurt either comes up and says im 23 years old and i want a promotion. What do i need to do to get that promotion . Or maybe a 30yearold says dad, my husband cheated on me and i dont know how to deal with it were 40 or older says dad, my son is sick, has cancer. How do i handle it . The information advice you something about character and commitment to embrace the goodness and perseverance. And if thats my legacy ill take it. What is yours . What is your legacy . What you do for yourself will die with you and will end up at a yard sale and some woman driving the caprice classic will pay five bucks or to drive away and not will be the end of it. Do what you do for others, what you serve, how you get out of your comfort zone and how you treat others in your family and business and gas in your politics, that does not have to be separated. They can be left in its entirety to everyone you know and it cannot be sold and it cannot be negotiated on. It can be left in 100 full trust of everybody you know and you look yourself in the mirror and make sure that youre doing because thats a legacy worth leaving in the beauty is your life gets us fulfilled if any life you fulfill as a result of the. Ladies and gentlemen, that is what it to