Dying. Is technology making it easier for us to have secret lives . Secret lievgz that can go horribly wrong. Were going to take a look at the dangers of sex, lies, and technology. Plus a hero teen who survived a massacre that killed her whole family. Now the woman who survived her own unspeakable family tragedy is reaching out to help. And as always, we want to know what you think about all of this. Make sure you tweet us using the hashtag askdon. But first here is my take on people with secret lives. The details are often salacious, especially when they involve prostitution, drugs, death. You may be surprised that cnn is giving this story so much attention, but it speaks to who we are as a country now. The incredible wealth of Silicon Valley. Rivaling and even exceeding that of wall street with a similarly larger than life lifestyle. The technology that encourages you to communicate in secret and sometimes even hook up. And it speaks to the staggering explosion of heroin use in america. So can you ever really know someone . Even those closest to you. Heres a test for you. Would you allow the person with whom youre in a relationship to go through your cell phone texts, your photos, or your email . As youre pondering that, make sure you stay tuned. Youll want to watch this show. So lets get to the case. That google executive found dead of a heroin overdose on his yacht. Alix tichelman, the young woman he met on a sugar daddy dating site, pleaded not guilty today to manslaughter and other charges. Cnns kyung lah is in santa cruz, california with more tonight. Kyung . Reporter well, don, what we heard today in court, it was quite brief. As you mentioned, she pled not guilty. She did ask the judge to release her on her own recognizance. That was denied. Also for bail to be lowered. It is currently standing at 1. 5 million. That request was also denied. But we also, don, heard her defense attorney speaking with the press, and they painted a different picture. Weve heard all the tales about what she is, that she was a prostitute, that she is addicted to heroin. Thats the tale thats coming from the police. What her Defense Attorneys are trying to say is that yes, she is a heroin addict but what is at play here and really what happened aboard this yacht was drug use gone awry. Don . Kyung, lets talk more about that Video Evidence they supposedly have. We heard more today from the video thats on board that yacht. What do we know about that . Reporter we actually are getting two tales of the same video. We havent seen this video. We dont know exactly whats on the video ourselves. We are only hearing this through the police. And through her Defense Attorneys. Today we heard the Defense Attorneys lay out what they think is on board that surveillance tape. This is tape that was on the yacht that is recording as she was injecting Forrest Hayes, the 51yearold google exec. W heroin. The Defense Attorneys say you can see it. You can see mr. Hayes take his cell phone, use the light of his cell phone to show her where she could find a vein. She injects the here into his arm. He becomes lethargic according to Defense Attorneys. He falls asleep, she gathers her things and leaves. The Police Department has a very different tale of the exact same tape. They say when he became lethargic he actually started to suffer, he falls to the ground, and then she stepped over his body not just once but multiple times. She finished drinking her red wine as he was dying at her feet. Theyre estimating it was about seven minutes. And she wiped off her glass, gathered her things, drew the blinds, and then left. So two very different takes of the same videotape. Don . Kyung lah, thank you so much for your reporting. You know the death of Forrest Hayes is shining a light on the socalled sugar daddy sites, especially seeking arrangements, which calls itself the leading sugar daddy dating site, where over 3 million members fuel mutually beneficial relationships on their terms. Joining me is angela jacob bermudo, the spokesperson for seekingarrangement. Com. Were glad youre joining us to get more information on this, angela. As we heard from kyung, Alix Tichelman and Forrest Hayes met on your site. What is your reaction to this case . Well, both the parties that are involved in this case did in fact meet through the site. That is pretty much the length of the involvement that seeking arrangement has to this case. Seeking arrangement bills itself as a site, quote, where beautiful, successful people fuel mutual beneficial relationships. Do you still stand by that . How was this mutually beneficial relationship for mr. Hayes . Of course we stand by that 100 . I would say this is an outlier in terms of in terms of things happening on the site. We regularly Police Seeking arrangement. We vet profiles to make sure that those who use our site are not in violation of our terms of use, which specifically state that you cannot solicit any service in exchange for sex. And, you know, fact of the matter is seeking arrangement is to women or sugar babies as Silicon Valley was to startups and techies back in the day. It stands as a beacon of hope for women that says no matter what background you come from, you know, you can attain the same success that these men have achieved through wealthy benefactors as well as life guidance from these men. And on the opposite side, of course, these men are able to find their ideal relationships in exchange for the Financial Assistance that they provide for these women. What it sounds to me like, it sounds like youre talking about prostitution. It is not. Seeking arrangement is in no way or form prostitution. Prostitution is a transactional relationship. And i use the term relationship loosely. Its a transaction that exchanges sex or sexual favors for money. Sex is never a part of the arrangement. But for money, youre talking about what is beneficial to these women, and thats wealthy men. What they get out of it is a relationship of some sort. So many people will see that might see that as prostitution. Absolutely not. Just like in relationships you dont join a relationship and expect sex. Thats not how it goes. And we certainly dont allow any arrangements to specify sex as part of the agreement between two individuals. If we find any evidence of that on the site, the members are immediately suspended and booted off the site. Police are referring to Alix Tichelman as a prostitute, though. So how was she allowed on your site if you say this is not a site for prostitution . Well, the fact is Alix Tichelman, we went through her profile and we actually did a background image search, which we do to all members to make sure theyre not on any escorting or prostitutional website or anything that might promote that. And the fact is her profile didnt raise any red flags, nor was there anything within the contents of her profile to indicate she was using the site for these purposes. Its unfortunate that these are the activities she chose to do off the site. But we stand by the fact that we do vet our profiles and do the image searches to make sure that we dont have people like that using the site. You said you vet the profiles. But is there a background check . And is it a strict background check . What is this vetting . Well, im glad that you actually pointed this out. Were one of the only websites, let alone dating websites that offer background verification on the site. As for the regular vetting that we do on the site, we do check the language to make sure that it doesnt match what weve deemed similar to those that are on escort websites or any websites that promote prostitution. So it is easier than ever now for married people to conduct affairs online. You have to admit that. But the question is does your site have any idea whether its users are married or single, or do you even care . Absolutely, we do care. About 1 3 of our members are married. However, more than half of those that do use the site as married individuals have an open relationship where their partner is aware that they have a sugar baby. And what about the other half . I beg your pardon . You said half of them are aware that they have a sugar baby. What about the other half . Theyre not aware . I would say i would say the other the other half do have affairs that are unbeknownst to their partner. Thank you very much, angela jacob bermudo. We appreciate you joining us here on cnn. 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The case of that google executive who died on his yacht after his date injected him with heroin has all the elements of a tabloid shocker. Now joe johns digs deeper into our story of sex, lies and technology. Reporter a married google executive, father of five, by all accounts a great dad, meets a young woman on a website called seekingarrangement. Com. A liaison on a yacht, an overdose of heroin, and the executive ends up dead. A father of a 22monthold boy allegedly messages six women, sending and receiving explicit texts, including nude images, while his son is dying in a hot car. Whats going on . Has Technology Made having an affair, living a secret life too tempting for some to resist . Jessica carbino of ucla is an Online Dating expert. The online component of an anonymous interaction with individuals with whom you may never have any contact, with whom you dont have to give your real name, address, any information that can theoretically be used against you when youre in the process of having the affair is definitely appealing to an individual looking to engage in that type of lifestyle. Reporter secret life hookup culture among those already in a relationship used to be mostly on the down low in america, not exactly advertised. But it is steadily creeping over to mainstream. Inevitable perhaps with the rise of social media, even some sites that promote the relationship category now known as married but dating. To see the reach of online infidelity these days, look no further than this chris brown video titled loyal. With 97 million views on youtube, a young woman receiving a message from the now famous Ashley Madison have an affair website. The explosion in mobile communications, an estimated 208 million cell phones in america, means both genders and all sexual persuasions and virtually all ages can communicate quietly and secretly anytime, anywhere. There are countless options for married people looking for love in all the wrong places. The personal section of craigslist, adult friend finder and countless forums and blogs that cater to everything from oldfashioned cheating to swinging, kuckolding and even polyamory. There is even yo and one called secret that needs no explanation. The biggest concern, that children can be lured to content that is intended for adults. The more you have, the more danger you may have to deal with. And i think that as parents, they need to be responsible about what their children are downloading. That was cnns joe johns reporting. That google executive that is getting a whole lot of attention. But is this case as cut and dried as some people might think . Joining me now is noel biderman, ceo of online affair site ashleymadis ashleymadison. Com. And defense attorney Jayne Weintraub and mark omara and attorney lisa bloom. That package the story got me all flustered there. I feel like we should have given a warning with that. Jayne, to you first. Lets talk about these Court Documents and what they said, because they shed more light on what may have happened on that yacht. And i want to read part of what we learned, okay . It says the man calmly watched a woman inject herself with an unknown substance, the man gestured in a manner directing the woman to similarly inject him in the arm with the same substance. The man calmly watched as the woman kneeled between his legislation and examined his veins. The man rubbed and hit his inner elbow in an attempt to help the woman locate a vein. The man shined the light from a cell phone onto his inner elbow to assist her. Theres more. The man was injected. So if a camera on the boat shows Forrest Hayes assisting in the fatal injection, how can the prosecution prove manslaughter . Well, what theyre going to do is theyre going to try and prove that she gave him an overdose, and that it was a negligent homicide, its an unlawful killing because whether he is a willing participant or not doesnt excuse the fact that he died of the overdose. If its a bad drug, maybe there was something in the heroin. In this case, though, she injected herself as well. So i think its going to be tough for the prosecutors. And remember, we only have one small snippet of a camera. We have no audio on any of this. Mark, do i hear, were you muttering there criminally . What were you saying . Well, no, no, the concern is as jayne was just saying, its going to be particularly different. But when you have an underlying criminal act, the fact that she participated in it and he did voluntarily doesnt excuse her behavior. She could very easily, probably is going to be held responsible for the reckless act of injecting someone intentionally with heroin, which is an illegal drug. I want you to listen to what tichelmans defense attorney said in a press conference today. There was no intent to harm or injure, much less kill mr. Hayes. Why would she . He was a lucrative source of income to her. She appreciated his generosity, and she had a motive, if any, to elongate, not end the relationship. Mark, what about motive . Is it going to be hard to prove here . In one sense, yes. But you dont have to have motive for a negligent act. So the negligent homicide acting recklessly, you dont need motive for. My concern with that Statement Today is i think any defense attorney needs to be very careful laying out their defense day two, because we dont know what else is going to come out. There are these other potential deaths she may have been involved in. Her exboyfriend may have killed somebody with a heroin overdose. I think the defense attorney needs to be very, very careful coming out and saying here is what we have. Its the one right the defendant has, is to not say anything until all the facts are out. This is not the time to present a defense. Before i get to my other panelists, i want to go back to jayne. Prostitution, escort services, dating websites. If money is being exchanged, where is the line . Arent these sugar baby websites just a front for prostitution . I asked my earlier guest that. I dont think so, and i dont think we can regulate them as such morally, because then youre going to have prohibition on any adult activity. Look, i dont condone that behavior, and im not visiting that website, but i dont want it to be illegal to have a website to meet people. Because when you start going too close as big brother, then were going to have a bigger problem. I mean, James Madison and Thomas Jefferson didnt envision any of this when they were writing the constitution. Were on New Territory with the internet. Noel, i want to ask you this. This man and women met on an online relationship site. As a ceo of another online relationship site, are you concerned at all that there could be people using your site to engage in illegal activities like prostitution and drug use . Well, listen well, of course that would be the concern. Thats for noel. I just think what you can do, you can extrapolate a whole bunch of things from this. You can talk about drug use, heroin use. Does google have a big problem here . Executives are using drugs. Theres a lot of paths you can go down. Anybody operating an Online Dating service wants a great outcome for their membership. This is clearly not a great outcome. So you as ceo have a job to do. Youve got to police your policies. Youve got to make sure that the membership knows whats expected of them. And can you get it right every time . Apparently not. But i dont think you look at inanimate objects as being responsible here. This is clearly between two human beings who made a bunch of bad decisions. Please. Lisa, lisa. Oh, please, what does that mean . Thats not very intelligent. What does oh please men . Im happy to expound. Shes going to get to it. Go ahead, lisa. Listen, you set up a website so that married people can cheat on their spouses. You shouldnt be surprised if people use it for morally repugnant ends. Is that criminal is that a criminal no, of course its not criminal. But i dont know how you look at yourself in the mirror every day either. Lisa, go ahead. What are you its my turn now. Ill tell what you im talking about. Is bill clinton is bill clinton lisa. Noel hang on, lisa. Stop. Crosstalk is really so disrespectful of the audience. So please, one at a time. I appreciate your passion. But will you listen to me . Let lisa speak, and noel, you will get your turn. Go ahead, lisa. Thank you. Look, cnn is set up for news. We turn it on to get news. If people want to cheat on their husband or wife, they can go on ashleymadison. Com. Dont pretend like its morally neutral. Of course it shouldnt be illegal. But i dont know how you look at yourself in the mirror every day. Go ahead, noel. I guess because im not an attorney, so its easy to look myself in the mirror. The bottom line is people have a right to pursue what they want in their own bedrooms. You might have a problem with people in interracial marriages. You might have a problem with people in samesex relationships. What . Thats your own bigotry. Thats your own choice. Noel, were talking about how does interracial marriage come into this . Neither of those things is illegal. There is nothing illegal about having an affair. Thats my point. Theres nothing illegal about having an affair. We all agree with that. Were talking about so why are you judging me . But were also talking about no, your guests are judging me. Things that involve prostitution, noel. Your guest no. What does that have to do yes, i am judging him. What does infidelity have to do with prostitution . Infidelity is lying to the most important person in your life, potentially bringing diseases into a relationship, breaking up families. Most of the world sees it as morally repugnant. No, that isnt true at all. But thats your perspective, and youre entitled to it. Oh, okay. And the bottom line is that the internet has changed the Playing Field. The internet has changed the Playing Field for women. Men have always been unfaithful. Nonmonday monogamoday oogamous at strip clubs and yes, with escorts has always gone on. But now women too are using the anonymity the internet provides to start to level the Playing Field. We dont paint them with scarlet letters or take away their children in custody hearings if theyre unfaithful. It turns out when you remove those inhibitions, women have affairs too. That might shock your guests. But shes not that educated on the topic of infidelity. I know you guys are raring to go. Lisa, youre raring to go. Just stand by because were going to talk more after the break. Everybody, please stay with me. Next, this isnt the first case this summer of a secret life turning deadly. I want to talk more about that when we come right back. Humans. Even when we cross our ts and dot our is, we still run into problems. Thats why Liberty Mutual insurance offers accident forgiveness with our auto policies. If you qualify, your rates wont go up due to your first accident. Because making mistakes is only human, and so are we. We also offer new car replacement, so if you total your new car, well give you the money for a new one. Call Liberty Mutual insurance at. 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Thats what happens because its so much easier to be somebody you want to be but know you shouldnt be when youre online. Literally by the time a child is 18 years of age theyve killed over 100,000 people in video games and online things. Theres that type of disconnect. And when you have a place like Ashley Madison, you can make believe that this is just consenting adults. And it is. And im well in favor of the bill of rights and freedom of speech and freedom of assembly. But to suggest or to deny that that is attacking and degrading the moral fiber of our nation just ignores what youre doing. At least own up to the fact that that is what its there for. You certainly havent come up with a website to future monoga monogamy. At least be honest about it. Jayne, what do you make about what mark is saying . Do you think more people are lead double lives than we might realize . And i agree with mark, i mean obviously. And its easier access and less accountability. But thats our daytoday life as well, isnt it . The problem here is that with the internet comes all more access, more information. It comes down to its power. And with all power, we have to have responsibility and consequences. And its like we have to teach our kids or drill it into them. You know, there is no such thing as privacy anymore. I dont care what delete says. There is no delete. Once its out there, its out there. We have to have consequences and realize that. Lisa, why do you listen, i took note to what mark said. Mark said the perceived anonymity. Why do you think, lisa, people go online and risk so much to have an affair . And as noel was saying, listen, its not illegal. People are wanting to do it. Theyre consenting. But still, there is a huge risk here especially if youre looking at the story that were profiling tonight. Look, some people are just sleazebags, and theyre always going to be. And theyre going to find whatever they want to find online. I have a little different perspective respectfully from jayne and mark. I run a very busy civil rights law firm. And almost every one of my cases, my best evidence is some kind of electronic evidence, a video, an audiotape, text, emails. In a Sexual Harassment case what the boss sent by email to his secretary is exhibit a for me in my cases. Its fantastic. Im in a race discrimination case all day today. Weve got a videotape of a brutal beating of my client. So i think its exactly the opposite. I think there is less anonymity. Everybody is pulling out a video camera. Everybody is audio recording. Everybodys saving those texts and emails. And good for them, because it helps them get justice. Listen, noel, you have heard people here talk about the morality of it, right . And here is what your website says. The worlds leading married dating service for discreet encounters. It also says life is short, have an affair. How do you defend this . Do you ever think about the families that you are possibly breaking up . Well, there is two points there. One is what was the light bulb moment . The reason Ashley Madison was created was because so many people were going onto Singles Dating sites that werent truly single. It was tempting to create a profile that had nothing to do with reality. Right . You could pretend to be that tall, dark handsome architect if thats what somebody else was looking for. You were really roping somebody else in, an unexpecting individual into an affair. So Ashley Madison became that steam valve and a very successful one. The second thing is no tag line is going to convince anyone to have an affair. These are not anomalous people. These are your friends and neighbors. This is sitting president s have had affairs. The director of the cia, your favorite athletes that you adore, entertainers. This is really everybody. The majority of people tend to struggle with monogamy. So we as a society, why are we so bad at being monogamous . Mark, we talked about this parents, right . Parents should hold their kids responsible, or should parents be held responsible for their kids bullying online, right . You said social media has reached the wild, wild west phase. In all of the cases youre talking about, is it ever really fully possible, and especially for the owners of these websites, to monitor their clients and to monitor a persons interaction online . Well, they intentionally tell you that theyre not going to monitor it. They cant. If Ashley Madison or any of the other ones suggest theyre going to go in and monitor it theyd be out of business because they cant do it. I understand what theyre doing. Theyre the portal for people to do something wrong. And i say wrong in the moral sense. Theyre going to do whatever theyre going to do. But the way that we look at the whole social media part of it, and i agree with lisa, you know, thats why i said perceived anonymi anonymity. On the other side of that same coin is everything we think, do and say online is captured, and its going to be used as evidence against us. Whether its this case, a cyberbullying case, or any other case where somebody from Ashley Madison gets into an event and hurts somebody, or gets hurt because of their hookup through that website. Im just curious its not at all accurate. That is not an accurate portrayal. You can, if youve been doing this for a decade, build algorithms for detection and hire hundreds of staff to make sure those profiles are legitimate. You are mistaken, sir. You actually dont know what youre talking about. And if you saw i would love to be wrong, sir. You would be blown away. You would be blown away. You are wrong. I would like to be let mark finish. Go ahead, mark. I would like to think that what youre actually doing is only letting people on your website who have advised their family that theyre going to go have an affair. If what youre doing is well, now youre getting into a whole bunch of nonsense. Youre talking about exactly. Noel . Please, let him finish. Sir theres no point in letting him finish yes, there is a point to letting him finish. Noel, hang on. Let him finish. Please. Noel, can you please be respectful and let him finish . Listening to this nonsense. Can we cut him off . Thank you very much. Can we cut his mic off . Go ahead, mark. Finish what you were saying. Noel, all im suggesting is i dont feign morality with an immoral website. And im not saying that from some fundamentalist religious perspective. What you do is you set out a portal so people who want to cheat on their spouses do so in a way that most people would, as lisa said, would consider immoral. Now, obviously what you do because you have to or you would be shut down, you do make sure there are not active prostitutes on it. But we know you missed at least one in this case. And i bet if the hundred people that you had on your website were actually 200, you would probably catch a lot more. The reality is you have to have a blind eye or you would never make the money you make. Yeah. I understand that is free enterprise. But dont make believe youre acting in a moral way. Thats all im suggesting. Hear hear. Thank you, all. We let everybody have a voice on the show but you cannot be disrespectful to the other guests and the hosts of the show and to the viewer by having crosstalk. Thank you all. Except lisa. Lisa, i want you to come back. Noel, thank you for joining me. Were going to be back with lisa for another segment. Coming up, a texas teenager survives a massacre of her entire family in front of her very eyes. Well talk to a young woman who survived another tragedy. 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Reporter in an open letter to cassidy, badger writes that love is what saved her, the love of my children and my parents that is still in my heart, and the love of friends and doctors and perfect strangers. Accepting the love all around me has helped my forever broken heart. Try to let the love all around you in, and little by little you will feel a tiny bit better. I know that my mom, dad, brian, emily, becca, and zack are in a much better place and that ill be able to see them again one day. Cassidy stay. [ cheers and applause ] cassidy made an unexpected appearance at a memorial for her family, and seemed to be incredibly strong. I really like harry potter. In the prisoner of azkaban, dumbledore says, happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if only one if one only remembers to turn on the light. Shes only 15. So shes going to process this experience right now as a 15yearold. Shell process it as her brain continues to develop and she continues to experience life as a 20yearold, a 25yearold, throughout these different places in life. Reporter badgers letter to cassidy, itself part of her own healing process, makes it clear that the pain will never completely go away. My sadness is still so deep, but it has changed. I accept it more now. Stay strong. Reporter ted rowlands, cnn. Thank you, ted. An incredible young lady. Joining me now is Missy Jenkins smith. She was only 15 when a School Shooting killed three of her classmates and left her paralyzed from the chest down. But she has a message of hope. And she wrote about it in a book. Its called i choose to be happy. Missy, im so glad youre joining us this evening. You were the victim of gun violence at high school. Its been 16 years. Do you think back to that day often . Yes, yes. And i would like to apologize, first. Im sick. Im starting to get a hoarse voice. So hopefully you can understand me. But definitely, this is something that affected me when i was 15 years old. And she has a lot of recovery and a long road to go. But she sounds like shes got a positive attitude. You mentioned that you were 15. Shes 16, around the same age you were shot. What does cassidy need most now, do you think . She definitely needs a lot of support. That is exactly what helped me get through this whole thing, is the support of my friends, of everyone around the world. I really received 600 letters and 45 packages a day from people all over the world just supporting me. In any way possible. So she needs that support. So anybody from anywhere, i had people all over the world supporting me. Madonna badger faced an awful tragedy as well. And youve seen the letter from madonna badger to cassidy stay. Its a message of love and strength. Does that resonate with you . Oh, definitely, definitely. Every person that wrote to me from all over the world were telling me that theyre praying for me, that they were thinking about me. And that is definitely what kept me going. And i really think whats brought me here today to be more positive, to write the book i choose to be happy because it is a choice you make. I know it is definitely something that cassidy is going to have to do. Shes going to have to make a choice on whether to be angry and mad about what happened or change the situation and do something that she could look for a positive thing and help others that might be suffering through this. And kind of put, you know, kind of use it for good. Make sure that it doesnt always have to be negative. Because if we let the negative shine through were just letting that control us. And thats exactly what i felt i wanted to live. I had a Second Chance out of life. I wanted to turn that tragedy into something positive. And she can do the same. 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Back with me also is Missy Jenkins smith and lisa bloom. Ken, to you first. You lost your daughter in a tragic bus accident when she was traveling in india. But both madonna badger and cassidy stay lost their entire families. How do you even begin to help someone whose loss is so profound . Where do you start . Yeah, there is no way of possibly for any of us to possibly understand the magnitude of that kind of a loss. Basically, your family and your life as you knew it is obliterated, and youre starting from scratch. So its admirable that they can even get to the next breath. And to see a young woman standing up on behalf of her family, and to see another family, another person whose whole family was lost paying it forward and giving her core advice is extremely admirable. But we have to be really careful. When we start using words like negative and when we start telling people they have to be positive, were skipping over one of the most important elements of grieving, and that is the choiceless phase that we go through where we may be in shock, but the shock is going to wear off and reality is going to set in. But i wonder at her age, though, as a teenager, how much do you think she understands of what is going on . Well, you know what . Shes getting shes got shes surrounded by support. Shes obviously still in shock. And we do remarkable things in shock. I gave my daughters eulogy. Ask me if i could do that today. I probably couldnt. We do Amazing Things and were surrounded by enormous support. The important thing is sustainable support so that when the reality begins to set in and it begins to hit her as to whats happened and all the choices she has about where to go from here, that theres just as much, if not more support around her. And thats the key. Lisa, you work for, you know, many victims of violent crime. What advice do you give to your clients to help them recover from situations like this . Well, the first thing is this is for lisa. Okay. You have to have a very powerful support system around you, be it family members, friends, groups of other like people. You know, thats for the therapist. Thats for the counselors. Im the lawyer. But ill tell you. I get so much more from my clients than they get from me. I represent a 12yearold girl who was sexual abused, is brave enough to come forward. She doesnt want to hide her face. She doesnt mind saying her name. She says why should i be ashamed . Let him hide his head in shame. These are the people who are inspirational to me, people who suffer from a terrible tragedy and keep going, keep going forward, often have so much profound wisdom to offer the rest of us and make the rest of us feel like why are we complaining about silly little trivial things in our life when people can go forward after these terrible crises and be so inspirational to the rest of us. Missy, i want you to listen. I want everyone to listen to what cassidys grandfather said at the memorial for his murdered family member. Difficult to imagine how we will ever move on. The best way we think is to concentrate on the living, to cling to the hope of a life that has emerged in this terrible darkness, to all the lives that were spared, including our own. Missy, he says concentrate on the living. We saw cassidy speak at the memorial service. She was very courageous. But what lies ahead for her . Well, i definitely think that she needs to make sure that she talks to anyone about this. I really feel like ever since this happened to me, to talk to other people, to share what i experienced has definitely helped me go through this and to get through this. And i also kind of have made it my mission to help prevent what happened to me from happening to anyone else. And so if, you know, you look for a positive mission in what you can in the situation that was created. And its almost its been 16 years. And i really feel like thats what helped me get through this, the support, and then just making it my mission to do that. Because i really truly believe that its part of my purpose. Thats what helps keep me going, if i can put a positive thing on it. Missy, if you can answer this quickly. I asked the question to ken earlier about how much might she understand at this age. How much did you understand at that age . At that age, i did. It was something that i never thought would happen to me. You know, at 15, 16 you kind of watch this stuff and think oh, it happens to other people. You think that youre invincible. But once it happened to me, i kind of then had to grow up faster. I saw some things i never thought i would ever see in my life. It was a bit difficult to understand some of the things that i was learning. But i think i did have to grow up faster than most 15, 16yearolds. Missy jenkins, ken druck and also lisa bloom, thank you very much. Appreciate you joining us here on cnn. Thank you. Well be right back. But first heres your 60s minute. Three, two, one, zero. We have liftoff. Theres something happening here but what it is aint exactly clear the space race was about our own sense of security. We didnt really know whether a human could survive in space. And the soviets send this guy to space and he survived. We were in a race, and the russians were the bad guys. And they were winning this race. I would say for most of the 60s we had a sense of being behind. 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