conventions of daily life. >> you go to church, you have to put a character. you go to work, you have to put up a charts. the bedroom is one place you don't have to put up character to no one. no one is there to judge you. we tell ladies, if you want five dudes at one time. one life you have,en joy it. >> vee and dee are here from atlanta, married 14 years and swinging over a decade. they have a simple code. >> we have any issues we can talk it out. >> our number rule in communication, no matter what we're doing. >> years before she meet dee, vee was raised under strict standards in the pentecostal church. she discovered her bi-sexuality at a young age and decided to keep it secret, but it was never far from her mind. >> i remember during praise and worship and looking at a sister