and state. you know, let's try and keep things, you know, divided. we don't worry about trying to be sexy when we're vacuuming to begin with. if we just separate these things and find equal ways to contribute to the household, and then we also keep things healthy in the bedroom, then everything works out. or am i just looking through rose-colored glasses here? >> well, i think you're right. i think that people need to have equal respect and equal power in a relationship. but how that plays out doesn't need to be the same. so equality doesn't necessarily mean sameness. and especially in the bedroom, a lot of people as i talk about in the article, are a little bit confused about well, if we're going to be in a 50/50 marriage, what does 50/50 sex look like? >> let me ask you this. i'm extremely uncomfortable talking about this right here. >> welcome to america. >> welcome to america, thank you. are we all better off talking more about this? >> look, i do think that we're better off having healthy, rich, complex conversations about sexuality that don't just turn