by the states and some are ahead of the others and so we saw a movement that we want back to hawaii back in 1993 and couples there saying that our state has embraced us, and we don't have marriage. we want to push for that. gay leader were afraid of that. there was a backlash and they moved to pass the defense marriage act. we saw the calls for the constitutional amendment. sometimes you have to pick fight to have the fight to win the battle. i think a lot of gay groups and leader did not understand that. they did not follow the novmt themselves. the bigger battle now is getting that civil rights protection in federal law. we have conservatives that are still very much opposed to gay rights and have a republican congress right now. it's going to be a big big