someone you love and being in a situation or being dead. >> then what makes this almost worse for the parents is that there is a one-child rule in china. you can have one kid. for many of them, the mothers were dragged out talking about her son. that's her only son. >> exactly. the other issue is that there people and women in china who have more than one child, but they can only keep one. if you lose your son and have given other children away and other things happened to those children, how devastating to relive another loss. >> you dealt with one and mul multiplying it and you don't know. 14, 15 days? how do you start the grieving process? do you allow yourself to begin that even though you don't know definitely what happened to your son or daughter or aunt or uncle?