>> early they said we should have a kid, we said no. the network was like annoying in-laws. on raymond, you never saw the kids. >> i saw your car pull up, you did not call. >> we really wanted to focus on the marriage and their relationship with the parents. >> i am ray and i live here in long island with my wife deborah. >> in the first season ray says in the opening credits, it is not about the kids. >> for every year you are over 40 you should at a inch to the hemline of your dress. >> despite our best efforts they reject all of our