she understood throughout her life that daddy sometimes was ill. >> first time i was in the hospital, my daughter was quite afraid. she grabbed my left little finger and she squeezed tight, but she wouldn't come any closer. and i figured that if i can make her part of my medical regimen, she would adjust to it. i let her feed my medicines to me. she'll put my medicines in my mouth. because i want her to be a part of this. i don't want her to be afraid of it. >> labor day weekend, 1988. arthur had brain surgery. the doctor sat down with us in arthur's hospital room and told us that he tested for toxoplasmosis, a marker for aids. that he was not just hiv