i was defending myself. >> now, had he been drinking and stuff? >> yeah, he had been drinking. he had been up all night sitting here playing wheel of fortune, smoking. you know what i mean? >> how long has he been fighting with addiction and stuff? >> we've been together ten years, all right? before that he was doing his drug thing. i keep thinking maybe if we try one more time, i can do this better. >> has he ever tried to get some help? >> realistically, i've never seen -- >> something tells me that you two -- sometimes you have to be strong enough to realize that. some people can't change. as much as uyou want them to, a much as you love them, you can't love them enough to make him change. i think that it might be better off apart. >> all right. let's get you off to court. i'll give you probation officer a call and we'll go from there. after you. >> thanks. >> you're welcome.