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Bit Friends and allies he's about go AWOL hates unlike my grandchildren from his want to call tonight at 12 it'll be the minute love songs before you. That sounds the way to smuggle bootleg and some of ours to plan a few moments time as well I could just say a huge thank you to you if you contacted the show whilst I was off. Or if you contacted the show today just to say welcome back and been missed so I do appreciate you I really do and thank you very much and again to all the names of people who for something messages but if you have sent me a message you know who you are and they really is nice to be missed and thank you very much indeed for that you. Rather than my guest tonight Sandra story no sex plays but give us a case of Vascepa Smokey Robinson and the miracles the late night gram Turning to be seen radio Lester. . Stories musical life it's like my grandchildren Well we've been talking about where the long term relationships are worth working on if they get to the points where both partners are not happy while my after 11 guest A's 4 year old Sandra who would height to get marriage live with a man have children or even sleep in the same bed as a man she describes herself as an asexual younger cougar she enjoys passionate kissing but is repulsed by sex and nudity she has always felt this way she was once very sexually active I spoke to on the show last year and she gave me a unique insight into how people view relationships and intimacy Here's what she told me. The Bob incident happened when I was 15 years old so that was quite difficult for me. Yeah I was like some guy choice to. You know try on sexually with me. To have sex with me but I didn't want to and I stopped him so yeah that was quite tough for me but that's a myth about a sexual romantic a sexual it's a myth about a sexual. You know that we might have had sexual peace and past not what makes as a sexual but it's not true because I had my sexual abuse when I was 15 years old and I had all my sexual relationships after law so I was in sexual ation ships from that point way through to 2011 now let's try and simply follow this if we can because I want to make it easy for my listeners to actually follow what we're talking about Hasan was you describe yourself as an eye sexual Yes So explain what that means oh I so I get predominately attracted to younger guys far and as it happens and I live in the u.k. And predominately from the age of the 21 to 27 but because I'm a sexual identity Sprint sexual attraction I don't want sex with boys go I use I think I in my case on my head for a month take hyper Oh man take a psycho Well hang on you is not so would say so just explain what had tried to run Manson means had trained mind to cats very mean I'm attracted to the opposite sex they're just goalies I'm romantic means I'm very much a clear track to them so I love kissing I love holding hands cuddling all that public thing but I don't like want or need sex enough to have the top it with them so you know man when you don't kids know and can get was well yes Ok yes so I'm obviously people know more about sexual to business but you know they like sex with young. In the 20 secs I define myself and they think should pay guys so I like sexual attraction Ok so you're looking for a guy a $20.00 plus Yeah yeah Ok how do you. Like the you talk about whether that's the guy because I would like to because you know already know who I am what I like a lot I had a 21st mindset the slain does not parse this yeah right this so that's how I like to I mean like like to tell people who want to fight me because I'm on a sexual site the size of the tell people he wants to date me my age but I usually reveal it and I see really want me to cry like tonight you're right. I. Say I already hate saying it because I know who I am I just all I really hate I'm fools there are that we can't even say you have a problem without it being full steam yesterday why because it's not who I am because if you need me I think like a teenager like oh no I am on a long pole in my bedroom I got kind of books is or how my brain muscle sparkly things like collect like your I'm a Disney go I literally. People judge me when if I say thought on that and it's not who I am when I was younger like I said I was old before my tall you and I didn't have a great childhood I suppose depression to 2012 and then itching 2012 that changed my life around so it's kind of like a substory to this so yeah my time my life around and then I developed this mindset of hopping a younger younger life so my mindset is at the moment 21 years old and I can do anything a 21 year old does so I like getting out clubbing For example I've been for a while because my friends and I to all right I'm all I can to think politics I went to this man they feel like to go to cry Ramses I like to do all young stuff like listen to dance music for hours in the morning like I have much more in common with going for example in the 20. Ok well let's go back to what we talked about a few moments ago where you would like to die it'll be with a young guy potentially Yeah so what's the difference between that then and celibacy p.c. Do you do You were quite specific that you didn't want sex oh yes I have had sex in the past so my my say you know I've had sex with my partner the prostate all had protection but celibacy is when someone's abstaining from sex whereas if you're a sexual with the sexual and taken it. That badly you unheard of you know it's on hurdle but it not really understood right now I've also heard that she. A sexuality is a spectrum so can you just tell me a little bit about yeah so going back to celibacy that's the choice we're 8 sexuality is and with a sexual you know it's a spectrum so basically. You can get different types of a sexual you can get anyone ranging from very very very very basic we're all a sexual below one stream a sexual when they all are a man take a sexual experience romantic or sexual attraction and that it goes straight to the middle part the spectrum such as myself we've had 3 month excel I'm attracted to guys very much you want to kissing and cuddling but no facts and then you've got to go all the way through to great a sexual experience sex attraction under little or Ras about all they are in place with Russian but know enough to want to act on it but you did say a few moments ago you did say a few moments ago that you had had heterosexual Asian ships for 4 with 5 guys for half of your life so you know I thin in sexual relationships all my life from the age of 15 to 34 actually. Basically yeah I was in a long relationship with a guy you want. 7 yes one point but we hardly ever had sex I mean probably was ample time to he went off with someone else he hadn't a fat that's a problem if you end up with a heterosexual lightly a lot of them will go off because they need the sex and then my longtime ex who was a whole big he was actually good at sex most gentlest and kindest and very very good you know I mean how difficult was it for you when your partner wanted sex and well this isn't about penetration Yeah so it's kind of right I mean because he's a dude I was a foreplay I'm getting really into my head that it made it like a little easier to have sex because I found that quite painful so I was quite good so I prefer just Bob but it wasn't so bad because he was there not and. You know but it was like in terms of my mind I didn't want to do I saw these 2 boys didn't want that also I'd rather do the washing up I absolutely hate the washing up but if you tried to like you know touch my breast I'm trying to instigate sex I would rather do the washing up so what would you say to people in my pop site that you just when get a sex. Well me wasn't sad we just didn't have any good sex neither but that's why I said my ex is good at sex that's what people say they people say oh you I say that as good fact he was very good at sex we did ladies different positions. You know all sex both of us choice you know I didn't like I had to spit the stuff out but I tried you know and I actually a company that Graeme I tell you a story now I got this little pocket of Kama Sutra positions no even thinking he was going to use all mate because I was so innocent this is how I think your mind is different for had to set your mind so I bought the book because he liked her not quite a thing I didn't think he was going to use all me because I was his partner in the things like trying all these different sexual positions out minimal I would have preferred just to do the right one you know where I'm doing it full frontal because I like the feeling of security with his arms around my back I was more interested in the kissing the Secure the arms around the back not the actual into Coles it's not pleasurable for me it's like what's the big deal I don't get Ok so how did you discover that you Rice actually so I am in 2014 so I split with my ex from a l.p.f. In 2011 and then I say it's heterosexual guys but like I nearly went myself when I was around them because I couldn't stand the sexual energy that came off when the expectation after the day I would have sex and so I went to see a counsellor because I was like I just I just can't do this anymore I want a relationship or want to romantic relationship and kissing and cuddling but don't the sex and I said the must be some other people like me and she turned round and said to me you have to have sex if you want to keep it good golly I was just absolutely appalled you know I've gone there to help because I want to feel loved for my past I wanted to be able to be helped to get a relationship about sex and for God to love me for my past my my intelligence creativity and everything else and not the sex and that's how did you say it'll leave you feeling relieved when you need that. This is the way that you were and you didn't have to have sex in the movie so I didn't find out from her I went home and through it all I love sex the story I love kissing RINGBACK but no sex not sex and money. And I found a trial to go with the big case online for me a factual I began to be that far in the right to realize this is May and it was quite such a relief from what my goal they've always people I never knew anything about the use of my life until I was the only one and it was absolutely incredible experience and this is why I call myself an impact because I trust you now and a facial injuries are not going to help other people find out if they're a sexual they you know I think it's what he thought that kids in school don't go about you know you think you have to be sexual relationship to be loved you know you know I don't associate that who love but that's traditionally how that's why you see that you know you have a loving happy healthy relationship you have to fight for thought not true all right sander let's just catch our breath for a 2nd if we can let's break you for some music but afterwards I'd like to talk about your ideal man and what you want from him a little more about that in a few moments time on late night Graeme Torrington. One thing. You said and done. With whom you met. Him. Best. It's doomed. So here I want to talk tonight it's like my gran Torrington talking to writer Sandra Bellamy about funny as that 3 years ago that's She was on the a sexual spectrum so you've got friends who are and loving relationships and also sexualization ships How do you feel about. The civil life elite Ok so I actually have highly sexual friend and I have the male friends who receive me sex in a relationship you know they're very god huge appetite so I have no problem with having sexual friends I can make sexual jokes a while because it doesn't affect me or my life because I'm no involved in that so I have no problem with people are facts people enjoy sex it's fine by me just so I don't personally want a relationship for me with sex in it Ok well although you are relieved that you don't have to have sex you'd like romantic relationship with a man that's where the hospital following because most I track to but only for God I'm hardly ever attracted to grace not enough to want to see so trying to point a suitable romantic foreign god life partners in the u.k. I had 3 months ago myself as pretty impossible Ok well this isn't the only thing that you have in your head here that they need to have because you are very specific on your Indian Pacific and as there's an age yeah I can arrange one to 27 Ideally I mean I would you know if the guy was really young for his age to look young it might be a bit different Ok they also need to be romantic intelligent creative Yes spiritual sensual and emotional and this is the one that kind of made my eyes open they also must star themselves on John Travolta increase Danny's sex in the newspaper write the list. Go out but I'll post a little bit what I said in that interview for my debut marriage with the I like I have experienced crimes attraction and I get attracted to the street done so for example Georgia boy who has a leather jacket a light white or black t. Shirt with trousers on but the local I like like I like the more you know the king shaven boy so that and also Street dumped me because well I did. A lot of the guys out Street does move the West Street guns cause they doesn't have to like that but he should have closed it I like the look of I was like going to see a while so yeah I didn't know I would have thought that a person with all that criteria and who just want to have sex is going to be hugely difficult to find Yeah we're way one percent of the population which means one in every recorded one percent the population is probably more of us in quiet which means one in every 100 people are a sexual but most people don't come out about it most people acquire and live in secret so unless I can find I try sexual guy who doesn't you know who live without sex because I'm monogamous I'm not into a poly relationship so I went to set a type I've a go I've with me he's with me because he loves me for me and you know there's no sex in it so unless I find a heterosexual guy like that which I haven't done so far in my life in previous relationships Unix in the end they usually won it then you know I'd really be within a special going it's easier for me with a nice actual guy because of the article the worry about anything happening that shouldn't happen trying to have sex because the thing is when you with that respect you go I know they can't keep pushing you for it and quite honestly you know they think you're starving them of sex sometimes and they think if you I love the kissing So really my dear Guy would be romantic a sexual god that you kissed passionately which is quite an issue for any sexual like to really get in there and kissed passionately. But with my clothes on you know but no sex and what have you been looking into this got someone a sexual play in fight so there's a couple who actually take the call I'm a spit on that I'm also in Facebook groups as quite a lot since on Facebook couple I run my dating group sexual on Facebook now when you. And the she may be someone who potentially is going to fit all this quite serious. And it just tell them about all the things that you're looking for and how you feel about stuff and what they're expected to Paul to supply in this relationship so I haven't met any asexual people in person I've only met them online the ones I've tried to do the phone call I've. Met a sexual British guys but I'm not attracted to them so that's the problem I have an all those one guy is very very long time ago a sexual guy that he wants for him but he wants marriage and kids so he wants to go and I met up with one other for one British guy social but you know to me that's hard to use British So yeah I haven't really met any in person 4 and a sexual romantic guys in the u.k. I say probably to see both of the that you'll never have children because you know you need to have sex have children I don't want children I've never what tunes itself in 15 years old so I knew from 15 years of age of never want kids in my life I'm pregnancy riposte actually and in my day job I liked working in retail so I worked with bunch of department but around the corner from it. That was just department which is not sweet department and I have to see pregnant women all the time it took me about to know obviously getting sick every 4 hours or pregnant women I just don't like pregnancy at all and I have never wanted I don't ever have the urge to have kids have all I get on well with kids but I like little beans in the right because I'm like live like a teenager we talk about movies and stuff like Toy Story and things like that and I am maybe that. Just because Kelly Well I had pregnant women repulsion that pregnancy thing you know obviously I'm not saying women who are pregnant or oppose them saying the look of the red pregnancy but proposes many Yeah. Now Eve written a book about some new and there's an interesting title I let you commit to talk because he's quite a long talk listener Oh boy Ok well the book is about a sexual across the spectrum and it's about love life the sex of those so basically the book is called a sexual perspective $47.00 a sexual stories love life and sex a soap ration of a sexual diversity now that rolls off the tongue doesn't it. It's really important because I've interviewed 46 I cycled around the globe from sort of all different ethnicities backgrounds. So that you can get a boat range of all different a sexual suspect Jim you know like there's something like a home around to cause like a gay sexual by Raymond take is someone who's like a bisexual but just experiences romantic attraction and then you go a pan romantic says like pansexual but they don't for sexual Chesney's romantic attraction so there's all different types of. Variations in the spectrum and also different variations of the orientation and I've interviewed them about love wasn't sex because there's this myth and stereotype that a sexual call what have had sex in their life and some of us have done for whatever reason it was in in our past usually some sections will have sex to please that Paul the. Sex with Pope place actually face but even though you know I've had in the past but there's some essentials are not sex with Pope because sexual behavior is not the same as sexual attraction this is what people confuse say for example all that special attraction so I don't feel the need want to as perfect as any god I never look at going think I want sex with you know even someone I love For example even with me I love the passion intimate kissing I experience high levels of arousal which people don't understand that something is actually can do and I love the passion intimate kissing I love the source doesn't mean hit from the arousal I get from the French kissing if you are and that's sort of sexual behavior but it's not sexual attraction so I'm still in a sexual because I'm not that if you try to go I. Cheat by doing all these interviews you made you understand yeah I mean I learned so much in my book I mean there's even a sexual in that it's with the boys that show without sex and then they just said you know there's no there's no difficulty with that they accept it straight away so . In my book I say Oh well I will not ever be with a heterosexual again but in my book gives me hope that you know the. People can like some insights we can have a relationship about sex the. That's right. Well you know Sandra I've talked about love and relationships on the radio for many many Yeah I love you like I love you do you and the one of the 1st things I learned about all of this was that you could never really compartmentalize anyone because there is a huge spectrum ask and lots of people will never fully understand and I'm sure there's a lot of people listening to the program right now who just don't understand what you're talking about and they never will but it's really interesting to talk to I'm not saying I don't understand I get where you coming from but the thing is is you at least you've identified what you are and you know what you're going for and it sounds to me that any potential partner is going to come along to fully understand where you're coming from because you'll be right on the button there with them as well when you know I will I tell any go on maybe even if you know a lot of them all going to be I think you really all they very well become like a little girl I mean I probably the 1st 5 minutes I make special I get it in the same way in all play because I'm in and by the by that's right you know I want you know I stay around a bit. Promotion I try up my sexuality pulled my business like I was on the a sex life of a website called a special I don't call him so much but I should write on the label mamma sending him to I'm paid I was going to ask you that because you sold everything else you might as well sell that house or yeah. I think story like. Sandra being a poor leisure facilities and I thank you very much indeed for coming on to the program thank you thanks very much you still raise your music knife night night Graham tarring turn b.b.c. Radio Leicester. When. Brothers and quot that had aunts of Mary on level ground Torrance and get to hear Sandra listen to what she had to say start of the program at Neyland Patti only I'm 40 said one interesting woman back with a bang gram or not as the case might be a pardon the pun Thanks lads for that and this is coming from Colleen Tamworth who said this lady is on another planet what guy is going to agree to a sexist relationships as Kahlan time with obviously not you because you know I sexual but there are people around Believe me that would be interested it's just something that's obviously very hard to find his name one percent or something like that was not now then tomorrow night scarcest 80 s. Louise because of her hundreds of people in the Midlands now have closed because of her hundreds of people where sleeping in Coutts now have betting she gave up her job too because she's driven by an incredible social conscience that's Louise's story after 11 tomorrow night online not grant or. 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