C. E. O. Of cast centers for treatment of Mental Health and addiction and hes been a coach to young celebrities like. Demi oh its funny i always get screwed up now because demi moore at one point went from being demi to demi but i think a lot of thought it was stated Demi Demi Lovato and joe jonas who seems like a pretty good cat ive seen like i talk a few times im mike has a new book out called one decision the 1st step to a better life whats up. Amy and thanks for having me im on. Well nice to have you here i was watching the thing about. Theres a special coming up on the bee gees on h. B. O. As part of the promo they show the one jonas brother coming off talking about how obviously its a blessing obviously it has its own set of rights here big famous of big famous with their siblings and he just seem like a good cat im surprised at what point did he. Come to you for some Life Coaching because he seems like those jonas kids seem reasonably together. Well i dont even know how people end up with me with Life Coaching because half the time i feel like theyre in a better spot that me but somehow i. Made it. Put something. Incredible they are like you in the 1st minute because thats how i feel subsidize what people ask me if i say go brother if you only know because of stuff or im in the dark like get a bloody kick in my shits yeah i mean i started off doing crises for like i dont i mean i live in l. A. I didnt since 3 years and all of a sudden and because of arsene to us and have pretty good success people would call me in for crises so like you know i work would be our forums or some of these different families and then it really transitioned all this and i found myself in pop music. And then it went from like addiction psychiatric to bands breaking up people cheating in there are. People who want to fire teams people who dont want to go on stage anymore studios that had an actor who had a incident so it just kind of kept evolving i mean the guys are just brothers i met. When they were going through their break up so it was just kind of like how to reinvent all their lives and careers and so that thats my mojo the media made it seem like he was a drug addict but hes not i mean these are really good guy and. You know i think i think thats the thing is like with coach gene or mentorship we all love or teachable like we can learn from other people and grow and thats just kind of. Always on i found myself doing a lot of that and i got sick of doing that so i certainly iraq alone like anyone would do and i went out refugees and i tried it on i would open up Mental Health clinics and then i got back in realized that americans dont have a strong pull towards kurdistan like i do so it was hard to get people to really rally behind me to meet donations so then all of a sudden i was like why dont i become the brand my wife can i be the town and within a week i met dr phil and its kind of like the universe decided and all of a sudden 2 years ago right he asked me to go on an episode and then i went on 40 up assads in that shes kind of taken off you know so. Its a long twizzlers drive i think they say in the feel good film business hes paying it forward because i think oprah made him a made man and i think hes passing and im not surprised to hear that americans are kurds standoffish is how i refer to it as i often think that way in this country have so much compared to the rest of the world the one i hear happy hour problems half of the therapeutics and half of the courtesies i get other people are just mildly nodding and then moving on because there are times when youre listening to somebody go on but you know a problem that youre just a gas has hung them up that much because and youre in Subsaharan Africa sharing a mud hole with the will to be sad sure that problems we have piquancy the way i look at it yeah like people would say oh my god i couldnt see my family during covert its like how about if your dad was lined up and killed by isis. Youre my home now daughter your daughters only like everythings in perspective but youre right i mean i think i think. But thats like theres like victim culture in general is such a trap i think ive noticed with working with certain people theyre committed to you know being a victim and it just keeps kind of redirecting all over the place i try to avoid working with people like that. Because then all this and i just become the target you know yeah i think i find that we are in an odd way addicted to agony talk until their mikes a Life Development culture New York Times best selling author youve seen it many times i guess for a doctor still listen do you feel youd be as adept at your gig if you hadnt stepped in youre not i mean that does anybody really turn out to be. Yoda and obi wan kenobi helping other people if they hadnt bumped up against their travail somewhere along the way i think suffering helps a lot i mean i think. I think hating yourself makes you. Be able to connect with someone who really doesnt like themselves so i mean i think some of that i mean youre taught in school when you become a counselor at your story it doesnt matter that you dont do it will she much about yourself. Which is so different though being more in the public eye where like youre perceived to the boys Different Things or a climber even talking about but i would say like yeah if youre question it helps if youve been through it and i think that you can help if youve been through it and you dont think that your way is the oh my wife. Did you what. You can share if you want are not if you want how did you go off the path was it an addiction and was a substance is how does it know who you like i mean i am in the end it was crystal meth. And that was kind of like me go you know you when you stay up or we can. You start seeing things that arent rio. And youre really convinced the real you know i dropped out of college with the courtroom with the ball. But i started it i did you know he just wasnt comfortable in my skin and i didnt know why. Maybe the pain we grew up in but im at the same time lucky to get to go to the side because youre. You know so. You know its a funny you would say that because when i graduated high school my favorite cut by favre College Player you were a little player was Charlie Yelverton for the fort of say i dont know if ever saw that carrots picture on the wall back that but he was he was a groovy guard up but for the fordham flashes i believe that was so funny that you went there to play hopes now listen to take a break early here we usually try to split these segments but i can tell were having some video problems with our friend mike bear were going to come back after the break and hopefully we wont have a frozen strain his best known for his books best self the your best self and hes got a new book called one decision the 1st step to a better life right back after the break Dennis Miller plus one with mike there. What does the left stand for today not long ago the left stood with working people and Civil Liberties now it appears to prioritize i did a jerry politics over issues we hear the word would be a lot but not before all of you can use there a place for marriage you know politics anymore. But the pandemic no certainly no borders and is blind to nationalities. That. Has emerged we dont come with the we dont look back seeing the whole world needs to be. People. Judging. Coming very close asleep this time to time so we can do better we should. Everyone is contributing each in our own way but we also know that this crisis will not go on forever the challenges created with the response has been masked so many good people are helping us. It makes us feel very proud that we are in it together. Hey folks welcome back to Dennis Miller plus one who are joined by the genial bloke that is life coach mike baer mike is a best selling New York Times author hes Life Development coach best known for his books best self and be your best self also the founder and c. E. O. Of cast centers at c. S. T. Centers for treatment of Mental Health an addiction hes going to coach to young celebrities like the Jonas Brothers ana ana ruts if not a lighter issue but certainly is sound like some sort of familial disbandment disbanding that he was able to orchestrate and then theres that young girl who seems to have it all the meal of otto who i never really knew my her story and then i saw her i i wonder she wrote that song you know i saw the same performance everybody else did and i thought my god what a voice what a what a depth of perception and its hard to believe that somebody who is that gifted it will just show you the vagaries of life man you can still get shit hammered right oh yeah i Mean Community and so. I mean one. Where were going to talk about the coach in the coachs new book one decision the 1st step to a better life i get the title explain the promise coach yeah so i. So i i i believe that were all just one to one decision away from. Improving our lives with whatever we want to improve and that the 1st step is kind of viewing the problem and seen it either through a lens of it being an offical or an opportunity so kind of like rose colored glasses would be ok just you would have an opportunity but rose colored glasses dont tell you to make a decision it just says ill look at it differently so this is really focused on making a decision from a point of view of viewing as an opportunity and then letting go of the outcome so i create something called the poor rose which is optical Opportunity One decision outcome is a really simple formula for anyone who has a problem and. I think that it works i mean i travel the world doing these this type of work i create something called the force theres a negative force in a postulate when you forget of the 4 scouts i want to go back to work for us before we get to the force because we breeze through them in a jargon way id like to take a problem you set one up a hypothetical and then navigate through the 4 of those and show how they can bring you out on the other side so set up a hypothetical problem 1st well i mean sometimes its real when theres real problems of the producer listening and as a problem or anyone has done its like really easy but i can i put that or call it if you want. Like to see what id like to see how the 4 hours work yeah so lets say somebody is. Thrown a problem at me any problem. A lack of imagination ok so my problem is i cant imagine so therefore im struggling or suffering or like whats why is that a problem. Writers block ok so Writers Block the obstacle as i need to write because that debt minds this isnt going to be great theres a story right so 1st you want to list out whatever the story is those are the obstacles oh my god its not that great people arent going to receive it well. I have a deadline whatever it is every single detail what the obstacles that has taken a look at the opportunity that is behind those obstacles so lets say its. A. I have a deadline and this isnt going to be great so it could be that in that theres an opportunity to potentially bring in a collaborator the opportunity could be calling the director or agent or person youre working with like the opportunity could be using that energy a creative block im talking about a character whos just stuck in his life and navigating experience through that character likes theres some opportunity even in this idea of feeling stuck for everyone its different. So when somebody looks at it differently theyre going to make a decision different so if somebody viewing it as oh my god this deadline is coming up this is crap im not going be able to do it the one decision they may maybe stress maybe lack of sleep maybe. Complaining maybe being themselves like theyre not really doing anything right theyre just kind of stuff if someone saying hey this is not particularly that one decision may be. Calling someone that really inspires you and connecting with it could be trained on you the opportunities that are on that track or music from the eightys or ninetys or whatever whatever you like that always gets your juices going the opportunity could be. Putting that Creative Energy a feeling stock like is that into the character so its really you make a decision based on it being an opportunity the outcome is going to be significantly different if youre making a decision from the opportunity because in this scenario the one decision that would be made with feeling stuck theres no solution it is just kind of time will go bob and so what ive found is everyone authentically has resources inside of insults that they dont realize they have and once they realize that they can make decisions towards it was a little too conceptual about not just ask a basic question and you gave me a basic answer i define proximity to the abyss is a great motivator you know people are always talking about stress in life and how i some people it seems like theyre in the the boy in the bubble they want to go through their life like life is a series of stresses stresses managed and i have found in my career whenever i had my own what was the old name for heels on your share that caught him catspaws whatever i had backed up in my cats paws ragging over the vets i tended to get really motivated less y. D. Really perceptive and better of what we had right now because i backed up this far as i can so i sometimes think i would say stress is under the rubric of the many of those i would say stress can be its own opportunity if you dont treat it like a completely it devastated by the rather great motivator. Yeah or the. Some people do really well with like ok i got to take this out in a day here. Whereas theyre not going to do it if its a month or 2. When you 1st went on to im trying to think for a young cat in your gig one of the great thrills must have been getting on with dr phil now when you 1st go to go on are you making so much of it that youre rendering our self sometimes thats another problem i have in life i think you have to play it cool with yourself so you have to just go is a well ive got to do that if i cant make more of it than it is and how do your parents work with their going mantra 40 appearances how youre working now why at the 1st i viewed each episode as it could be my last so i tried to get the mindset being grateful for it i didnt expect to be on more than a few times because thats typically how much experts were on. Dr phil was so generous you lay flew me to dallas got me my book each and wrote the foreword of the 1st book went through notes with me taught me how to. Talk about the book tommy i mean hes like been the best mentor ever for me and. Im just grateful like i didnt i that its interesting because sometimes like we think we have to have a vision for something in order to do it and then really have a vision like i never thought i would be paired up with dr phil and pete cuttin such a wide range of people in the moment on a program like that but. Its i try to you know im actually going to talk to dr phil when i see oprah see him in a week or 2 when i found that recently ive struggled a little bit with like. Now that ive done that and youve been doing this for years you could coach me on this but its once you start getting people wanting you to speak in one you to do this and that its hard sometimes where gets a little bit addictive like the high the intensity of how great things are going and i want to get back on a taco and be like art for i dont get back to just thinking its about this one episode and nothing else matters. I mean im sure youve gone through so many cycles of this trade. You know what i would say this i wouldnt trust fame i wouldnt trust celebrity. I 8 would trust the fact that you seem to have some ability and im sure dr phil studies show this trust me hes not having you on more than a few times if it doesnt show that he youre making a dent with some people what way you can always trust that somewhere along the way your vulnerabilities your travails your area edition the way you carry yourself has allowed you to make a dent on people thats its own blessing now attendant to that miss world once you make a dent on people you can almost pick and choose the world is your oyster thats the part that if you spent too much time on that and not enough time on wrecking a dent on people you wont be making a dent on people anymore so all that think about it gets addicting you know why because youre an addict you know that im not an attic nearly. So i dont miss nor are you about the problems rather you know all i know it was at some point after that speech is done after youve made a legit impact the best thing is probably ive ever dean martin your stories go back to our room and read zane grey was stance and let the world make up what you know what a rat factory was some for you got to get back to just mike you know i mean theres a coach by people calling you and if you buy into that so much brother youre going to have to call a mike guy somewhere down the road then ask him to do you know youre so youre so right because it would fast you know theres nothing in my view theres Nothing Better than helping someone slight turn on like to me thats like. I love life and i love better not to wait out someones life turn on and whenever im staying focused on that it works out you can use it when you suddenly get focused on the high of it all youre right you know thats when you can argue are already coached me in your answer to form you close a good thing you know theres those big theres the big curl off the north shore and then theres a nice endless summer way i try to treat it all like an endless summer way you get up easily and you could ride it for 30 minutes that would be my advice to a life coach as if i should tell you ellis or brother get get the people out there lets talk about weve got people in storms and their life once again were talking to a life coach youve seen a many times doc felt like there got a new book out called one decision the 1st step to a better life weve broken the book that we did the for us oh i cut him off im not rudely i want to die but for us tell me about the force again before we move on youre the force is the driver behind the optic at which we look at it as not score an opportunity so i love an acronym so the negative force is when we fortune tell we overgeneralize rigid thinking confused purpose and emotional reasoning thats when feelings arent facts we cant overgeneralize humans like is everyones like this we cant predict the future you know its all the things right thats the negative force thats what gets in our way of going were going to make a decision the positive force is fact finding objective thinking relax thinking clarify purpose and evidence peace reasoning and its really about the facts its about looking at whats in the moment and its just really important before we start to make for some people they would consider in Big Decisions is that were making sure were looking at through a lens as it being an opportunity if you will that. Very meek decisions that are. Its funny as you delineated that the force concept it sounds a lot like objectivism to me ive always been a 9 rand akhil i mean some of it got crazy when she would talk about in the part of a Atlas Shrugged where people on a train where she reverse engineer is why they get killed the train wreck thats all crazy to me but the object of side of it they had their reasoning side of it the not basing everything on emotion side of it im hardly a bloodless man but i agree you got to take a breath and look at it from the ether and go what the hell is going on here 1st before i decide whether i should cry or laugh at this i think you should be a moment where you catch your breath yeah sure we certainly know other people or do something we dont we regret so that obviously i dont want it to i know your life coach and i want to put you in the guise of a 911 operator right now but there are people out there right now especially with this thing which has turned us all inward and sometimes when youre forced in word in an allegorical sense inside your house if the look inward a lot of people are spoke right now a lot of people are on the ledge right now weirded out 6 maybe found the truth or a secret about themselves they failed to acknowledge and now its right there in their face because the rest of the world isnt in their face on a day to day basis give me 3 things somebody whos right now in the white water in the churn can do once they recognize theyve got a problem what 3 things do you think are pivotal to somebody whos in the fight right now. Well i mean im im im a free group every tuesday so anyone can come do it its a 5 pm i am one. Of different speakers every week its free and another free food and well has majority of stuff i really enjoy i do for free so you know that i have a bunch of Resources Available theres no up sell theres no like im going to make you money and save your life and since i love doing so people can go to my website coach might bear and in terms of what people could do right now. Community is what causes lack of community is where a lot of People Struggle so during the scope it period of life i connect more with the person whos all alone. And alone with their own thoughts and. I me just all say like we sent one suicidal ideations i cry in a month ill write the treatments i own now get set right so its a real thing well yeah and community is number one its like you gotta figure out a Community Community of people who feel the same way theres a free support groups resources but once you get a community you can also get someone to mentor most communities have mentors. Its a part of the d. N. A. Of the community now look im not a big follower in general i you know no no want to be more like i dont like groups or i dont like doing this but the reality is we all need we need a Community Issue that is what its. The brotherhood im a longer im a loner by a whole life thats why i got in the comedy but i found out that does not mean i dig being alone. You got open yourself up to the fellowship and then think about every serious moment youve had your life folks and what eventually began the tree as you was letting it out of your head out your mouth and onto the ear of another human being at some point that would be the best advice like you cant believe the difference between in here shoot it out here out here then you can commence a healing long as stays in here youre not even up to logic at all right weve dug our time with mike there is like i said a Life Development coach New York Times best selling author and the new book is one decision the 1st step to a better life and we appreciate your time today coach hope to see it done the wrote thanks for having me appreciated. Brother. Thats my grad this been Dennis Miller plus one. Is your media a reflection of reality. In a world transformed. What will make you feel safe. Isolation or community. Are you going the right way or are you being led. Direct. What is truth more is faith. In the world corrupted you need to descend. To join us in the depths. Or remain in the shallows. Right now there are 1000000 people who are overweight or obese its profitable to self and thirties and sugary and salty and addictive its not at the individual level its not individual well power and if we go on believing that would never change this obesity epidemic that industry has been influencing very deeply the medical and scientific establishment. Some of whats driving the obesity epidemic its call for both of. Them. In the headlines this friday that threatens to restrict vaccine exports to the u. K. As a. British move supplies to the continent. You know all these special Election Campaign winds to a halt in parts of the country as doses one prompting doctors to question the. System. Is not being delivered at the rate that we anticipate its a real problem for the National Vaccination plan and it means autonomy will have to review their strategy. And britain tightens its low