I was on a drill meeting with our g. P. And coming back. From there and started noticing that i was feeling different all the blood and like youre either believing or youre pregnant and all like i dont think im believing the like i had all the time is i like well i watch the pregnancy tests and i was like what is and a leg. And so i go to the pregnancy test and they came out positive and just kind of frightening so my mom told me what any other parent would say to their kid. Youre going to be fine were going to get through this no matter what happened. What am i going to do now when my going to finish school how am i going to do any of the sat all. The images. Terrified out of my mind. It turns out in the. Us right now an awful lot of children are being born to parents and parents who are not married to each other and that is a bad out 50 percent at the births amongst the youngest generation in other words about half of the birth and the youngest generation are babies born outside of marriage to typically quite young parents we have been on over the years by careful studies the kids who are from single parent families generally get less education than. In themselves have less. They also in the past and. Then kids who come from married couple from. One of our kids with their married parents live for their whole childhood with their married parents that also make a huge difference theyll do better in school will be more likely will college and even though they might compositions changed dramatically over the last 3 or 4 decades more kids are in still poor families who are kids were both their parents i think americans are going to figure this out Single Parents alone have high stress levels stigma because it gets them because theyre Single Parents. As teenagers we have these adult problems that we feel like were adults but where were very malleable isnt that were still children in a way our emotions go up and down and go when happens is the many kids are making these very tough decisions around friends and peer groups and theyre making a lot of decisions around relationships and who their phone love with its with the with those people and its just this kind of like these tough things like what really into a lot of kids in poverty. I never thought i would. Ever play because i was i am i fell out. Training i do so much charity work so Much Community service org everyone at school is like 20 spring visits to a smart one and she would get one from her family is a shiva church girl i never thought this would happen. You dont think from one night. Its going to pop out 9 months later you just think oh i have it once youre going to live. And have. No one you see the picture of blue your whole world just. Turned upside down. And when we talk about participating in risky behavior whether were talking about having sex doing drugs drinking watching pornography whatever it is getting involved in social media. Becoming really addicted to whatever device it is that youre using if were talking about any of those risks to be i think its important to consider. The outcomes of those that its important to consider that were not living for just this moment we have a child dont. Really think about the cost that it takes to be a parent the cost in time the cost and finances and i would encourage you to wait until youre married before you have kids wait until you know youve got that 2nd parent that 2nd income that can help you raise that child what kills me is when i see a kid with all the academics to rock it you know they get these all lazy finally they finally break this Glass Ceiling where you put all this hard work in their academics and then they get pregnant with their with their High School Sweetheart and i think literally just take 3 steps back and i think its because theres this. Intelligence we just dont talk about like relationship and the strategy around what. You do as an emotional. Ive always been a daddys girl i would go to him for everything. You know when i got pregnant. And so long he has different views than i did when i told him i was going to keep matthew. Youre going to keep. Im not going to keep you. Completely. I had april 26th. I called him a month later to see how he was doing. To catch up to see if you wanted to see my son he called me. But i still cant believe you decided to keep him you could have had a future now youre not going to have anything. And its still 3 years. And i havent heard from him ive heard it from people one of my teachers actually. When i wasnt there and everyone from the class told me she said when he was my daughter i would take the baby away from her and raise it myself for the sake of a future but now shes not going to amount to anything. And hearing from my dad now. And saying youre not going to amount to anything youre not going to have a future anymore because i decided to keep my son. It broke me. As a society have lied to you weve been dishonest. Because what we have said. Is that you can behave any way that you choose you can make any decision or choice that you want to make whatever you feel this day you can make those kinds of decisions and we will do the best that we can to alleviate the cons. But the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequence that is true that you make your own decisions you can choose any of. These paths that you want to choose but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences there are consequences for the choices that you make having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that youre trying to fill it only creates more and more of a vast open and. Within you because you are opening yourself in the most mourner of a way to another human being who is in no way committed to and his whose actions are really out of selfishness and likely and a desire to meet a need that day. The day i had him i started getting ready i started getting pain and then but when i got there they told me it was too late for me to have it. Im just bawling my eyes out i was like i dont know what to do ive never done this and whenever he got there. I was scared the 1st time i change just. Like i care to change the diaper he will finish but what do you mean you can change diapers like i cant do this i am fix tina i can do this i cannot support him i cannot just call work and raise a child. Bearing a precious little boy mile at me and im thinking i cant do that at all the only thing going through my head was i cannot do that. If you find yourself pregnant at 15 there is no easy option for you you can choose to have an abortion and that is not an easy option it leaves damage for the rest of your life for you and for your family. Having a child at 15 made all kinds of issues because now youre not just a Typical High School kid your response. For another human being youre going to have to find a way to bring in candy youre going to have to take into a sick baby in the middle of the night when you have homework and yes to get a person you can go to class yourself and then your other option would be to place your baby for adoption which is the most difficult decision ive ever seen a young person it is a wonderful choice and it is often the best choice for that child but it is heart wrenching and extremely difficult so once you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy we cant take away those consequences and you now have very difficult decisions to make. So i have my little brother i have my son. Will be about to be so when it 1st i wake up at 6 in the morning at around 7 i will wake up my little brother and that around 720 i will get ready ill drop him off at my sisters at 730 take my little brother discussed 730 i get the school and im racing im rushing to get there i get out of school at 130 and i was going to work out to get off the school i had some. I play with matthew for the 30 minutes but i have and then i go to work and whenever i get my 30 minute lunch break do the same thing go to my sisters house. Go back and then i get off before for on mine i put them both ways after i put them both to sleep i will start working on my homework got around 1030 and i usually fall asleep at or about we want to. Join me every. Time im sure and ill be speaking to the world. Im sure because most. Ah no team no crowd. No shots no. Action well to be. Well strap no 1st. Which your thirst for action. Immediately you see you dont need. Him you dont need your new music you dont get even. Just you have just to get. Did you have to live so one day. When you are. Actually i think he sees it b. Could be charged because each week in christs dairies where bush needs to be tracked. Oh my one is a mighty im not one. To side on the one. Hand the vows of a time about the same position as a bit. More about the. One with the one in the side the fulfillment. See in the following to him but im before. Him by the. Him out by now im by the im not gonna. Leave so what i would say to a 15 year old is. Have. You are. You are incapable that you are selfish because i dont believe any of those things that i. Believe that you have purpose i believe that greatness is only. Believe that you bring value into other peoples lives and bring value into the law if you choose to hear that its not going to do things and we have failed and it is now our job. To enable you to make better choices for. My mama watch. How their. I love. And. Love differently. Taking. Over my head. She told me for the 1st time i know i never tell you this often but im so proud of you. You are. Born. For me to get. Everything that. Was the best. This is what i have. For im proud of. Theres a group of the injured were jews part river when someone in the group noticed a baby floating down the street. One of the men rushed into the water rescued the baby and brought it to shore before it could recover a number of babies were found floating downstream before long there was a steady flow of babies floating down the river and the whole village was involved in the rescue efforts pulling babies out of the water and making sure they were made safe but not all of them could be. Some are pulled under by the raging river whether slipped through the villagers hands while others fell back into the water as the villagers tried to save them. The villagers were saving as many babies as they could but before long they became exhausted from all their effort. Frustrated controversy erupted too much when a group argued that every possible hand was needed downstream to help rescue the babies they didnt have everyones help they would lose too many downstream. The other group argued that every possible hand was needed upstream to get find out how the babies were getting into the water they could save all of them and eliminate the need for the costly and time consuming efforts downstream. To find out how these babies are falling into the river in the 1st place we can stop this and no more babies will drown if we go upstream we can eliminate the cause of the problem. But its too risky some said might fail or take too long to lose too many lives. Away to the ones weve lost and our future children to fix the problem upstream and save one else from falling into the hands. I drank from a separate water fountain. When i found a lot about. The case but was different about the water. Coming out of the founder. Of the mountain that i wasnt supposed. To the go up my real life most of the. People from completely. All that life. Based around. With the children you know there are 2 ways to address poverty one is to try to prevent it from ever occurring in the 1st place and the 2nd is if it does occur to a mill youre right you know provide people with assistance with child care with out say it has to be but. You have to help those who are in need now and you have to help those. In the future in order to do both you have to not only work downstream you have to have the circumstances that got us where we are. And so our approach to every person every stanley and poverty needs to be is unique as that person in that family and thats difficult to do and its a little overwhelming to think about but people are different its interesting looking back historically on what weve done to address poverty in the United States its mostly been to provide people with assistance of various kinds and those things are needed i think we should not leave people destitute and without such assistance bob theres not a lot of evidence that those things are going to move people out of poverty except temporarily i dont think americans are and. Simply redistributing and what they want is to provide everyone an opportunity to get ahead on their we believe in equality of opportunity. Equality of results. I went to a conference once the conference was an opportunity conference where we invited 74 families from our community and hopes to just allow a pathway to cycle out of poverty majority of the people in this conference were a generational poverty so they came in and they heard from dr beagle are her story and were encouraged it was a 6 hour program and she would say how many of you know what it is to have a disconnect notice how many of you know what it is to receive an eviction notice and before long arms were coming up and she allowed them to see that if i can do it you can too we all have hope with this sometimes just gets buried so i had the opportunity to visibly see hope rise to the surface of 74 people and thats not something that you can contain we knew you cant contain hope i left this place with hope and im going to tell everybody about it i want them to know what i know and im going to succeed because people came in the room they didnt know me and i matter i wasnt born. I am hard. Right im no longer in this isolation where im irrelevant or i have to walk around and lead with this label of shame little by little the hope starts to take that label off and when people come into place youre able to replace that label with words of worth instead of allowing that person to feel. All. Are the same when it comes to what our basic needs are and what our basic desires are and i think if we really think about what we have in common with one another thats where we can start to create a basis of understanding a person saying im not going to judge you im not going to criticize you im not going to do you value your lived experience big dream youve ever had is still. When i was growing up. Like there were a few kids that were completely off. And there were a few kids that were trying really hard to make good choices and really had their focus at where it needed but most of us were somewhere in this gray area where were trying to get our toes as close to the line as we can without completely stepping over but we werent really convicted either way were just all kind of trying to get by getting. What i see now is that there are more kids off the rails. There are very few kids in this very area. But there are a lot of young people who are committed who are strong who are focused who want to make good this. And who are making and having an impact on the people around. That is my hope for the next generation. And that hope comes from the stories that we tell that hope comes from us saying to our scholars you can do this were going to stand by were going to help you get through this day after the power to turn the ship away and. Happens by making one good decision after that. One of the bigger you have to realize the things you do from 14 to 24 hour compound interest of things that like were going to take you to places that you cant even understand what you do to day is going to play more compound interest that anything else youre playing a game thats bigger than yourself youre playing a game for yourself or your familys name or your kids that dont even exist yet when your grandkids who are going to benefit off of the hard work you put into that. Not all poverty is preventable but we know certainly that based on research and research that were using for our programs some of that can be preventable we want to help them we want to help the Community Around us nats what were trying to rally our Community Around and support a lot of times when i work with people who currently live in the crisis of poverty theyll say im not smart enough to get a skill not smart enough to go to college to ask for help you got to ask for help in poverty issue dont ask for help. Thats the wrong message. Nobody makes it alone absolutely no and we have to Work Together we have to overlap with other organizations we have to be community is the key is allowing hope but we cant allow hope we cant communicate we cant allow worth until theres a relationship if we can spark a movement that not only helps those who are in the river but also gives them the tools to help their kids and their kids kids not be in the river thats the movement we want only reach out to people across. These barriers of poverty barriers of political opinions. We can really find some unique treasures in people who are different from us and find out that theyre not so different after all. 54 jets and more than 1300 military personnel are headed to air force base in alaska where is that to say come on ill show you whats the reason for any type of enhanced u. S. Military presence in this area rush up. What is it suddenly about the South China Sea that makes it so that it 11000000000 barrels of oil. Take a look at this map who really owns what kind of says no it belongs to us india says no we claim that that belongs to us both of these countries have Nuclear Weapons capabilities there is reason for concern so thats why were going to drill down on this story for you today right here on the news with rick sanchez where you know as we always like to say we do believe by golly its time to do news again. We are segregated only by social class. People also in poverty. If youre born into a 4 family if youre born into a minority family if youre born into a family that only has a single parent that really constrains your life chances people die now they stick to one years old if youre born into generational poverty. Its a. Fight every day so you meet your needs and the needs of your family. Is anyone safe in the air a wrong way conservatives are form the monetized and shout those were the easy ones now the mob is turning on its own wrong thing demands conformity does not. Is freedom of speech now only. During the vietnam war us forces neighboring laos it was a secret war. And for years the American People did not know. How much it is officially mouse heavily bombed country per capita. Human history millions of unexploded bombs still in danger lives in this Small Agricultural country 200 i really dont think going to happen again even today kids in laos full victims of bombs dropped decades ago is the us making amends for that tragedy and. Help to the people need in the too little land of mines. And the headlines today russia rejects britains claims of hacking and the foreign secretary describes as almost certain meddling and last years general election i asked people in london for their thoughts. Sometimes i think these things will distract all people discourse smokescreen you know just to watch you know distract us from whats really going on i dont think its productive to play her shrink id rather be blaming cummings before i blame groceries. Plus months after a Delivery Driver died when French Police restrained him and a chokehold during a routine traffic stop and 3 officers are now in