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Next thing i mellow was laying on the ground i was struck from behind. And you guys will hold me down to one day i was pulling my pants down. And. You know. I was taking care of his business and you know struggled and i was being struck and hit and told you know told to shut up or theyd kill me. And i see i would destroy my life. I mean ive been married 3 times this luckily i have a wife right now who ive been married to for 25 years. You start wondering you start sort of you know youre coming up with reasons why things are the way they are and for a long time i kept thinking i dont know this something something else. I had never told anybody over 30 years i decided to tell my wife. It was the scariest moment in my life i was going tell my wife she was going to leave me and i would be lost without her i mean honest to god i couldnt i couldnt get up every morning without my wife. You know. And i told i felt horrified and i felt sad and i felt angry and you know all along the course of the evening you know feelings just started to surface that were probably just simmering for a very very long time and she put her arms around me and were both there and saw it was like. This great weight had been lifted off for me. I think its important to recognize that military sexual trauma is not limited to women and in fact when it comes to the absolute numbers because of the proportion of men in much larger numbers than women actually the numbers are even greater. Or i think one of the last bits of research showed that about one percent of males had been. It seems a Sexual Assault within the past year in the military that equals to about 20000. 00 youll get labeled as a body and thats the lowest term to be related to so its one of the things that you just dont you dont talk about it or you dont bring in what is your sense you just kind of keep yourself its really really hard to forget. In the up until now is. They live in my head i can hear them. I can see their faces i can see what theyre doing to me. So i felt scared. And i was scared to tell my friends the people that really knew me the truth about what happened the shame as bad as it is for women is even worse for men because its all tied in with him a phobia the people who are doing the raping are not gay thats not the problem theyre worried about gays in the military the gays are not the rapists theyre heterosexual man for the most part this is not an issue of Sexual Orientation this is simply an issue power and violence male sexual predators for the large part of charge of whoever is there to prey upon whether thats men or women whenever. There is. Evidence of another when one has been sexually assaulted the question i keep asking myself is when does this ever. Breaking news at this hour but maybe appears to be facing a huge sex scandal details are still covering yeah. This used world news tonight with Peter Jennings to do were going to begin tonight by putting a human face on the worst case of Sexual Harassment of the navys history at an annual naval aviators convention called the Tailhook Convention so your office whos. Been included the socalled stand up or the specific purpose of targeting and sexually molesting women. I got off the elevator on the 3rd floor you can see it to be 200 men. It was just a few steps into the hallway before. They closed ranks around me and then it happened very quickly that from both sides and from behind men came in and started reaching in my shirt i was getting pushed down to the floor and some was reaching under my skirt point my underwear off and it was about maybe 30 or 40 feet of 200 guys trying to pull my clothes off like i was a high value target the investigation was finally begun. But 1500 interviews later the navys Inspector General reported that his investigators were being stonewalled a great wall of silence had gone up to protect the guilty. The us army today is trying to establish the extent of a new and growing rape and Sexual Harassment scandal at all took place at the army base at Aberdeen Proving Ground where 30 women have filed complaints of sexual advances that range from unwanted touching to rape and forcible sodomy acceptable conduct for shoulders to bow to the army and we have 0 tolerance. 12 years ago that still looks sex scandal shook the u. S. Navy and the air force faces what may be an even bigger problem and other sexual abuse at the air force academy in Colorado Springs 100 out of 42 allegations of assault against women have been made in the last decade highest ranking air force generals knew about Serious Problems of Sexual Assault at the academy yet failed to take action we dont intend to sweep this under the rug we take it very seriously were going to address it publicly in Congress Outraged senators accused the air force brass of ignoring assaults on women we have a clear pattern. Of reports of Sexual Assault where the reaction of the air force academy seems to be to blame the victim we are in the process of is to those changes now the process reinstituting those changes now obviously you and i and secretary of fundamental disagreement here. In a small post in washington d. C. Karim pride history and tradition living. Room barracks in washington d. C. Is the most prestigious unit there is in the marine corps this is the unit where the best of the best go it is the marine corps showcase ceremonial unit it handles president s and dignitaries security at the white house the silent drill team. After a deployment to Operation Iraqi freedom in 2009 my command officer recommended me for the Marine Barracks washington i was excited it was the tip of the spear as far as the marine corps is concerned. He would stay work late and then she would drive home and she called me and shed be on some kind a little and she talked about how she loved her job she was a. Sweet person who was trying really hard. And succeeding. One of the 1st things i was told my entire dinner was. Dont worry because the marines will think you want to sleep with them and i thought thats just ridiculous the atmosphere off the bat at Marine Barracks washington was was horrible people asked me what sexual favors had i performed to get my orders there. There is a senior officer in my command who the 1st time he spoke to me he said marines here are nothing but objects for the marines to. Shows up at my work. All of the new females get talked about. So. I mean i did it got progressively worse and worse they determined that i welcome the Sexual Harassment by wearing my regulation length uniform skirt and running and running shorts. There were several junior female marines that came up to me crying while i was there saying that they felt humiliated to come to work. The. One of the duties at Marine Barracks washington was a ceremonial drill. Evening parades are what you would see on the news the. President everybody goes to those type of things. After the parades. All the officers are required to stay told. During consider house washington so were talking about ones the happy hours that started 3 and. It was partying and drinking culture. And going out and partying and drinking i was ordered to drink i was ordered to attend the drinking. My boss even said. That they were mandatory to me shes like we do our best work at these events we went to various bars and the goal was to do a shot at each one paid for by the marine corps youre talking about youre going to dance for other Senior Officers that are drinking to the point of hands you know passing out on mont lawns this is the norm at one bar i had water and i was ordered to shot anyways and told i needed to take 2 shots to make up for that. I left the bar to get a cab my Company Commander followed me and said i need to talk to you about some things so we walked up the stairs into his office there was a little bit of a struggle he tried to kind of make an advance and try to kiss me i tried to leave any slammed the door on my arm. I fell on the ground and hit my face on his desk and the next thing i realized was i had woken up wearing his shorts with all of my clothes off and tremendous pain i knew enough about me that something wasnt right and i had felt entirely violated. The colonel at one point said you know i was heading home or boys girls now call just dont mix well never really know what happened inside that office only when the major knowing hes not talking so at this point the investigation is closed for lack of evidence and we have reopened a new investigation against you for conduct unbecoming an officer and public intoxication. Time after time corporations repeat the same mantra sustainability its very important to excel or it transitions to sustainable prize board sustainability explainable or man not a more equitable and sustainable world. They claim their production is completely harmless followed. The models and got it into something Companies Want us to feel good about buying their products while the damage is being done far away this is 2nd eldest must be going to anyone and i mean look to simon and you missed me doing the name and im stymied seen them in the best understood will to work so when and. When ill choke small seemed wrong all rolled just dont call. Me old baby yet to shape out just being an advocate and in gains from an equal betrayal. When so many find themselves worlds apart. Chance to look for common ground. I remember going to the bar. Was an officer that said about shots for us after id had a couple drinks. Thats all i remember. As i was certain were you know his fellow officer 5 was that he had. Got called up to the majors office and he charged me with fractionation adultery he was married i wasnt there i was tried but i dont dream. I told her. About militia in the commons and he said. You know you should do what a marine officer should do and thats to ignore it and move on. I used to lie way compared to you know wondering. What i could do to help her get out. Hes. Told me. That he was going to have his friend marvin from india to kill me and throw me in it did because thats how they took care of things in india and. She went to war and 9 years for a life. For them to take it. And come back and say boy yes they called you a yes they called you a yes they called you a walking mattress its documented over and over and over again when you deserved it and you and when you complained about it you were welcoming it. The actions of my seniors both in the assault and in the ensuing investigations have really destroyed me. When you when your wife to. Remember rummage through the house searching for the suicide note be to call the police one hand. Put your restraining her from killing herself with the other the. I think the thing that makes me the most angry is not even read and its all bits the commanders that were complicit in covering up everything that happened. This is an organization that gives commanders an unbelievable amount of power and i felt it as a lieutenant in iraq its scary you appoint the prosecution you appoint the defense you appoint the investigator in charge of the police force youre in charge of the community. Youre on everything you are judge or jury or executioner most americans assume that there is access to a system of justice so that for example of your civilian and your rape you can call the police and then you have prosecutors other federal prosecutors state prosecutors local prosecutors they bring the perpetrator to justice the problem with the military is that instead they have to go to their chain of command now in our system of military justice it is the commander whos responsible you know to the chain of command for how that investigation proceeds i know that theres been no. I was in my career that i regretted the new vigil commander hood the the total see saw over a case and most them dont have the training or the education to determine whats appropriate and serious foley commodus cations the problem in the military is the convening authority who is not legally trained makes the final decision. They have a team to command and while its squadron where the Credit Rating it was still station. Hed only been and command for 4 days and he made the decision over legal to stop the case when i saw as was commanders i mean our Field Grade Officers Lieutenant Colonels colonels. Who have been 2025 years in other career officers. Sweep cases under the rug the last thing a Company Commander in the army wants to do is make the phone call to his or her Battalion Commander to say i have had a an allegation of a rape in my unit this is viewed in many cases as a failure to command that will adversely then affect their career sometimes youd see a guy get for 5 years for selling minor amount of drugs and youd see a guy get you know 2 weeks of duty for rape that the military hides behind this notion that it is really really hard almost impossible to prosecute rape but when you look at prosecution rates in the 2010 department of defense reports you begin with 2410 unrestricted reports and 748 were strict it what that means is theyve already funneled 748 Sexual Assault victims into a system that has absolutely no adjudication whatsoever. Then you take the 2410 that have been reported of those they identified 3223 perpetrators know why. It happens once you send a perpetrator over to command well the command has just completely unfettered discretion to do whatever it is they want and what is it that they do do 1st off they dropped 910 of them they just dont do anything then of the 1025 where they actually take some action do they Court Martial them know only half of them 529 actually got Court Martialled the rest 256 were subjected to article 15 punishments 190 administrative discharges and then 131 to quote other adverse administrative actions whatever that means and then of the convictions where they actually get jail time when you work your way all the way through the numbers what youre looking at is that out of 3223 perpetrators only 175 end up doing any jail time whatsoever. I have been in congress for 7 terms now and every single term we have had meetings with d. O. T. D. And they come in and they confirm to the us to us were going to be serious were going to take care of this were going to stop this 0 tolerance but the rhetoric is not being turned into the reality of protecting our women and in some cases men and our military and their like but we have to start programs like great. What is that to take a strongly suggest to the military to do something i saw brothers and sisters. Personal duty to prevent Sexual Assault they cant order them they cant enforce it they dont back it up in april of this year we will debut a social Marketing Campaign as part of our prevention strategy that insect saw as an arc of my. Soul i saw my buddies do the strong. I asked her when she said its ludicrous you know its so youre 20 you know we have posters that say what. Until shes sober i most remarkable thats allowed to pass and in todays military weve implemented training at each and every level of military service from the moment they end of the service and basic training they are given that our campaign consist of a series of posters that are actually training tools and each of those posters has a different focus you cannot perform Sexual Assault with pretty posters posters do not prevent sexual predators from preying upon women and men in the military were talking about people barging into rooms in the middle of the night no poster is going to prevent a criminal from version of his or violent people but one of the things that we do in our prevention strategy is to focus on Bystander Intervention and strategy and in that training we ask for each soldier sailor airman or marine to be aware of what Sexual Assault is and how to prevent it so far is a joke the things that they say ignored or there may. Be. Closer to real when. You know it might be a video or 20 slides its like a lot of military training words once a year check in the box. Welcome back a little yeah its just a short walk to watch you. And all the money seems to be spent on advertising which is just right with victim blaming. The right for this i just want to let you. Know that the guys who grabbed me are you by yourself or your body and everything they needed was Sexual Assault is are you doing your part and so this notion that you know essentially like anyone could be a rape as we all have to be on alert. It misses an opportunity to take real steps towards preventing rape if they actually had systems of accountability that prosecuted and imprisoned perpetrators you would get rid of a lot of the rapes right away how would you characterize the typical sex offender well if i look at our data from the department of defense young people that are ages 18 to 2425 when you say that most of them are serial rapists i dont have data one way or the other to determine that what percentage of the rapes do you think are caused by serial predator. I dont i dont have any numbers i dont know how to i dont think we collect that type of data theres been studies done of people who enter the military are twice as likely to have committed rape as equivalent population in the civilian world im not aware of that study my area of expertise focuses primarily on prevention and victim care but were prevention include focusing on the perpetrators. I notice that dr kay whitley is not in her chair is it under your direction that she has not shown her testimony this morning yes or do you have an executive privilege to do a search no sir youve instructed her not to come what is your reason for doing that if you find the departments response in provisions efforts fall short of your expectations responsibility for that shortfall rests with me the ridiculous answer what is it is that youre trying to hide we all remember tailhook at the scandal and how the military tried to cover that up i dont know who you think elected you to defy the congress of the United States were an independent branch of government so for now is to make it you are dismissed. Intimacy is definitely in fact in. Ill go for months without status. I have to initiate if im comfortable enough im having a good day and i think my husband looks off in the day i have to initiate. When he comes up and hugs me sometimes i cringe and i just want him to you know like hell feel it oh. Oh oh oh oh oh yes i do yeah yeah. Sometimes i think if when he has sex with me is he thinking about even me getting raped is he upset is he in now because i think of i think about that it all right never does it not enter my head thats why i didnt want to have sex for a while. When we almost split up because theres stuff i feel like im responsible. I dont know what id do if i was drop. A goal. So long as. Hes like me only supporter. Like my own blood. Here will ya please do you think. The more operation in her dying water some of the wealthier neighborhoods its been far more contained and the numbers are much lower than some of the poor neighborhoods start to. Think were working with outside state because theyre just short in their year so im not going to go. We start to add to. The need for good in each. Other than the men for us who want to. Make it on the better side going to the book or useless all that business and just soon you instead of moving. The Emotional Learning t. M. Must do i feel still really stuck or your muscles from the course of your knee which resists into that of. The gut feel that the church. Will settle into business compassion and that. We think she minds be soldier dickys also the boot shes wearing. To church so the sold out so its can move the opposable opinion more than with like it on the show stuck in that summarizing the police force sort of us hold up. Greetings and cell you take a shit in the world of us pandemic politics we are on public manipulation overdrive my friends with more than 70000 us deaths and climbing we havent seen this kind of spin control coming out of washington d. C. Since w m ds and dick cheneys iraq war and you can find no better example of this than from our very own brand name in chief us President Donald Trump who took to the airwaves tuesday night and laid bare just who the American People are to him

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