H cent should go to a killer dress. Never gonna get it by en vogue and heels. And a blowout. Mani pedi. Three weeks of tanning. Facial. A backup dress. Bronzer, lip gloss. Book for as low as 73 dollars oneway now at southwest. Com. Coming up today on intelligence for your life, ladies, if you want to boost your Online Dating, you may want to redo your makeup. Also well tell you about disenfranchised grief. Its the connection between you and your Favorite Book or movie character. And the way brain experts say parents should respond to their babbling babies. And well tell you why length time youre eating a low cal meal you should eat it while looking at a chosy pizza. Get ready. Because intelligence for your life starts now. Your life. Im john tesh. We have another favorite psychologist who has come up with saying. I looked at the definition and i caught this thing too, its called disenfranchised grief. Do you know what this is . Grief thats not allowed to vote. Somebody elses grief. If you cried when jack in the movie titanic died youre not weird, youre just experiencing disenfranchised grief. So it refers to the real sadness we feel when a character weve identified with dies. For me ive said this before, the first 15 minutes of up gets me every time. You were at our house sitting in a chair with your daughter and i walked by and tears are streaming down your face. I said, what are you doing . They make you cry in the first 15 minutes . Its the most powerful theres like no dialogue. Its one of the most powerful 15 minutes of film making. Just a great moment. If a kind hearted drug dealer gets killed on breaking bad we may feel bad but we know he had it coming. He does bad things by accident. They want you to cry in movies. Thats what theyre going for. We just saw al pacino in danny collins. I cried in that. I cried when he made the intent to get his family back together. You cried because hes an aging rocker and it reminded you of me. Aging new age rocker. I cried when edward died in game of thrones. I went to see that musical did you cry . I did, and ill tell you why. It was so overwhelming. It was like oh my gosh. I would never in my life be able to create Something Like that. Thats franchised grief. For me the biggest example of this is when we lose wilson in cast away. Hes losing a volleyball. I projected my projection to a bloody face to the point i care he lost a volleyball. You know whats really interesting about this and for you folks at home, too. I think that we all have experienced this, right . I just never knew it was called disenfranchised grief. So its when you have that feeling thats what youre having. Youre experiencing a normal condition. Youre identifying with the characters. I cry on documentaries. Thats really sad. Ladies, if you want to boost your Online Dating mojo, you may need to redo your makeup and take another pro file photo. Because studies have been conducted to figure out what type of makeup men find appealing. If you wear no other makeup let it be eye liner or eye shadow. Research of men looking at womens faces shows their gaze lingered longer on a womans eyes. And women got twice the messages from male users after posting a picture of themselves wearing eye makeup. Next, put on red lipstick. A study at Manchester University found that men look at the faces of women who arent wearing lipstick for about two seconds. But they took four times longer at the same woman wearing red lipstick with pink coming in second. Other studies show we tend to rate women with red lipstick as stronger and more ambitious. Another way to get a mans attention online, wear less makeup. A study found that men prefer women who wear 40 less makeup than the norm. So wear eye shadow or liner only, instead of plus powder and blush or bronzer. Men pay the least attention to blush and bronzer. Heres a scenario. You pull up to the mall, the parking lot is packed. You drive around within a reasonable distance, looking for a space to open up or do you head to the furthest corner where there are open spaces, park and walk . Engineering professor Richard Cassidy studied parking lots and says if your goal is to get into the mall the fastest park in the furthest spot and walk it. People who do that get there ten seconds faster. No, youre not saving a lot of time, but by accepting the closest open spot is in another area code, you reduce the stress of searching for a space because you keep moving toward your destination, while the other guy spins his wheels. And you burn a few more calories getting to your destination. It adds up to an extra 200 steps to your daily count. Time for some baby intelligence, even if you dont have babies. Youve got to love them. If you would like your baby to Start Talking sooner always talk back when they babble, even if youre just responding with more babble. You can read the telephone book or just babble. Researchers found when parents listened and responded to the sound babies make babies begin speaking early if you just respond. Babies realize their attempts to communicate are working it encourages them to keep trying. I thought you want to talk back in complete sentences and not anything, as long as you encourage them to keep talking. I think complete sentences are better. So when my daughter babbles, i come back with, oh i had no idea you felt that way about the clintons. Oh they just need some type of response to let them know they are communicating something. And we hear them. I hear you when you say da, da da. Babies are smart, they just havent done the speech thing yet. This is just saying, encourage them. I saw this happen when i cant remember if you shot this on your phone or you sent it to us. It was your 3yearold and 1yearold and they were on a carousel. So the 3yearold goes hey, were on the carousel. And the 1yearold, she cant say anything, she goes, da da da. She babbles back in the same exact tone. It was like the older kid doing it for the other one. I have seen the amount when the young speech developing child gets to hear sounds back they parrot more and more. This is true. This works in my life. Im going on the carousel da, da da. I have the video. Ive watched it a hundred times. Kids say some pretty dumb things. Again, researchers found just if you got kids, grand kids that are babbling, babble back or read the new yorker magazine. And keep your video camera handy. Coming up well tell you why the next time youre eating a low cal meal like a salad, you should eat le a salad, you should eat are you one of those people who cant help but laugh when you see someone trip or fall . I am. It may not be the nicest thing to do, but its normal. A psychologist wrote the book curious behavior, and he says laughing at someones clumsiness tickles us because of the same reason a clown falls. Because its unexpected. And laughing is a reaction of relief. Its also relief that were not the ones eating dirt. But its not normal if someone gets hurt. Laughing at suffering is a characteristic of a sociopath. Heres a trick to make a low calorie meal taste much better. Eat it while looking at a color photo of a gooey, cheesy pizza or other high calorie meal. According to researchers in switzerland this is because the image tricks your brain into believing that youre eating what youre seeing and youll feel more satisfied afterwards. Any picture of a decadent dish will trick the brain to think a healthy food is tastier than it is. In six minutes ss 40 seconds well tell you what happens to many couples right before bed. To make yourself twice as happy, do five good deeds all in a single day. Thats according to the review of general psychology. Something as easy as letting someone with a hand full of items go ahead in you at the market will work or complimenting a coworker on a job well done. Those things take zero effort but can pay off. When people tried this, their happiness levels doubled and the happiness high lasted all week. Doing several kind acts in a short time frame, intensifies your feelings and prolongs their effect. From our dating relationship files and have you ever lied on a first date . It would be easier to say have you ever told the truth on the first date and the answer is no. Its the first date. Its the trailer. The series will come later. Youll get to know the characters. What say you . I remember making a conscious effort to stop saying oh yeah, i would love to go sky diving. You go on a lot of sky diving second dates . I dated a guy from west point and i didnt anticipate he was going to say lets go next sunday. I had to get out of it, because i really didnt want to go. Like i had a fantasy about wanting to sky dive, to be honest. It wasnt like a full fabrication. A new survey of 8,000 singles found 2 3 have been dishonest on a first date. Women are most likely to lie about their age. Thats fine. You cant lie about your age anymore. You get nervous. The average woman will subtract four years off he ever age. Men are most likely to lie about their salary. When a new date asks how much they make, men will add 20 on their salary. What do you pull down every year . Can we just order drinks first . The second most common lie has to do with their jobs. If a guy says hes an Airline Pilot or sbreentrepreneur, theres a one in four chance its a lie. If youre dating, just be an astronaut. If you lie about being a pilot you will have to prove it eventually. You women, you lie about being a model, teacher or interior designer. Imagine lying about a being a model . Are you a before model . [ laughter ] i think it would be harder to lie about being a teacher. If you say youre a teacher, well, i feel like were all learning in the school of life. Were all models, because were all taking selfies. Half of those who lied on the first date come clean by the third date. How does the relationship go after that . Youre really not an Airline Pilot . What the heck. Ive been on an airplane. Basically the same plane. With autopilot these days, the plane flies itself. So im essentially a pilot. Up next, well tell you why some couples are engaging and why it can can coming up today on intelligence for your life, ladies, if you want to boost your Online Dating, you may want to redo your makeup. Also well tell you about disenfranchised grief. Its the connection between you and your Favorite Book or movie character. And the way brain experts say parents should respond to their babbling babies. And well tell you why length time youre eating a low cal meal you should eat it while looking at a chosy pizza. Get ready. Because intelligence for your life starts now