Dear Reverend,
I've been around the block a few times and was married once for many years. But I'm still baffled by my inability to find a woman with the characteristics and personality that I appreciate over time. I read a book that describes an analytical method of training yourself to identify traits that are wrong for you and quickly end those relationships. I've tried doing that but found that using logic and reason to determine compatibility zaps the magnetism that is so important. Conversely, relying on attraction hasn't worked well, either.
I'm a single dad, so I don't have time to meet the number of women it would take to combine the two theories. I would love to hear your thoughts.