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Malawi and comedian design, not on the drag queens, miss ground, the facts, im still seeing that went out loud me sound uncomfortable for some of you. Its always been viewed as a complex and culturally sensitive topic across africa. That could be several reasons for that, including cultural and religious. Influenza is stigma or shame. But why should that stop us from learning or talking about it . Well, its definitely not stopping out girls often youd report to come in at lunch. She went to check out a social 4. Thats called clinic i you of m o u clinic in k bed. Lets find out more the all hello and welcome to another goals of new episode from the cape that and capital tie up. My name is camilla long, and im 1st 18 years old. Today were going to visit the Community Projects youth clinic is created by to young. Keep that in the us to promote sexual, im a productive house and they want to reduce teenage pregnancy and also medical services to young communities. Yall things guess, do you want to know more . Come join us when better by force, and they also lay out when high school they have no access to profit sexual and Reproductive Health services. Theres so many of the cost me to leave school. You too early pregnancy, which is why they started their own project school. Youve senate bill monthly. You get this one at a stop, but its a clinic for you. Girls, a boys full of reproductive age. But uh, what if was getting sort of thing good and proper Family Planning advice and dismissal. Siri, pregnant girls have Health Care Assistance during the pregnancy, and in to digress these 5 years after finishing the Nursing Training that emil, with our return to the Old High School phyllis sale by the way, lopez, they applied for funding and eventually managed to open the Sexual Health clinic, sexy, transmitted diseases, contraception and everything concerning Reproductive Health is discussed with the teenagers appears out of the the implement that even though we started this project which will hopefully help to reduce cases of fairly pregnancies. We still need to do more in life. You might as well because young people need to be educated on the subject, how they do best sellers separately. They need to understand how to plan their lives when its a good time to stop his sexual and reproductive flight. What they should do or shouldnt do it. Okay, if i say, you can also see by offering professional advice, hope to create more awareness and prevent team ages from dropping out of school at an early age guides. But if we have various activities for the school, for example, we have lectures and we didnt have a wide range of professionals to address different issues around Sexual Health. Im skipped. The main mid doctors will be offering gynecological consultations for teenagers. And were also going to focus on providing information about distributing pamphlets and always being available at school to meet the demands of us you can learn. This is not the 2 nurses also work outside the school in order to reach other young people who dont have access to good health services. They talk to them about 6, but also other issues like the responsible consumption of alcohol or drug abuse. Before weve come to an end of this goes of mute, episode will be back soon with new stories, high level to report from the girls off new team. And ill use the report to come in lots. I think this project and keep that will help create more awareness about sex. And thats why the topic of sex should not be a trouble. We are definitely not shy and away from it. And thats why this week street debate took us to get got a one to, to talk about sex either. Kamani spoke to young doctor, comes from different corners of the continent who give us an insight on the situation that the hello and welcome back to the 7 to 7 percent. This week we are in the beautiful city of the gully, and we have to talk about something that is very rarely discussed in the african public spaces. And that is, thats what were here to try and find out. Is it time that we, we think how we have conversations around 6 and sexuality . Well, i have some people here who are going to help me answer that question. And i want to start with a broad question for everyone. Do you remember your 1st introduction to Sex Education and how was that like the 1st introduction was being shown, how to we i pod because apparently, before i seemed a head start administrating and now i was supposed to be very careful because it seems, its possible to have a human being after that. Yeah, yeah, uh okay, so lets hear from you. What about your time slot . African soon is a main deed was due to the h as in aids pandemic. So everything was against that was trying to teach the last 6, but in relation to this might what might happen to. So all i ever saw were campaigns on t z at school. So my idea of 6 was like, eventually you have like the zillow creepy things that get into your blood and sweat to dry. The english. Thats all very scary. So basically you are laughing, was it the same for your inputs . One, my 1st interaction with the idea, sex sexuality was actually did home the beginning of a to mom us for our school bags. And we think shes checking books, get, making sure everythings ready for the new school term. We get our backs back, you find condos side where shopping. I what are these . Thats when we initiated the conversation. My mother initiated the conversation on sex and protection and august the coming from the to i not a v. So it sounds like its a little be a based education ivy. Im going to put you on the spot here because your mom elizabeth just said what her experience was. Did she give you your 1st introduction to Sex Education . Yeah, actually regarding how you relate to boys, how you really to man, you know, how you car yourself in your t me is. Yeah, and it is there is a why i am the lady why im today. Yeah, i actually want to hear from emma because she is. We call them sunglasses. Yeah. But its actually a 6 educating the traditional setup. Is this how people get introduced to succeed wanda . Its a bit different because i know its growing up. I got the 1st introduction when i was really young, draco, ive 7 years old and thats when we why we add the guards, especially domestic goes. If you have one at home and they Start Talking about it, especially, thatd be, you know, guessing. So this is a car so thats, thats a very audi and then went on the car to and thats way to use that. Then think about 622. It doesnt happen very much these days, but yeah, you can be and sort of used to, to, to the, the 6 ready t as young that 7. Okay. So, i mean, let me come to you briefly because were seeing that these various ways that people get into contact with the information about thats a lot of stuff, but also sexuality. But why is it important to have something more comprehensive . One of the things that we, that weve been able to see is how a doesnt have inadequate information about success, productive health, for example, that some who have told this, like, if you, if you do a protected fits at the, at the nighttime, you know, going to daytime, youre not going to get pregnant. So they, they do have a plane to move about 6 or productive health. And if we dont keep them with the right information, this is going to be something that is going to be close, but even to ad. Okay. Uh, and im just wondering the role of culture here. Uh, what can we do to integrate some of these cultural practices into Sex Education . I feel like theres one that occurred to use to, to encourage people to talk about 6. We had the people who were supposed to teach you about 66, and i come on c o o p a as. But when he presented t o k. Me and, and wanda, we started to run that scene. So kind of 6, ready to and thinks related when you want to, to you its my, its, i seen what are you interested . Why are you talking about 6 . I want to come back to to know because i know you had said Something Interesting to me about how sophistication is start and its different for men and women or girls and boys in your culture, back home, the culture come from a part of the class a culture youll, youll have like a young boys, they go up to the mountain, they get circumcise and they taught all of these ideas of what it means to be a man. And one of the 1st things that they expected to do when they returned back them is to have a girlfriend and to sleep with her. Its sort of like a transfer of energy that you have to do that kind of welcomes into manhood. However, on the other end, when you have young girls at myself, youre expected to remain a version for as long as you can. You have to keep it together. You have to remain peel. However, we live in the same society, like the same guy that youre expecting to go out then. Good girl, im, im the same girl thats expected to be gotten and shes also expected to keep it together. Id be, i want to come to you a little bit because i wonder if this pressure to, for a woman to be preserved still exists in your generation. Actually actually in, in can now when you get into a relationship with a guy or you are in the talking stages of the guy, one of the few questions that they will ask you is, what is your body count . If i assume a body count is 5, then that like, damn, you have been passed around so much the number of people. Yeah. The yeah. And the mom us giving you that has probably close to the phone. But you and you say 5 it is out. Read you your money, you know, your mom cannot be which is the low to the people you will have slept with. 7 talking good is what the, i dont even like you mind according to the man, according to the man i should, i should be prescribed. You know, i shall be in my bubble, be in my circle and not have sexual relations. But him, he is a parking every way, you know, he is everywhere and it is not an issue. Uh so. Okay. So you have, you had a different view points, right . Yeah, i have a little bit of a different experience. And with that, like how things are changing amongst young people in my space. When they talking about the section contest, everyone works for their own orgasm, right. I think that going along, it shows me that women are like taking control of their own sexual liberty. And i think what then becomes problematic is on our side as the gen strides, im a lot of gents then become intimidated by seeing a young lady whos so in touch with the sexual, a sexual side. Right. And whos pursuing their sexual liberties as freely as we are as gen stripe, by the way, were speaking strictly here from a head with sexual point of view. Id like to hear some solutions, some ideas you have on how we could make 6, not a conversation, the child in mystery of secrecy, but more open. I mean the healthy way. First we need to get the shame off. Uh, 6. It is normal. We need to step to the parents and train them to like bring up the children any no way that they are comfortable and happy with wherever they added wed be aboard these. All right, and finally its a piece of see young people already having conversations on sex and sexuality with other peers, for example, um, at how University Campus weve created a space called bozza where we got the to have conversation on topics that, um uh, kind of controversial and weve had conversations our own home with sexuality, for example, and weve talked about womens pursuit of that and sexual liberties within these bars and what that means in the african context, right. And you guys have been free enough to open up about some of their misconceptions about that as well and learn and then re learn as well of well, i love that thats a great place to wrap up this debate. The sun is setting we have a lot to think about. I asked yes, should we think how, where and even who talks about sex on this continent . Thats a result in yes, if you ask me. Thank you for watching the thats what i found in yes for me to wish we change our perception on discussions about sex across the continent. And honestly, i think change is already happening. We conduct that some pulls and all Instagram Page dw, the 77 percent, maybe take you through to other questions. We asked fast assess the top, we will topic for you out of 22. 00 votes. 91 percent said no with 90 percent saying yes. I have a question we asked was so talking about sex to be encouraged. 100 percent of you said yes. So thats talking about sex and thats engaging in the act of things that could lead to the act. Why dont you ask the question . When is the right time to get intimate with a new pop . Now is the right time. Our very own sex, thats kaz, breaks it down for us. Hello everybody and welcome to this spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything, sex and relationship. Today, our question is a bit of a heartfelt one coming all the way from ivory coast, from a young lady by the name of mariam boys you might be um, her question re take of so ive been dating this guy for about 3 weeks now. I really like him, we have almost everything in common, and we also have really strong sexual chemistry. But im worried that if i sleep with him, he will leave. This has happened to me before. So im trying to be more cautious and going into relationships. My question is, when is the right time to have sex with a partner for the 1st time . Thanks for your question. Mariam. The thing with relationships is that every encounter you have with each person, you date will be different. If what youre looking for is longevity. Then give it some time, see if he sticks around. He sounds like a decent enough guy and alicia is this sounds only time will tell. There are a ton of things that you can do to ease the sexual tension. So you dont feel like youre missing out on anything while youre still getting to know each other better. Send each other sexy text messages. Explore ways of being intimate that dont involve physical touch. Long sexy phone calls, right before bedtime. Intimate then is under the stars. You may even decide to get physical without actually having intercourse. The list is endless and this can go on until you feel comfortable enough to have sex with your partner. When you feel ready to have sex with your partner for the 1st time, go ahead and enjoy those pleasures. Just remember to be safe and go in with no expectations other than enjoying the experience from me kaz till next time. Thanks guys for that. I think the key point for me is that never do anything you dont want to do and to be safe because you may not be ready to be a father or mother. Unfortunately, society has its way of stereotyping, especially young mothers, tying them into rows that dont feel natural to them. And that is not cool because of who it is about matching and how that looks like. The 1st from one mother to another. And i will be, can you, i mean, that joshua is leading the fight against such stereotypes of becoming a mazda is a life event that is mostly mexico joy or the transition into motherhood is modifies. Do or types that could we can the result of any strong woman until they decide to challenge then that is something that i mean that joshua from there will be kenya started to do so my transition into motherhood was being accepted into spaces where previous me it wasnt when i became my mother, things change and a good kind of good that respect of ensuring that it okay. Now we can hear from her because shes become like a good motherhood in kenya as in many parts of african cities as seen as a duty at the expense of your personality was a woman becomes a mother. So sad to applies different from suddenly shes judge how she would, she did have too much fun or if she becomes a single mother, or if she is clear, i mean there is no stranger to the effects of such as your time. And one of the things that amino has done is to phone the digital thoughtful on mothering the woman. It has voted to hybrid events. Where can women meet you to talk about breaking the mother who is to type i have been all of these my life. I have been the divorced mother. I have been them not being able to breast feed. Mother. I have been you know, have been taught to know domestic violence. My, the i have, you know, had my mother good to present like, what would you like to speak to . Who is your demographic . Demographic is gently as she is one of the women. We seem to another things, a woman movement. She had her 1st child a 35 and she 2 has faced studio types of people who interactive, especially in the workplace. In that time, i was to go to a Certain Church that a very strong given that faith looked at me like why would you choose kind of a nice life over a mother who didnt to me life. She says being a part of the community has become so important because now she doesnt feel alone in her struggle. When they need such save spaces, once you take on the sort of life mother, you lose your giving joy. So youre given that space to be an individual. Yes, we know you have your child, we know you loved them, but you also have these feelings that you need to process models expected to find the joy in their families and virtually. So what happens when women like jacqueline and amino find to enjoy in other activities outside of motherhood . Of course of games. You, you have to remove yourself from the locals. Of mom, give a 100 jackie, a chain is one among thousands of women that amena has impacted on the Facebook Page and mother we i mean not and have who want to continue the multi faceted and the teams 21 version of palmetto. Sure. Thats right. No one has the right to the side, however, my back should be except for those experiencing motherhood. Now talking about stereotypes, as you might be aware, members of the l g, b, t, q, a community, often face discrimination on the prosecution in many african countries in malawi, same sex activities are criminalized under the law. And people who identify us trends. Ive also faced prosecution yet, malawi, thats how we create a community which is fighting for its place in society. One of its members is the hugh l. A. S h a, a middle ground, a. We need to have a legal system in place that allows people to have the right to say that this was unfair and i need this to be addressed. And this was wrong. I was harassed, i was abused, i was hit, etc, or whatever. And it needs to be addressed to, im not going to be the people im not going to like. And even if theyre, even if the, the world says to whatever you want. And its legal. They still not going to like him, but hes ever they crossed that line. They should be prosecuted for those for those crimes. So here is a design, a comedian and actor pleases drag is a dramatic art form to make his voice had a drug, the sort of marriage where im going to go to you or gigi, so who dresses over normal sides. Im actually also from like joe book and like so ill nancy got the same time, but this is 15 minutes before this youll do is assume that im different, like im from somebody else and what the of which is through im from both, sorry, africa and also from a law we visit part like across town, i kind of go to because um, there is a fear of being attacked physically attacked. And the thing about it and already has mouth mentality. So if one person goes on, everyone goes off to tell you what are the things that happened this weekend to really hard just to be an artist in malawi is hide. And when you also have to fight issues around you identity, it is incredibly lonely. So heres other persona had a solution to create, not just a safe space, but also a community. Im a gemini, i like to view myself as to personalities. So i like to say miss grandes from the other part of me thats free. That is open, that is unapologetically, say whatever she wants to stay in that moment. So thats why few, for the year is here to make sure that the buses running is here to pay the bill so that the lights are on. It is here to make sure that this use of there is here to make sure that whatever bad things happen to him and these Customer Service is bad, he can take it and make a good review out of it. Hes just the behind the scenes of everything. So the background of them allow the analogy to the community has been out there for a very long time. But people havent been comfortable to live as themselves in malawi and the highlights of the eligibility Community Came when at the table at tons and a woman married her husband back in dallas, around 2010. And that issue became so big that other International Organizations talk to intervene and thats when maloney has started talking more about our community and what its like to be in the community. But were never accepted into the community in malawi, when we rolled with the 1st um rainbow night, the response we had, we had the toner, it was really good. But nozzle with the backlash just ive seen from other customers, i usually do. You recognize it and they, they still have that void of not trying to to be a part of it because of the ideas. Well, i just, i just, i think maybe the information that i have. So i think, i mean, were not, were not really educated much to accept that will be the community. So i know that space is like this and, and putting a voice out and makes us take all 4. 00 and 1. 00 how you to the african approach to inclusivity in terms of how to be the community would be unity within communities within different communities. And unity between society as a whole, because once we lose the support that we get from society, we cannot move forward. The fact that hes not seeing anyone, hes not bringing pain, see anyones lies such an amazing face. And he feels like when and theres a lot of joy you would say, yeah. Like i love the sense of humor the piece and that he is because hes going to, hes been through so much and the way i look at it, hes just trying to survive. So i like to carry light. So if its a long show the suitcase, but today its going to be more of an interactive show. So i have my bag and i just basically stuff everything. So hughes journey is far from over, but hes determined to continue with his art while living his best. A. Listen, i hear all the best but as odds while living as best life. And i hope you all live in your best life too. Dont forget to connect with us on all social media platforms. Well and instagram, take talk and youtube. Join us. Net screw together. Thanks a lot for sharing your time with us. I. Im very mike, a junior and ill leave you with some music from being credible semi. So next time i for now the to the be rocks you is struggling with the diction. Many young people i using crystal meth to escape to leak out, looks a bit every day. Life is an addict faced, severe penalties. The prisons are already over crowded and assistance is factually non existent, iraq drug prices in d, w. Well, the environment trends, technologies come is digitalization, stall, tops, new market, new media. The world is accelerating these the opportunities to try new things. Take flights with d that we use business magazine made in germany. In 19 minutes on d w. But well tell you what the story we have in getting a visa is more difficult than finding gold hosted to use the dream force and for the future feelings about whats going on in depth. Instead of being discussed across the continent, dw, and use africa every friday on the w, the change can be viewed as natural conclusions of the, like the trying to change the age of enlightenment. And its 300 year old ideas be responsible for todays problems. And could they help us solve them . I believe our futures in our past, the initial tens of the beginning of the done as a series of the great philosophies to our present and future. Enlightment says progresses in our hands and that means so its really its up to the series project and Start Services on dw the. This is dw news line from goodman ousted from his job. 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