That will pay off in the future when she herself might be in need of companionship or practical. Movement that would put it. The university of casa sociologist yarnall show been conducts lectures and research on social isolation and friendship. Now and then he enjoys being on his own and having time to think but being alone by choice is not the same as being lonely. At all the most of taking time out and focusing on yourself are ways in which you also test the boundaries of being human and so many signs of costus that in a way being alone is a very particular and in the modern day also highly prized life experience. And its a specifically human one you want encounter any other way. And this withdrawal is actually a unique opportunity to learn something about yourself so you can view it positively to the phone. Lines or come up with it if they are. Still a few people can stand being alone for too long after a certain time the desire for contact and interaction becomes overpowering. Experts call this impulse to seek the company of others the real affiliation motive. d here mentions its a talent isnt place and there are social creatures which ultimately means that we as a group meet his others to survive i think about the stone age alone is didnt get phone lines up according to this theory the feeling of loneliness evolved as a warning signal so that when we were 11 and this ng our group when we no longer feel positive we suffer. And that makes us try to rejoin now try and stop them thats a few of us who has ruined because of it out of. The biology of loneliness is also being probed in southern germany. Here near xylem constance 200 barbary apes live on 20 hectares of woodland in groups of up to 40 animals. Behavioral ecologist like Nadine Miller kline hope their research on these primates will provide insights into Human Evolution and that we cant really look at whether animals are lonely because thats subjective what we can look at is social isolation and integration and asks how do they influence the health of. Barbary apes have very differentiated social relationships the males tend to forge a close alliance of similar human friendships those who dont make enough ties remain on the groups fringes. And you always choose one animal to be your focal subject and then collect data for certain amount of time once youve gathered the data you can see how many partners you animal interacted with how many its groomed and how many partners it came into contact. From that you can draw conclusions about the animals relationship structure as. Well connected males are more successful in the fight to climb the social ladder. They also meet. Their needs in the palm side when lots of aggression occur as like now during mating season and animals have a lot of aggressive interaction that can be stressful but the animals who have strong connections experience less stress the animals who have a few strong connections and are a bit isolated are far more affected by the stressful situation that i thought hes a stress exhibit so one few female. She tests for the presence of a stress hormone cortisol in the animal species. Apes release cortisol when they feel threatened as to humans. This response triggers our emergency fight or flight response. That boosts our Blood Pressure blood sugar level and circulatory system. Our immune systems and digestion are dialed down. Chronically Lonely People become chronically stressed which can seriously impact their health. The risk of having a heart attack rises by 29 percent a stroke by 32 percent and the likelihood of dying prematurely by 30 percent. So chronic loneliness reduces Life Expectancy as much as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Having high Blood Pressure. Or being obese. In the u. K. The British Red Cross says loneliness has reached epidemic levels here are over 9000000 people for almost one 5th of the population have said they are always or often lonely. In 28000 the government appointed a loneliness minister. Tracey crouch pursues a strategy called social prescribing. We find out how it works and from the southwest of england. From in the mendip district in somerset has just 28000 residents but it boasts an Extraordinary HealthServices Network run by doctors and dedicated locals. But. Today a few of them are paying a visit to the mens shed. Its a workshop designed to combat social isolation. Men often find it harder to admit theyre lonely than women. Patrick abraham started the project 2 years ago. If you put 12 men over 65 in a room and said talk to each other about your life your relationships your health and your aspirations 6 will leave the room immediately and the other 6 will sit around the walls and say nothing if you throw a broken little mother in there and say hey guys fix that within that will know who knows what others the skills they have who they are and then names and everything else. The longer people are socially isolated the tougher it is for them to reintegrate thats how it was for even williams after a long stint living in australia he returned to frome 2 years ago. Although his sister lives here hes had trouble meeting people my phone so im a bit on the out so if you know like a group of people when youre on the outside youve got to make the effort to step in and will show i personally seen sister found out about the men shit on the internet through the Health Connections network and urged him to go there. Or came down and open the door. For the body looks just like the usual puppy know he was open to all who came out to be looked after through the most wanted word and even put it there were said come in come and you know we have a laugh and a joke of it and we talk about it talk about things in general we know that we can fix breakfast and 3 minutes for you and a lot of stuff you know once a week gives you something. So aim for to calm you know you have got to calm you come because you want to and because you want to meet people. Today julie carey downs is also visiting the mentioned she works for Health Connections mendham and has an overview of all the networks initiatives its her job to maintain and expand the network. Put in it you get to stay here. She asks at the shed could open in the evenings too so younger men could come i think for fame people who are working would be mediums to comment because its like once they finished but they quite isostacy they expect if they could update from say yes this is just my sciatica and 66 of them i stopped at my gate cases it was my aunt julie culture self the Health Connector. Thats because she connects doctors in patients with the many public and private outreach programs for people in from. By getting the community itself of to feel that it belongs to them theyre not being. Told what to do or where to find things that are actually part of it and they feel like i know that i once people have they tend to. Sort of join in things ive got more. Here. 6 years ago a doctor at this medical practice declared war on the lineas. Local dr helen kingston realized many of her patients were suffering from social isolation. And so was their health. Im part of this community it matters to me what happens here and i know my patients very well ive been here for over 20 if so when you see individuals that youve got to know very well and see them struggling its a human instinct to want to try and turn things around and make a situation response to those. Than just the medical ones. Over the years helen kingston observed that around 70 percent of her appointments werent just about physical complaints but she lacked the resources to help these patients. Then in 2013 she finally got the resources to make a change. She built up a team of people whose 1st task was to gather info on all the services and Assistance Available to the people and from everything from choir rehearsals to debt counseling and selfhelp groups now when doctors are talking to their patients they have the in for their finger tips and can offer advice. The idea is known as social prescribing for patients needing more support to refer to a Health Connector like julie carey downs what i like about this is its quite a holistic approach that youre asking people about their health and well being without it off to be not clinical or magical and its supporting them to become more in control of their own health and wellbeing in a more resilient kingstons team ins to break the vicious circle of social isolation and illness in many cases they succeed people end up in crisis less often they end up in hospital less often and as a result of that those very expensive emergency admissions that are using up so much for results within the n. H. S. Have reduced. One study found that the number of unplanned hospital admissions and from fell by 14 percent. In the surrounding areas admissions rose by 28. 5 percent during the same period. The project has successfully tackled a serious problem. And some kite had learning this has Serious Health implications and thats why its so important to combat social isolation to learning this is problematic when it becomes chronic when it occurs for long periods in such cases learning this can lead to illness we know that loneliness is associated with a whole range of physical complaints including cardiovascular problems obesity and possibly dementia there are numerous studies which show that Lonely People even die. In the mentions were forced to album. Right and kind of i had to come up with yes. But you just said yes and. Evelyn cohen moved to from from london to be near her family to live with her daughter and son and. She lost her husband 31 years ago so thinks ago we were at the moment i guess is there anything else you know i dont think so i quite. I dont think i do as i have but you know im 99 high if i live till next september i should be a 100. I used to have loads and loads of friends and you know im the only one left the whole circle. For all the rest of got. A year ago evelyn suffered a severe blow when her only daughter died from cancer at the age of 73. Evelyn with true as she didnt want to burden her son in law and grandchildren with her grief meanwhile her health steadily deteriorated. You dont know what is happening and why its happening you know when. You dont know if you can cope or know but its a case of got to admit. Doctors were concerned so Health Connector contacted her and now visits regularly. Evelyns condition has gradually improved. Somebody that is what you call neutral more or less you know when they can sort. It you can talk and you can that the tears roll down him and you know do the relay and they make you feel youre much better yeah it was like a lifeline really. And is there anything that you would last me at the moment is a sign you think that you need to. Increase. The culture thats. It ok yeah. Nice to fly dont take it. Julie has one more point made today a Training Course at a high school and from. That she wants to know if loneliness is an issue for the pupils. Im cheveley im from have connections mind 1st of all ive got a brief power point but im going to get you to do some work while. These young people are in their final year of high school. Absolutely julie hopes to convince them to become volunteer Community Connectors. The idea is how do we get everybody out to the community to know about our website know that we have based in the medical practices to support people and also get them to let us know where the gaps are and thats where Community Connectors come in and what youre going to be doing is signpost and youre not going to take in anybodys information youre not going to become slaves had not taken anything like that youre just going to tell people about where they can go to find out about groups and services. During. This but 1st they need to understand what influences health and wellbeing in. The next week on these social media social media but i think in part to everyone else its always youve always got to figure out you for with scott people who is fiercely better than you so you can really damage your self image and yourself were in fact a lot of young people feel isolated and lonely and i think that is and i realize that we are trying to lock up setting groups for come the new year. But sometimes social media can help young people make friends. Christiane ids is heading for home board city center. He hopes to help make some contacts there to the friendship about 25 friends. Tonight theres a gathering where people will eat burgers and play billiards. With total strangers. And some elders are registering is one thing you are going as another you have an accounting to go but you must set off and dare to try and. But even in the real world social media has a big influence. As some people post their entire lives on instagram you think how awesome theyre doing great every day theyre on vacation or doing core stuff but it depends whether you like to influence your or not if you say ok im jealous or a few things rationally and say stupid to be true. To date theres little reliable data on how social media is changing our relationships but the us study found that people who use social media for more than 2 hours a day were twice as likely to feel lonely as people who used it for less than 30 minutes per day. Just compromise in my is not sure the problem with most of the studies on this topic is that we cant tell whats cause and whats effect does social media make people odia all the Lonely People tend to use social media because they have fewer contacts offline having a contact offline and. The studies cant answer that question in principle you can say that social media can enrich and expand social relationships past when they start to replace offline relationships when people only chat online and dont have any personal contact in one moment then it becomes problematic and this initial contact its probably much the group is arranged to meet in front of the burger restaurant. Boy. Im sure they only got 25 years until the local so you. Have everything. From the street if thats what it was like i rahman i tape one of the founders of the friendship app organize this event. 20 participants have registered but just 8 have shown up like this yes i was and i think its really good its just the start of the defender its up. To the apps target audience is 25 to 35 year olds it attracts people whove just moved here like christiane and those who just want to expand their circle of friends. Helped me like make use of what is in the physical thats here 3 x. 5 to get to these myself and look. Them up this is just because i got to talk and i start because its after finding friends to play sports with over an Online Platform rahman i tell you realize there was a real need for a friendship app. Not terribly sexy to say youre using a friendship up but this is a real problem that many people have. We organize Group Gatherings and try to make them as not true as possible so that removes some of the shame the protection of being in a group is also an important factor its all people like coming to such events because they dont make them feel strange. The group has reserved 2 tables at the Billiards Club next door. With. Some of the guys tell us why theyre here. Stephanie says shes pulling which is tough for me. I know a little german. But when you come to a city where you dont know anyone nights like this are quite helpful and its a modern language feel my long term relationship ended and through that i lost all my friends and getting to know folks in a big city is tough so the ups being good for that so far. You have this one right thats it i told people about it when they asked what are you doing on the weekend i said playing billiards and in burgers who with total strangers people dont think thats strange these days lots of things are done on line its not the 1st time its like meeting up with 10 or 20 complete strangers at 1st you have to make small talk but once the conversation flows it is better its nice being quite nice. But will real friendships emerge from this 1st meeting. At the university of casa Young Children in his Research Group or working on friendship networks. Specialist the sociologist knows that for around 10 percent of germans friends are more important than family. When i can to a certain degree friends can qualify as a substitute family. From what weve seen in studies that applies across the board. So all the forms of practical support you need in life can generally be provided by friends childcare helping build you up again after emotionally tough phases of life. Where i see major difficulties is in the area of caregiving personal hygiene washing calming everything that goes into basic day care and the stats show that friends hardly ever do this. For his research Young Children and allies of lots of statistics but he also conducts many biographical studies. Today hes interviewing a subject. And the student narcissa has volunteered to take part in a detailed biographical analysis. And were doing a study on up peoples and peoples lives and asking how you perceive them specifically how they change your social network in the end what if and not one such as this basically there are a few constants in my life. My family. And the 2 or 3 friends ive had since grade school like my gosh with. The last major of people an artist as life occurred a year ago she and her then boyfriend split up. The end of a relationship is one of the biggest risk factors for loneliness. And thats my circle of friends has actually changed that best and apart from my best friend that is shes almost like family as so. As a group so shes friends with your mom and sister too yeah yeah you could say that yes its a good 5 whats interesting about this case is that the most stable relationships are those that are also connected to family so the friendships which survive the break up were those where there were also relationships to family members a friend from her neighborhood a close friend had other contacts in the neighborhood and through them her network was refilled or healed guy ed. But even Family Structures can break down reducing the number of people that someone can turn to in an emergency. Calls with a shortage of connective resources. Its complex there are definitely situations where it becomes clear that theres no longer anyone there or just one or 2 people. Here the discussion revolves around how they deal with that how do they bear such a phase of extreme social isolation without anyone to support them. And then we go into details again that instead tie. Down people who suffer from chronic loneliness often require psychological help. And the consequence for lines on coyote is hairy duck sickly one of the consequences of loneliness is that people withdrawals so its incredibly tough to reach Lonely People because by definition theyre not easily reachable. And one of the symptoms of loneliness is not being able to go and seek out other people on the health and thats precisely the problem for many programs or measures designed to tackle loneliness they arent able to get through to the people theyre actually trying to reach. One. Mid january humble. Has had some luck in finding a friend. I think theyre going. At an event organized through the friendship that he met terrence they hit it off right away. You know if i was often enough ive always been this way i never had tons of friends just a couple really good ones and i count terrence as one of them. Sold him off point of this is how its all going to come to the friendships i want to feel i can trust someone confide in them and and the suss out as well and also that you can rely on one of the other one out of the do to bring the things that are on your mind to. Have things that might make it easier for the other person to do the same one of a lot of lifestyle. Finding a friend over social media for christiane the gamble has paid off. Though hes not likely to forget the pain of loneliness for a long while to come. I think it does mean you can find something positive in everything positive. In my case id say its how you only know the value of friendship when you no longer feel so alone as well and if it then if you are nice it is and how bad you felt before what you only noticed that afterwards. Being alone is part of being human to avoid becoming lonely it helps to take action early on and build up a social network. We can all contribute but it takes much more than that fear if we as a society speak out and stress that learning this is something normal something many people feel that would go a long way to helping those affected of course that wouldnt solve the problem but it might encourage us to talk about it a bit move on the sphere. Stackhouse. Any other time b d n a chance to. Drill down upon i conducted the best musicians she. Could to make maine to. Visit. Constance. Exclusive on march 20. 3rd. Or. Beethoven in genesis did you didnt want to do. It is it does and out of 16 more of. The many rubber bands of stolen beethoven. 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