Have to stretch your stuff and show whos boss. Theres no time for feelings or doubt. British writer and poet j. J. Says enough is enough time to drop the mask of masculinity. What really frustrates me about the mosque that. So many of us continue to wear the small but deep down we realize that it doesnt really benefit its not helpful to us and the older you get the more that you realize that its not necessarily true so were often told you know. Be strong be story you know. Not emotional. J. J. Grew up in a block of flats in the london district of camden. His parents fled what is now the democratic republic of congo when he was 7. Wonderful really diverse community. And in its midst and lively boy in a loving household. One in which. Boys to like. But then especially teenagers you know a lot of young boys who try to do the rude boy thing i know it very well because its one of those i thought i had to make people respect me and i realized that that didnt that wasnt helpful to me at all that wasnt who i am. I think a lot of young have that imposed on them and they dont realize why they feel this way. Became a social worker he observed the way young men influenced by obsolete ideas of masculinity struggle to live up to the expectations of a modern open society thats more in touch with feelings. And. Trying to repress what they feel and often calm out alcohol abuse drug abuse and more specifically you know we talk about we. All come out aggression or. Aggression or violence to offer young boys could be in relationships to. J. J. Timely book recommends strategies to counter toxic masculinity small steps from men that could mean a giant leap for humanity. And Adrian Kennedy is here to discuss the book with me mask off a bit of an unfortunate title now in corona times when of course were expected to keep our masks on but toxic masculinity a very timely topic as ever yes this is a practical book about the crisis of masculinity as seen for example in grandstanding politics trumps twitter outbursts in the rise of women hating in cells on social media and perhaps most states really in Gang Violence but also in other less obvious faces interpersonal relationships in the workplace in competitive sports. This narrow view of masculinity affects all areas of society its bad for men and for women and for those who dont fit comfortably into either category its become a bit of a buzzword today toxic masculinity this is a book that dissects that all it deep angst myths and it is a call to change and how great that were getting to the male voice is actually making that call for change they said a practical book we heard that jayjay bola proposes some strategies to counteract this traditional kind of socialization what hes suggesting exactly well as a social worker one thing he does is try to get boys no mens keep an emotional diaries who writes about when they feel sad or angry when they feel like crying or when they feel like hitting somebody he says that through processing these feelings analyzing them we get to know ourselves much better he also once meant stop thinking about fx in terms of domination and power the conquest mentality when i was young it was all in love with war he wants people to see sex and relationship more in terms of empathy and motional supports and love which is something that has to be learned and requires positive role models now jaipal is also very interestingly making a plea here for literature is that right thats right he says reading is very important he supports an initiative called boys into books which gives free books to young boys but hes not happy to just have them read the kind of male adventure story in order to get reading which was a strategy when i was young he wants men to read feminist micha to read female office but i think perhaps 1st of all we should read this book its very concise its entertaining its easy to read and it might just change your perspective on the world a broad range of perspectives obviously important for all of us especially in these times when diversity is is so on the front page lets hope this book can help and thanks for joining me a drink kennedy. Well that young men should reach to find alternatives to toxic masculinity is exactly what ho but moves it had in mind when he wrote the confusions of a young master tallis his 1st novel only 25 at the time in 1906 the austrian writer caused a scandal with his explicit depiction a sadistic and sexual abuse at the book had a deeper message as a harbinger of nazi tyranny these days its easy to keep tabs on the people you went to school with whos married whos divorced who looks like theyve been hit by a bus and what about class bullies are they nice people now. To. Be confusions of a young master turn this is a book about bullying punishment and power author hope but movie takes us to a military boarding school at the beginning of the 20th century one of the students but xeni admits to stealing and 2 other cadets use his confession to blackmail him and abuse him psychologically physically and sexually and whats just as terrifying they tell each other theyre doing the right thing. We could report him beat him senseless or torture him half to death just for the fun of it it doesnt really matter to my mind he must have been created by accident outside the usual order of things he must have some purpose or other but only something vague and undecided like a worm or a stone that you come across on the road and you dont know whether to step over it or crush it underfoot. Theres also a 3rd student involved in their campaign of terror the brilliant young turk of this he finds himself both disgusted and aroused by the bullys cruelty and by their beautiful victim himself seeming to us is conflicted between his desire to make love to see me and also to beat him up now back in 1906 moves you push the envoy put these descriptions of fluid teenage sexuality but the author himself said the book is not really about teenagers its about violence and tyranny movie is later work the man without qualities is actually considered his greatest its also about a 1000 pages long and he never even finished it start with turrets 1st and see just how much movie of youre really up for. Well after physical books theres also something comforting in this highly digitalized age about an Old School Approach to the art off the top of feet and much a mark of its takes an old takes old school and analogue to the very extreme the polish artist uses a camel scooter which uses that pinhole camera principle to take pictures of cityscapes around europe but his current camera is like nothing youve ever seen before. Instead of carrying a camera with him polish photographer much a markovitch of his inside one of his boat is a moving camera obscura a large scale pinhole camera the boat is equipped with a lens permanently fixed into one of the both sides markovitch uses it to take photos of landmarks such as the. More berlin cathedral is color negatives can be up to 2 by 3 meters large and are directly exposed on to photographic paper. This is my view finder and i am trying to find the motive in in the viewfinder once the motive is here. I press the shutter open click count seconds and after 8 seconds across the shock. Early in the morning he wants to take photos of the berlin i stuck at 6 am the light conditions are perfect. The camera is moving when i think people are so so theres always this mystery until i recess the paper through the machine i never know what is going to be like the back of the boat is essentially the camera body the exposure works according to the laws of physics and without electricity the world outside is projected onto the opposing wall in a reversed and inverted image through a lens unadulterated snapshots that much a markovitch needs mostly to their own devices. Its not only the light and weather that matter much the markovitch needs a lot of patients to for each shot he has to fasten the photo paper in complete darkness. Its one of the most laborious ways of shooting photos. Light is perfect we are perfect. Pretty. Markovitch takes the exposed photo paper to a lab for developing now he can see if his photo of the berlin advice time has turned out well hes made a deliberate choice to never touch on or alter his photo. Whatever happens its there and i dont do anything else except make sure that its protected because even if i do another step of the process it will just dismiss this directness and immediacy of the process the beauty of just light inside the room being exposing piece a very. Much a markovitch there are still many more motifs to be discovered for his next project hed like to visit london to take photos of the city from the river thames. And because you spend so much time in his floating camera it of course doubles as a houseboat well thats all for this edition of arts and culture dont forget about our website and title next time be sure to stay safe and are back. Levanon in the grip of his beloved the socalled party of god controls large parts of the politics and society. 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Floor i come from people are known for being tough but fair and new york and la but people tell it like it it they call it the concrete jungle the melting pot the city that never sleeps its this energy that makes it feel like old but amid the hustle its important to listen and Pay Attention because its not just the loudest voices who want to be heard we all have a story this is how i see it is my job as a journalist to go beyond the obvious now im basing your odds and my work takes me around the world but my instincts for me in this state to tell the important stories behind the headlines what is the heart of the story why does it matter who live in power. Because they focus if you want us to cut through the noise to get to the truth of. My neighbors are telling and im going to double. The bottom. 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