Know we discussed how social media could help break the culture of silence. In zanzibar some young girls have become he said says and your family by learning how to swim. Finally we discover the bustling city of while our coming together plus size model style but before all of that lets focus on the issue of violence against women some women like i did much about from ivory coast i subjected to on the margin of all acts of brutality when she was just 13 years old she was forced to marry a 72 year old man by the vets was just the beginning of a nightmare this isnt much of a story. After him forced marriage. Life tend into a living nightmare in a best of rage the husband of her hands. After the wedding my husband caught me with a machete. And after us he just threw me into the. Pool last night he left her there to die with a 24 cus interest on my body and without her hands luckily she was quickly found and received medical aid thanks to a series of humanitarian aid initiatives a limit to how slowly money to recover and i started a new life she went back to school and recently graduated. Im happy despite my disability and im not ashamed of it nor in my afraid of people ive had to find the strength to face them in their looks by that strength has also helped me to go to school and learn to read in right now and i think. She hopes to one day have prosthetic arms and to be able to continue with his studies she also wants to become an ambassador for the fight against early and forced marriages and domestic violence. I could use my story and share what happened to me to educate traditional parents about forced marriages and help stop them from the Ivorian Government they knighted nations and very also Civil Society groups have launched initiatives to combat forced marriages and fallen against women but many challenges still remain now i am shocked and angered by what shes been through suddenly one 3rd of all ivory and girls are forced to marry we should all learn from the story and gather the courage to say no every woman has a right to decide who they want to marry now as difficult as it is to hear these stories once and until we find solutions i also want to raise your awareness about Sexual Violence emanuel on sunday is a real survive out working as an activist in the article shes inspiring other women and girls to stand up against. Kim been seeking the se of a d r c capital kinshasa theres a swathe monolith sunday and her friends go from door to door trying to educate locals about rape they will talk to anyone whos willing to listen. To them. A few years i said damn how old is she then as i was 7 whats her name brenda when i was like brenda you see her near when i was trained as age when i was raped. By your liking him on a lot stories unfortunately far from being unique in that the r. C. Sexual violence is commonly used as a weapon of war a model of how to survive twice a soldier repair when she was told a child later a Family Member also abused her sexually despite the fact that so many women at the r. C. Are victims of rape this to suffer widespread stigmatization if it. Was rejected i feel discriminated even ostracized some parents would beat their children because they plead with me i tried to commit suicide 4 times i didnt believe in living i couldnt find a reason to stay alive. But a 21 year old decided to turn her suffering into a source of strength. She founded a mangy forcing my neighbor with an aim to break the temple around rape by telling her story opening she has become a source of inspiration for many. Of you know minor. If a man rapes your daughter even if you take him to court they will release him and he will be back in the streets living his life and you will have to take care of your child. To a much. Public the way manila talk because that problem of rape affects so many parents my hands. On experience in the challenges yes have to face have given her in life she strives to improve the lives of women and girls she hopes that others will join her on her path. For all they have suffered its inspiring to see how determined they are to tackle this menace but the big question is how can we prevent violence like this from happening in the future we can break the cycle together and yes that includes. Our reporter can money travel to nigerias capital abuja to seek answers in our street debate on how social media can help address gender based violence. In the me too Movement Began online it started what cannot and will not be stopped a conversation about sexual and gender based violence that movement mushroomed across many parts of the world including right here in nigeria well today were you know and were trying to find out just how effective is social media in the fight against sexual and gender based violence and you know i want to begin with a lady who actually started a movement here called arrow on me to ever meaning the northen part of nigeria for korea how did it feel when you started this hashed out what inspired you to do it and what was the impact immediately a young girl. Came on twitter and she she opened up about her experience of abuse 2 years ago and for me it was just a tweet made out of solidarity but i didnt know it was going to open up you know a can of worms because what it turned out to be was that people found a safe space in the hash tag so this is sort of the work that youre doing in the north looking at investigating but to clearly gender rules to what effect has cultural contributed to what were hearing here we have this culture of shyness which you know is kind of like yes its in things you dont talk about they feel like its immoral to talk about sex talk about you know how to handle yourself how to protect yourselves i want. Communities and communities so i used to believe that you know those people because they dont have access to education thats why you know the victims of this but then dario i meet a Movement Just open my eyes to the fact that even the most educated of us in the society also going through the same things so lets take a step back youre saying that social media opened up the voices of the people who were otherwise silenced mariyam away so is very popular now in the global scene she was arrested because of her campaign especially because of the so how bad is a problem nigeria people are willing to go above and beyond to silence those who dare to you know rebel to change the norm so theres a lot of danger i guess in doing that personal and otherwise apart from the online attacks who you know that are just never ending death threats. So yeah you know you could get arrested well the rapist why not there are people there in a panic get raped rush rush into a Police Station and the kind of reception they get you know its its another form of trauma right i was in a Police Station with minors who were raped and the police said she was a suspect and they were dragging her telling her to take of her shoes and they were going to put her in solitary confinement if i get raped god forbid theres no way im going to go to the police tonight and id rather come on social media so obviously by no standards does it sound ok and i was reading that right here you know there were women who were collected taken to Police Station on suspicion of being prostitutes and some of them came up with stories of being raped and your Police Superintendent said well women are not supposed to be out in the streets anyway how are women supposed to trust you when this sort of behavior has been perpetuated by police officers. Yeah. Weve had. Several complaints right now we have agenda desk they have been going for special training how to receive such cases. In major cities now lets go back to. Even to social media until today because maybe 14 being raped by these 3 men who does she go to she doesnt need social media exists so she goes home price to home present. This. Youre about to get married if you do that its about you she just keeps whites even if you talk to. Any confirmations of people whove been arrested whove lost their jobs as a result of this movement the person that i outed as a rapist got you know sacked from his job as far as im concerned that is a consequence that you cannot go anywhere that men are being forced to say oh my god im hanging out with this girl today im i going to win. Up to a hash tag im i going to be unable to show my face in the mosque because that is a consequence that has to start somewhere but obviously there are limitations to social media and id like to hear from a gentleman because i often hear men see that theyre now scared what happens if a woman makes an allegation about him online and theres no evidence to support it i guess some people do feel that because of the lifestyles they lead because of gray areas and constant and how we communicated sometimes they do feel that through it i suppose but speaking about the limitations of social media said some people in society here believe that social media is not to be trusted the internet is genuinely a space to be treated with some level of course i want to come to the office of because this challenge is directly affect your work you know when somebody comes and says this is the claim that i made how do you go about collecting evidence when the situation has started online thats why i wanted to mention to them movement is ok but i would advise they get a lawyer you mean to tell me that if i come to your Police Station and i tell you that my husband has beat me up youll send me to find a lawyer yeah i would invite a husband is it a hobby is it a one time affair why should that matter thats what we said back to cultural we like it or not when nigeria look at mistreats im trying to raise a complaint from him he sees that the mr hope thats one report right so we believe no we have to hear from him. And see if there are evidences on witnesses and everything we can work on thats why i want to understand the social media not everything brought out there is actually true so as a rule of thumb you do not believe the victim unless theyre witnesses and often gender based violence happens in isolation they usually no witnesses any kind of crime the 1st one is the confessional thats the 1st and easiest one everyone at the end we have to go around and find out how and why when and we are ok i really want to talk about solutions what needs to be done even from 2 went down to an individuals level. So the conversation as sure as the limitations of social media which is that we can highlight a problem but you need systems to prosecute but when people know that when they commit a crime they can get away with it because prosecution rates a really low so you understand that this is a reflection of a broken system we have to be able to you know understand the gaps that exist in our society and beyond awareness and you know beyond the laws you know they need to be implemented for them to work thank you so much i have to admit that it has been very tough very very tough the things that was said here were not expected but im glad that were winding up to the sound of the maghreb in the background hopefully the prayers will cleanse over our societies so that we can speak of something much lighter and much better thank you for watching from a buddha. Now that was a very engaging debate no one should go through any form of abuse in silence situations should take accusations of abuse more seriously instead of shutting a woman down let them speak up. Now for a longer version of history debate go check out our you tube channel i look forward to reading all your comments and suggestions now lets dive into our next story about overcoming gender inequality this one has something to do with swimming hold on just stay with the how do they live on an island most girls in zanzibar cant swim since he had decided she wanted to fix this problem but before she could start teaching the girls she 1st had to convince their parents to let go of age old customs and let your daughter just dive into the Crystal Clear waters of the indian ocean. Zanzibar with its Crystal Clear water sandy beaches and the gentle ocean breeze draws many people to its shores for a swim. While many young men get to enjoy it in the water it is not the case for women in this conservative part of africa. When. When i was a young girl it was normal not to know how to swim when i grew up i felt ashamed to see men swim yet i could not. Be pushed hard and was very persistent today shes a swimming teacher basic lessons like how to properly use a life jacket start in the classroom. Later on all girls put on a burqini and head to the ocean. When i began swimming the community thought i was wasting my time and viewed me as strange. Girls were not expected to swim. But her pupils lack sabina nor the importance of being able to swim. Well the 1st day. I was very happy because i had never swim before my friends were also happy because they also didnt know how to swim. But people said. You know wants to swim and i said yes i want to learn that. If i were teachers had not x. People to train as it will be dangerous because not many people know how to swim. At terrible occasion made conservative parents change their minds nobody worried about sea accidents until tragedy struck in 2011. They overloaded m. V. Spice island a ferry sunk killing about 200 people most of the victims were women and girls who did not know how to swim and that was when the government thats when a group of 9 young women and men here started their punches soon project that included calles one of its fondest was. Really going to be good at the beginning it was really challenging to teach girls as one of the founders of the soaring initiative i had to set an example by beginning with my own daughter then another Founding Member also allowed his daughter to go for training. Sabinus father was also reluctant at 1st but now he is very proud of his little girl. And the ferry sank i saw the need to not oppose my kids from learning to swim in the old days girls did not swim much so when this initiative was introduced i was excited and had to enroll my children. Haji and others of punji have trained 5000 girls and women so far and they hope they can train many small. Those ladies i could do with some refresher courses. Now let me take you away from the sandy beaches of zanzibar. On the opposite side of the continent the city of incoming yeah we need another powerful woman estelle it to me isnt one to shy away from her curves plus size model shes all about support and love and body positivity in this weeks my city said meant she takes us around her hometown enjoy. Hello my name me and tell it to me. Im in trippin there and. Them going to show you my lady welcome to the other. Is the largest city in canada and an economic hub that would be revived separates the city from the industrial zone. Sports is the largest in Central Africa and also surprise neighboring countries like china. Was born here while inspired by the c. T. C. Entrepreneurial culture she started up her own business. As well thank you i know its a very lively city a city that moves a lot of the young people here have a strong interest in your role in fighting spirit you can see young people everywhere setting up businesses and shops dualla is coming home mainly foreigners come here to buy goods and sell them abroad its a very fascinating sitting there. If you step out on to do alice treats the city feels like one big market at every corner now people selling clothes shoes you name it. And as one of africas major football nations do i know of course has a market score not dedicated to come in ruins National Team. I dont. Know what you must remember that people here in kuala im very passionate about sports especially football thats why the small. Where we are right now mainly has football geniuses from the National Team many of the National Players also come from douala and many where born here in they grew up here for example the food a top a top goalscorer i dont i do you know maybe. In the evening theyre still kids busy with their own share of sports. To wind down she heads to parker she comes here about 4 times a week to train and stay fit for her modeling career. I dont have you know those who leave after a long days work its normal that you want to decompress i love coming to this park for that its free and there are a lot of young people here who come here after work school so now you have seen a few images of i hope you liked them and we hope to see you here one day later the way you have for style do i hope for the rest of us maybe its time to hear the city. Bungs estelle for showing us around so how old were you when your parents gave you the sex talk was a conversation comfortable for you or that to feel a bit awkward i was definitely awkward but mescal talk about that this one is for all the parents who may be watching our sex and relationship expert cause is back to share her thoughts on positive be renting and sex education. Hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships if you would like your questions answered please be sure to send this an email our question today comes from a new parent and it reads hi kathy thank you for creating spaces for us to open up my question for you is im raising a little boy who is currently only a few months old and i want to know when should i begin to think about having sex positive conversations with him i know its really early right now but i cant help but want to raise my child better than i was raised where there were no conversations about sex. What do you suggest is the right time thank you so much for that question sex positive parenting is a conversation im always happy to have in fact ive had it separately on my podcast the spread let me start by saying congratulations on your little boy you are already doing a good job youre doing right by him and trying to provide a better life so lets get to the root of your question firstly there is no age too young to teach and learn from our children even young infants are able to give nonverbal cues on what they like and dont like and this is how we can tell if theyre comfortable this is a Good Opportunity for you as a parent to learn about your childs boundaries as they grow and you can begin to have conversations about where they dont like being touched for example maybe they dont enjoy being told having their hair touched or being hugged we get so wrapped up in trying to make sure our little ones make a good impression on guests or off friends that we dont stop to think about whether some of these actions are actually making our child uncomfortable sexuality is a spectrum and one of the most important lessons from the get go is consent unfortunately this often gets left out when we start to learn about sex and sexuality so this should be how you start to have your sex positive conversation allow your kids to set their own boundaries as your child gets older make sure conversations about sex focus more on the importance of pleasure dont raise them to fear their sexuality or feel ashamed of it many of us have inherited our parents feelings of fear and shame when it comes to sex and sadly some of us are now spending the better part of our lives and learning this of course its important to have age appropriate conversations about sex with our children so you dont need to worry about explaining concepts like intercourse at such a young age we can start by allowing them to explore their own bodies and decide for themselves what feels good while also giving them the space to change their minds as they grow just as we have in our lifetimes and continue to do keep in mind as you continue to learn you will grow and so will your kids be patient with them and also with yourself you are already a wonderful parent keep it up i hope you found this useful from me can get by. 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