Told not to go out with catholics or those of the orthodox faith its my own faith prescribed that and im. You and i skinner the body of yes ill be honest i thought before i fall in love with one of them and get into trouble at home ill leave it baby. Who told you that. My mother. The school is right in the center of traveling. The right hand side is very nicely refurbished and largely attended by children from catholic families. Amel is from a muslim family these children still attend the greater left hand side. Theres a fence between the two erected after the end of the war to keep the conflicting parties upon. Simple yet as dianas its a symbol of separation every wall is disunion discord separation and all of these things that if the fence used to seem bigger to me maybe theyve made it smaller. That would be an improvement that the home but now there are these concrete pillars that didnt exist before theyre on their way to building a proper wool is the one i was bothered by this fence when i went to school here and long afterwards to. You feel silly sometimes you think if they keeping away from them because they think theyre better than your thought on other days you think theyre doing it because theyre scared of you or why are they scared of us just on what you are just. A mother went to the school here seventeen years ago. At the time the war had been over for just five years partition schools were common place with the war so fresh in everyones mind living together was harder these days the separation shouldn. Exist anymore. The catholic and the muslim sections dont just differ from the outside the students also get different history lessons. What caused the war in bosnia between one thousand nine hundred two and ninety five when serbs croats and muslims fought bitterly against each other. Yasmin ali big over each is muslim he attends the state run muslim part of the school. Of theology and i think theres only one history everyone learns to say mystery the difference is how thats interpreted. Or used or you can reach one conclusion or a different one but we all learned the same thing from weve all got a rather queer knowledge of the logic. Of what it means one country different interpretations of his history the teacher doesnt want to comment further on that the curricula a set by the bosnian state. You can see the catholic part of the school from the muslim part its run by the church and was renovated with church funds. The history teacher here presents the crow at a view of their history. Gabrielle their adage attends twelfth grade. Shes a burden encourage them was raised a catholic. Her family lives in a predominantly croatian suburb. She. Tells us that peace love and understanding really isnt on the curriculum. But never can train has three president s two three different perceptions of history croats muslims serbs Everyone Wants to tell their own version of our history we cant agree on one version especially not on the wall at the county executive jet the national. The teenagers from the Catholic School invited us to visit them in the evening. Was. A man as having a chat with Muslim Students in the school yard that bothered by the fence to. The office. But when animals killing each other that this scandal is unnecessary and it harms the children. In the Muslim Students go to their favorite cafe just a few streets away. From. The. Bosnian home to bosnia and muslims Bosnian Croat its and Bosnian Serbs but they tend to live in different neighborhoods most of them say their ethnic backgrounds hardly play a role in their everyday lives anymore but mixed family is a still ran. The main thing separating the three ethnicities in bosnia is religion bosniaks a muslim the croats a catholic and the serbs are all the dogs there seems to be no way to bridge the divide. Am i now always used to go to this cafe with her friends to. A man im a identify with her religion but like the students she feels like a nice. Gentle cowboy you know when people in our country say that serbs are croats i think thats strange my friend here says hes a troll which is fine but whats he doing in bosnia then i think it would be good if we all saw ourselves as bosnia. And your religion should be a product that it shouldnt be an obstacle when it comes to friendship ball love. But only if we cling on to these differences because the hangovers from the war as soon as you talk about a different nationality all religion of what many think of the war. He doesnt belong to me like that i should keep away from me im waiting its hard to influence stop thinking its still war. Which if it is really. Does the wall make romantic relationships between muslims Bosnian Serbs and croats impossible even two decades later. Im a less says there are such couples she tries to get a friend of hers whos in a mixed relationship to talk about it on camera but she wont. Listen if. I think people always struggle to talk about it the reason for that could be that weve not really confronted our post at all nobody in bed is any guilt for the war were all victims as. Would a woman us with but only other hand were all perpetrators too unlike the germans we dont have a serbian croatian or muslim the lead band who got down on his knees and accepted all the blame and. Im alone is a bookkeeper at the university she lives in the center of town with her family a predominantly muslim neighborhood that hasnt always been the case before the war her parents lived in the suburbs of traffic. On the way to her former parental home even the road signs show which ethnic group is in the majority where. The towns name written in serbian cyrillic script has been crossed out Bosnian Croat and now the dominant group here most of them are catholic. During the war in one thousand nine hundred two m. L. And her parents fled to germany she was eight at the time after the war they decided to go back. Thats all young are today this is it in one nine hundred ninety seven we wanted to return home we didnt know if it was Still Standing or whether it had been destroyed maybe someone else was living in it when we arrived everything was fine my father spoke to a man who was living in the house at the time. Bam bam. Bam. This was not a good chance of not to touch one of this is where we arrived and parked the car my father got out people were sitting here one of them introduced himself and said that he was the owner of the building quire boxes of it ive lost nic which he went indoors and came out again with a gun he pointed it out as and said that if we didnt leave hed shoot at us said no to mother chassell so. Now boyd says some of you im not fearful maybe im naive just like my parents were before the war but it was an ugly situations with me i dont know how aware we were of it all as children in one thousand nine hundred ninety seven that we thought it was strange that al heron started crying watching. Twenty years after this encounter she rings the bell again. But not the song hello my name is emily i used to live here i wanted to see who lives here today and if we could look around if thats ok. How do you want to look around. Wed like to come in and oh yeah more of we bought the house ten years ago we lived up there and because we didnt want to pay rent anymore we bought it in a particular school. That was immoral thats what my parents thought at the time too they were tenants but in one thousand nine hundred they bought the plot my sister was born in the living room here she lives in turkey now and not. The woman doesnt know the previous occupier the man who threatened imus father with a gun she doesnt want to talk about the war years either its best to forget she says but she acquired the house legally. Although they did get financial compensation her parents still havent got over the loss of their house people say theyve dealt with a lot of the past but when probed even am allowed shows they havent really forgotten. That. The. The animal is waiting for her husband and. Her. One more on home. Own more. Families parents wanted her to marry a muslim and they were happy without him. Has. Less involved i do miss him in mom in traveling he prays five times a day its his job. Fish. Different from. The two have been married for seven years farris was born five years ago. Fourth of. July. Twelfth. Had. Come i dont think it was obvious to my parents that id marry a muslim i cant say i was happy or unhappy it was just taken for granted i would be one if disappointed doesnt get. The foam which is of. The spirit was also clear to me that id marry a muslim. So. That she was that his father and grandfather were in moments too. Much and yet in. Thursdays market day in traffic but m. L. R. Really manages to shop here she has to work six days a week. The average wage in bosnia is four hundred euros a month but few people in travelling and that much she says. I mean or says we should visit the Military Cemetery behind the market why she does her shopping. The headstones theyre all tell us. Story the dead were all in their mid twentys when they died four hundred Seventy Eight of them are buried in this cemetery alone. War veterans meet a regularly. This is member lived in smite age hes a forty one year old muslim who lost almost all of his friends in the war he was just sixteen when he joined the buzz net forces. We were still in touch somewhat with our neighbors during the war we met up when there was no fighting we drank coffee and then we all picked up our guns and took sides again wouldnt the war wasnt about ordinary people it was for the politicians. This muslim man married a serbian orthodox woman shortly after the war much to the annoyance of his father in law who fought on the serb side. When he shot at me and i shot at him not doesnt mean i have to hate him i dont hate anybody but when the time comes that a man points a gun at you the time comes when you have to point one back at him and kill him. Normal people come to madge and not until theyre in that situation themselves as i was going to just live through them sit with us and. We visit never a dinner at home he lives just a few minutes from the cemetery together with his wife and their seven year old daughter. Will. Never again has no contact with his serbian father in law hes only ever seen him once when he picked up his wife theres been radio silence ever since. A bit of a problem for the war mixed families were normal. There werent any straits that didnt have at least one mixed couple and one that we never paid attention to that bosnia background. Only guy couldnt tell croatia you know serbian names upon which of. The war may be in the past but its still a big problem for mixed couples. They still fear they could have to choose sides if a conflict between the ethnic groups flares up again. Were back with im allowed scientists school she believes that bosnia could become one country even if the ethnic groups dont intermarry. But most of the plot we have to say unity in diversity means we have our differences and we have to tolerate them. On it you know. What about the students in the school today. Its evening weve agreed to meet gabriella and natalia. Who are the students go to the same bars and clubs they will know each other but do they ever fall in love or even marry. Back at the school gabrielle and natalia i dont read he said it was normal for every ethnic group to have his own view of history. In the evening they tell us how difficult it can become when friendships become more serious. Im. A man i have a friend shes catholic shes been with a muslim for eight months ive asked i am a flame but they have to hide because of their families its not about whether they love each other but about what people will say yes he said but ive never any such thoughts and thats the biggest problem in bosniaherzegovina and i think that will continue for many years at the feast but. The. Boys join the girls its a normal evening. This cafe doesnt serve alcohol because its mainly frequented by muslims. Which if you spend a bit of time you get to recognise each other you know right away whos what ethnicity and whos what faith is thats why its unlikely youll fall in love with someone of a different one. Of so that if that happens youll risk losing your familys trust over a boy and then. Never mind how strong your feelings are you have your family. Thats how we were raised. Island if your embassy was. We tell them that we can be friends but nothing more held out the cause that we should suffer. Anyway after an evening in the bar would would have got round among the families. Now now now now its the sunday service in the village of gora which is largely inhabited by both named programs. And now. This is the way gabrielle wants to preserve her. She intends to stay with her own and avoid any romantic entanglements with muslims. Here. Which is exactly what her mother wants to. Talk to. You. What. You. Just. Did it was just a might even if it. Was it was actually over to me with love only. When we look back at the old you via the states goal was to integrate the Christian Muslim and serbian communities its the in the back where they wanted to create a nation of uga sloes but it was impossible the people rejected it. Was crazy was it it was that it. Was. A divided school in a divided country. What does the future hold for im melissa on fatahs when his parents tell him who he can marry. And are soon and what if your son wanted to marry a Catholic Church what sort of. Everybody. You are. I wouldnt allow it. To. Our faith says she has to be a muslim. And ella. Doesnt but. If they wanted to meet up and go out i wouldnt mind but if they wanted to get married i wouldnt want that he shouldnt marry someone with different values to as his nephew an idea nice to get. That he could have a lot of problems in his marriage i see that all the time would the child be baptized i want my child to get married and i want grandchildren one day it could stand up it was the dominant one not that there would be a lot of conflict at the very latest over the baptism question but i dont want him growing up with problems like that. Naturally i asked if. The school fence bothers i met a young of it but the walls live on in private lives too. The war changed people. Who knows if love will ever transcend those nears ethnic divisions. Euro max this weeks highlights. One where is when your adventure speed right through the swiss alps. Wondrous winter landscape the snow village in northern chile. Wondrous twenty years from to go seventy five years of hell of a six. Year old next on d w. In malaysia pictures are breaking down while the islamic world around him is dubious of malaysian painter ahmad saki on the money and the courage that he has to draw on things that are not needed to get correct and the second names that are supposed to be the good muslims will not do bad i think its a good balance to him the edge of. G. W. How to cover more than just one reality. Where i come from you have a transatlantic way of looking at things thats because my father is from germany my mother is from the United States of america and so i realized really early that it makes sense to explain different realities and now here at the heart of the European Union in brussels we have twenty eight different realities and so i think people are really looking for any new journalist they can trust for them to make sense of this. 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