bathroom, you know, you girls hurry up in there. you know he would always make those, you know, like joking comments >> reporter: that's got to start to get on your nerves? >> at times it did but he always dismissed it as, i want to get to know you. lynn loves you i want to love you like lynn does i want to know who this, you know, crazy woman that she loves. >> reporter: but when harold wouldn't let lynn go to kim's wedding, even after kim offered to help pay for the trip, kim felt like she'd really lost her best friend. >> she called me and said, i can't come and i said why can you tell me why. and she said, i need to honor my husband. and that's all she would say >> reporter: kim thought lynn was okay doing what harold said, because she believed that was her role as the perfect christian wife there was some awe to the fact that she really did honor her husband. she would never speak negative about him. so i always looked at her and