right now so it's something that has to be done in order to try to separate myself from the debt that he's accrued. >> in october 2005, a little over a year after her husband literally jumped ship, michelle filed for bankruptcy. >> the person that i fell in love with, the person that i knew for five years, that person certainly was a soul mate and a best friend to me. this person who would leave behind such devastation in his wake, i don't know who he is. >> with the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, michelle told us she should have seen the signs of trouble coming. mark was sometimes distant. he could be rude, even abusive to people he deemed his social inferiors. but the summer of 2004, a few months before mark disappeared, seemed to be the real turning point. michelle was pregnant. >> both of us could not have been happier at that moment. those good feelings lasted for a couple weeks. and then i had to go to hawaii for an apa conference that i was presenting at. >> presenting at the american psychological association that july was a prestigious honor for