>> what do you think the relationship you have with robert does for you while you're in prison? >> it teaches me to be strong. it teaches me to be a better person. it teaches me to know how to love at a distance and it teaches me self-respect. >> ernest was somewhat anomalous for me, particularly at corcoran prison, because it is a very hardcore, somewhat brutal prison at times. and here's ernest, all he wanted to talk about was this man he was in love with and the joy it brought him. >> people have the wrong understanding about homosexuality. you know, they think it's all about having sex. they think it's all about in a bed. it's not. it's not. it's about loving somebody. because you do something different then society