>> that was one big red flag for me and maybe the leading one that kept me going because i knew there would be no way that my brother would ever have left his daughter. ever. >> at the he jeep dealership where mike had worked for ten years, his name was rarely mentioned in conversation. >> after three or four years of mike being gone, it didn't come up too much anymore. >> we knew he was sick. we didn't really know if he was still in a hospital somewhere or if he had actually just passed away from his illness. >> his tools were no longer lying there unused. ellen's son michael was using them. he had followed in mike's shoes and had become a mechanic as well. and on those rare occasions where ellen would come by the shop where mike had once worked, his old colleague dave seiler would ask -- >> have you heard from mike? and she would say no. there just seemed to be no concern for mike. she was just, like, no, i haven't seen mike. >> it's often said that the happiest and saddest of occasions are what bring families together. and when mike's family gathered together to mourn the death of