horrible, it was horrible. once they took the ventilator off, probably less than three minutes and she was dead. it was horrible. >> reporter: deb says her family was shattered. >> you never heal from this ever. ever. you grieve and you're angry. and then you grieve, but you never get over it. >> reporter: and with the grief came the rumblings of suspicion. no one believed dana had been killed in an accident, deb says. and some people in the family openly wondered whether dana's boyfriend, toby, father to baby brittany, might have hurt dana. the relationship was a rocky one. >> it was kind of like a -- a can't live with you, can't live without you type of relationship. >> reporter: toby certainly caught the wary eye of detective bratton. the boyfriend refused to talk to him in the hospital waiting room. >> he learned i was a detective. "i ain't talkin' to you. i don't need to talk to you." he started walking away from me. so i latch onto him.