more aggressive in my defense than they may need to be or should be. it is hard on your friends. one of your very best friends that i communicate with at least every week, if not more so, i remember her saying one time, it's really hard being your friend. i take everything personally. well, we have been friends since sixth grade. so yeah, she does take everything so personally. i do have a lot of my women friends who are, you know, they see something like yesterday with 11 hours and they're e-mailing me like crazy. like get a massage. can you take tomorrow off, all of that. i have great friends, and some of them are known publicly and some of them are totally private. but i would not have a no new friends rule, but i would certainly be a little bit -- i take my time to decide is somebody, as you say, just