>> one of my best friends in the world, her husband has been the dad who does the bathtime every night. i mean, forever. every time we tell that story, he's the best father. and i'm thinking when i bathe my child no one thinks that makes me a good mother. they think that's ordinary. almost a way when fathers participate almost a one plus that they give for that. >> chris rock has that joke where if a man and he can stay out of jail, he wants a medal. you're a good parent whether you're a father or a mother. we have this huge changing demographic. we have to shift our mentality around the fact that a parent is a parent and a person that it's not necessarily tied to gender. if you are a good father, you're a good parent and then you should be there you should be supportive and all those sort of things. but to really make it this kind of father, mother gender issue. to your point, i sat there and i gave the baths. that's being a dad. that's being a parent.