rewards. it isn't an average parenting book, it is about being a parent. jennifer, like i said, i am one of seven. i don't know how my parents have done it. one take away being older is that every child is extremely different. my oldest sister was a complete angel. i was a nightmare, there i am, i made a huge mess, blamed it on my older sister. >> you don't know for a fact you were a nightmare. >> my mom bought a book how to handle the terrible twos, it was so problematic. >> the other six weren't terrible? you were the terrible one? >> they were all different. i think i was the hardest. you talked to so many parents. is that a common theme that every child is different that you can't prepare yourself? >> that's interesting, and you're the first person to ask me that. >> i am not even a parent. >> but it is interesting because getting a kid's perspective, somebody that hasn't had kids who will talk about this, yes, how a parent's personality intersects with a particular child is a big deal.