out in 2000 to us, to my wife and me, we just affirmed him and said we love you, son, and we believe that you were made in the image of god, just like everybody es. especially given the fact that he had considered suicide at one point after he prayed to god to make him quote/unquote normal, to take, you know, this away from him and it didn't happen. he considered suicide. he shared those stories with us and there were so much tears and we just affirmed them and said, look, this is not a choice, you didn't choose to be homosexual. so this is the way god made you. you're beautiful in the image of god. that's the way you are. so when he asked me to perform his wedding, there was no way i was going to say no to him. because that would have negated all those affirmations all these year. >> you could have avoided a trial had you agreed never to