last month in windsor where the court said the federal government could not single out gay couples for stigma and disadvantage. after the ruling, two arkansas couples went to their clerk's office and asked for a marriage license and they made sure they got turned down. rita jurnagen, the taller one, retired from the little rock schools after teaching math for almost 30 years. facing the very concrete nuts and bolts reality, that because she lives in arkansas, she cannot leave her retirement pay to pam. in the clerks office that day when they went to apply for the marriage license, the clerk's office let them fill out the form. they couldn't have been any nicer. people in the department cheered them on even as they turned them down. this month in ohio, which is another state that bans gay couples from marrying, two ohio men left their home state of ohio and went to get married in maryland. and they were in a hurry, because one of the men is dying.