almost all know someone who is currently serving or has served. what is something that we might not know about life in a military family that you really think we should? >> well, one thing i did not know growing up as i said, really ignorant of military families. i had a lot of stereo types. i figured military member were robots who followed orders and their spouses were stepford wives buff military families are as diverse as the rest of the country. they're republicans, democrats, all religions, i mentioned the military spouse of the year award. one of the installation awards went to two female spouses. the female spouse of a female officer at ft. bragg. so military spouses are incredibly unique. you can't make any generalizations about them. and that was the biggest lesson for me since i married into the military. >> in addition to your book you've been writing about the