it's abuse and control. >> right. but for them it is real love because it is what they've been told is love. love hurts. >> i guess after being in that life for so long that it was all right to be his punching bag or his sex object or whatever or just a person that he sold to everybody else. >> because you valued yourself so little. >> because i didn't know no better, and at the time i didn't care. i just wanted to live. >> and how did you finally get out of that life altogether? >> alternatives for girls. >> in 2008, a friend urged tina to seek help from alternatives for girls. >> the minute i came in from work, i was ready to get beat up. >> there she found compassion, community and for the first time in her life unconditional acceptance. >> i like it.