if they were married and only when they were over 30. it is the same naivety that gave way for my dad, being a citizen when he arrived here in 1956, but refused by landlords and proclaimed no blacks, no irish, it entrenched who we were, who our friends could be and what our lives could become. this is not separate but equal. it is separate and discriminated. separate and oppressed. separate and browbeated and separate and subjugated. so let us be rid of it. as long as there is one rule for us and another for them, we allow the barriers of acceptance to go unchallenged. as long as our statute books suggest that love between two men and two women are not worthy of marriage we allow homophobia to fester. >> oscar wilde was released from prison at the age of 42.