holds this military together is that you do the right thing when no one is watching, and, boy, i talked to some drill sergeants this afternoon who were saying like how are we supposed to teach young recruits to do the right thing when no one is looking when these guys at the top weren't doing that. it's a real tragedy. >> yeah, and i think -- tell me about the culture of the military. i mean, i'm watching it from outside, and i'm thinking, generals and their wives spend a lot of times together socializing. they have drinks, parties that go on for hours i assume because the pressure of the military life and the danger of it. they become intimate across marriage lines. the fact they're all hanging around together hours after hours. love affairs could start. potentially people could develop fondnesses for each other. i can see it happening in human terms. what is it about generals and generals wives and all this e-mailing? what is this thing about? >> don't forget -- >> is it unique to the military? >> don't forget generals are often deployed into a war zone and the wives are not.