enshrined since i was 18. the only marriage trouble i face certain grandmothers are hinting. >> time for mother's day to be more exciting. >> i should exercise that sooner than later. we're talking about voting on people's personal lives, yes, but in an incredibly public way. marriage has always been a public expression of a private institution. but that doesn't mean that the public gets a say in what we do in our private lives. >> obviously i felt quite emotional about this in part, thinking about how enslaved people were kept from being able to marry as a matter of policy. if you're enslaved, biggest problem isn't marriage, biggest problem is fundamental human freedom. the fact people tried to find ways to create marriage in the context of intergenerational channeled slavery tells me marriage must be important. >> what's going on with the african-american community, if you think of post civil war,