gaddy to take over leadership of the gambino family. frank cali is dead. police still looking for his killer. steve: robert you, thanrobert, . brian: forgot about the mob good to know they are still killing each other, i guess. if you are under pressure dealing with difficult people at home or at work or even social media listen up. next guest marine corps veteran sharing his secrets for mental toughness for you. also an emotional intelligence expert eric gritmeyer is here. can we learn how to be tough without enlisting. >> anybody can become mentally tough. brian: break it up to four categories. number one when it comes to feelings, you say don't let your feelings get in the way. what are you talking about. >> unfortunately a lot of the people gut instinct for any type of situation is to let the emotions get the best of them. they respond emotionally. when you respond emotionally to a situation unfortunately you will do something you probably regret doing. brian: when someone attacks