help them all the time. >> well, when people read in making children mind that lehman says praise structure with children. they think i have a screw loose. five a's come home on report card. here is your traditional authoritarian based parents five a's. i'm going to call uncle jack and aunt martha. we are so excited. honey, i'm so proud of you. here is $20. now people say hey, lehman, what's wrong with that. let me give you a better way. wow, five a's. all that hard work you put in really paid off. congratulations. high five. steve: less pressure. brian: also have you made it about them. not about you. you are calling you want to brag because you are a good parent. >> parents will pay kids for grades. really. let me ask you all a personal question this morning. would you. how many of have you gone potty this morning? steve: huh? >> potty, have you gone potty this morning, steve? steve: what does that mean. >> give you m and m for going. we fabricate all these