in something that gives you pleasure, you can be bullied and you can be victimized. and the women that i know that are the most unhappy are those women who said, "oh, gee, the measure of my success is marrying a rich guy who can take care of me. and then, well, time goes by, they get older you could be married 50 years and your schmuck of a husband decides he's now in love with a yoga instructor, right? and all of a sudden you find yourself out on your keyster. you have to have something of your own. you have talked a lot about beauty fading a lot in your life. and that the important thing is what you got up here. beauty fades, dumb is forever. but you care about beauty. my father used to say, "if you have the choice of looking good and feeling good, choose looking good." because if you have a healthy ego,