in my family the message was you don't seem that special -- [laughter] harris: oh! megyn: and that's fine. if you prove us different, we're open minded to that. harris: go do something that sets you apart. megyn: that kept me humble, and my mother is only too happy to help. harris: you got to get deep in here to get to settle for more, but before that, what does having it all mean to you? megyn: well, it depends on who you are, but for me it means feeling connected to the people who make me me, you know? i love my job, and i would be upset if i got fired tomorrow, but it doesn't define me. harris: i'm with you on that. megyn: it's what i do, not who i am. i'm a person, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend. those are the things that define me, and those are the things i hold on to during tough times. you know, not really my job. it would be a blow to my ego to lose it, but it wouldn't change who i am. right? anyway, on the settle for more