harris: what are the characteristics of a leader that takes ownership, if you will? >> what "extreme ownership" is you have to own everything in the world. no one to blame. no excuses that you make. you have to own everything that affects your mission. leader, whether you're in charge of a whole bunch of people or whether in charge of yourself and your little piece of a mission, if you take ownership, acknowledge mistakes and failures, come up with a solution, that is the recipe for success. we find that, not only see leaders doing the best and make r most successful out in the business world but even in life. it applies to parenting. it applies to being a spouse. sandra: can you go to washington for a while to help these guys? >> he is going next week. i will have my husband go. makes sense in washington. how does it apply to parenting, i'm curious? >> if you're trying to get your kids to do something you need them to do. i have one-year-old so tough to explain to him. harris: look at that.