now this person who objected to all this, it is probably true, the 45-year-old did take notice of this, obviously what he did was wrong, everyone on the planet knows it is wrong but the truth hurts -- >> most of the teapots are rubber or whenever, why do they have a tee putt that could do that anyway? >> why are we talking about this? is it seems -- >> the conversation. >> not to get too deep this is the larger conversation about actions between. and women at a time of violence against women and hair pulling not being no candle libel say is this, there is a lot of very confusing messages out there when books like 50 shades of gray makeover a billion dollar franchise, based on the idea men -- i am putting it out there. >> i will say this quickly.